Youāre doing a very thankless endeavor. Donāt expect sheāll be glad ā you stuck with her, and for herā ā¦ wonāt happen. Eventually sheāll leave or sheāll break you so badly, youāll be a walking doormat. Itās either those or youāll do the necessary, leave and draw boundaries based on respect and order. Accepting behaviors and assuaging yourself that youāll ā manageā them is like feeding a crocodile and hoping it wonāt eat you. Itāll simply grow bigger and strongerā¦. And less afraid of you . She sees you as not worth her respect
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I think am not immature enough to accept this reality, ā¦ i need time to be honest,i need to make baby step on this
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Bro she has complex pstd due to lack coming from a broken home and lacking a father.These caused her to have daddy issues ,fear of abandonment, she is always be anxious and insecure.Also she will get attached to a partner who is emotionally not available
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Exactly what I have as a wife. Mine has bipolarā¦make sure she goes for therapy. Make sure you have a mpango.
I work far, so when she has moods, narudi to my thingira to eat fine meat. Usiogope akususpect u r cheating.
When she is having tantrums, avoid her. Silent treatment huwachoma kama Moto ya petrol. I once blocked her for 2 weeks, she sent friends to look for me and begged to never block her. She cooled down and behaved.
Set boundariesā¦clear boundaries for everyone involved with her. Her family, her friends.
Akitoroka usimuendee, atarudishwa Tu ā¦hata wazazi wake wanajuaā¦she is chaotic. Make it clear to her, she will have a co wife juu ya maisha ya uzeeni .
Have no joint assets. So that when she wants to leave ni kwenda Tu. Mine keeps on saying juu ya majuu ā¦akienda let her go. Start again.
A man can start again even at 60ā¦but you shouldnāt be dealing with her alone have an extra woman by your side. Just treat her good but donāt entertain nonsense. She lacked love while growing up, and becomes insecure if she lacks little of it. Donāt be attached in anyway to her. Detach kabisa, they attach where neglected and not given attention
There is a way karma gets back to them. The things they think are important keeps on crashingā¦Kama ni biashara inampea jotoā¦inacollapseā¦I short misplaced priorities.
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Thats why Kibaki alikua na bipolar wife Lucy kibaki(remember standard raid) na mpango wa kandoā¦kienyeji semi illiterate wambui.
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Jamaa, I think youāve described someone I schooled with . Mkamba with two kids?
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Thatās ok. With time youāll get there. My only advice is to make sure you actually live to get thereā¦ youāre walking on quicksand.
This so true, having soft meat outside its the one makes me tolerate her behaviour and show her love, ā¦and after this post i have noted its a disorder of bipolar, i never knew its name but i knew she was not mentally well some days