This post is gonna be unlike anything I have posted here. It’s personal, very personal.
It comes from Byro’s post on Laboso’s homosexual son.
My last born daughter (NOT SON, remember the MSiM?) is 16 years old. A beautiful, bloody intelligent angel. We don’t live together because she’s the product of a MWK. She attends a good school in Nairobi where they are even allowed to have phones on some hours of the day and weekends.
Any way, like any father I have in the past surreptitiously gone through her phone when she visits. Just to snoop around to see she ain’t getting into those dark web sites where she could be a victim of a paedophile ring.
What I have noticed is that she has no single friend that’s a boy, despite the fact that her school is mixed. When I am with her she doesn’t even mention a single boy’s name, only gals. Her pages are full of her and her galfriends hugging and pecking.
On her FB page, her profile picture is of her getting a peck! When I asked she simply said that that is her best friend, and let the picture stay (in my day, if my dad asked me about anything like that, I would get rid of it!).
Byro’s post has given me a sleepless night. It has awakened in me the very deep fears of a father of a teenage gal - what if my daughter is gay? What if, six years from now she came to me and said, 'Dad, meet Jean, my husband".
Am I over-thinking/reacting to simple pictures by a teenage gal who is living in the age of tech? I want the likes of @Guru and @Mrs4thletter to pitch in, seriously.
Am I, by being a long-distance father, the one to blame if she turns gay? Perhaps I made her lose confidence in men by not being there?
Jesus, sweetheart, do you know how much your dad’s afraid? Please, please just turn out to be a normal gal. I really don’t care even if you get pg at 19. Please, sweetheart, please!
Am I being paranoid?
PS: That story of Laboso’s son has truly traumatised me.
