The Fears of a Father

uwesmake · January 20, 2018, 9:53am

umbwa ghassia takataka

FieldMarshal_CouchP · January 20, 2018, 9:53am

@introvert, hii passive-aggressive approach yako ya ku-like matusi directed at me…bomoa the closet useme unataka kunipa kunyii tuone tutakusaidia vipi. Shenji!:eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D! Chisos!

Mzee_mzima · January 20, 2018, 9:53am

Sasa juu nimkupata ndo uko na machungu hivi??? :D:D You can’t fool everyone

uwesmake · January 20, 2018, 9:58am

umbwa muzee yaani uko petty mpaka unaangalia nani ame like matusi umepewa , jinga kabisa yafaa uwe mumama

kijanamrefu · January 20, 2018, 9:59am

She’s most likely aware that you snoop around her phone and things. She’s therefore avoiding the boy questions coming from you or the mother therefore she only shows you what she assumes you want to see. (This happens with kids who’s parent/parent comes across as very single minded and judgmental).

A sixteen year old girl is much smarter than you’d think. Tuliza boli.

system · January 20, 2018, 10:02am

Ng’ombe.
Watu was sugar belt tunaappreciate matusi saidi (ofcourse well moderated).
Wewe kwanza mutu akikutusi nasikianga kama nimepiga sip ya cham in a smoke filled environment.
Saitan.

system · January 20, 2018, 10:05am

Yeah parenthood can suck. I’ve a colleague at work whose 14 year old son was expelled this week from music school because of pointing his violin at his classmates and chanting ‘Allahu Akbar.’ It was just a silly joke but in this day and age, nothing is taken lightly anymore. Now that incident is on his record and his parents are being forced to take him to a child psychiatrist for mental evaluation, before he can be admitted to another school. His mom, my colleague, was extremely frustrated at work wishing she could quit being his parent. However, once you become a parent you have essentially signed up for a lifetime of worry. You will fret about your kids then your grandkids and so on. It never ends til the day you die.

Guka, you could be overthinking or maybe your concerns are valid. As her dad, you are the most important man in her life. Are you a wimp? No. Then talk to your daughter plain and clear what you think about life and relationships etc. You need to open your mouth and talk without fear. Cut the moral equivalency BS and tell her you don’t approve of homosexuality. Obviously don’t accuse her without facts, just talk to her in general terms. Parents also need to instill resilience in their children. I was reading a story in the dailies about an 11 year old boy who committed suicide after losing a betting game. Apparently there’s been a spate of suicides in young pre-teens and teens in Kenya. What happened to kids that they can’t handle any negative emotions? Something small happens and they are ready to jump over the cliff. When I was growing up, our parents told us people who commit suicide go straight to hell so we never thought of doing something that crazy. The problem today is parents are not talking to their children, they are just hoping their kids will magically turn out fine. They won’t. You have immense power over their destiny by speaking life and purpose into them, so do it!

pimpin5000hoes · January 20, 2018, 10:07am

Usijali boss. It also could be that your daughter is shy when it comes to the opposite sex. You may be over thinking. If you brought her up well, then you have nothing to worry about. But then again, you were not around.

FieldMarshal_CouchP · January 20, 2018, 10:08am

He he he he he he! Sawa. Have your orgasms on my account lakini usiniweke kwa gunia ya wiki…

pimpin5000hoes · January 20, 2018, 10:09am

Purple:

Yeah parenthood can suck. I’ve a colleague at work whose 14 year old son was expelled this week from music school because of pointing his violin at his classmates and chanting ‘Allahu Akbar.’ It was just a silly joke but in this day and age, nothing is taken lightly anymore. Now that incident is on his record and his parents are being forced to take him to a child psychiatrist for mental evaluation, before he can be admitted to another school. His mom, my colleague, was extremely frustrated at work wishing she could quit being his mom. However, once you become a parent you have essentially signed up for a lifetime of worry. You will fret about your kids then your grandkids and so on. It never ends til the day you die.

Guka, you could be overthinking or maybe your concerns are valid. As her dad, you are the most important man in her life. Are you a wimp? No. Then talk to your daughter plain and clear what you think about life and relationships etc. You need to open your mouth and talk without fear. Cut the moral equivalency BS and tell her you don’t approve of homosexuality. Obviously don’t accuse her without facts, just talk to her in general terms. Parents also need to instill resilience in their children. I was reading a story in the dailies about an 11 year old boy who committed suicide after losing a betting game. Apparently there’s been a spate of suicides in young pre-teens and teens in Kenya. What happened to kids that they can’t handle any negative emotions? Something small happens and they are ready to jump over the cliff. When I was growing up, our parents told us people who commit suicide go straight to hell so we never thought of doing something that crazy. The problem today is parents are not talking to their children, they are just hoping their kids will magically turn out fine. They won’t. You have immense power over their destiny by speaking life and purpose into them, so do it!

Kwani unabadilishanga sex kama weather?
Lakini hapo umeongea…

system · January 20, 2018, 10:11am

I disagree vehemently.
Sure sometimes it’s challenging. Unluckily for that boy,you live in a community where nowadays some words are just censored.

@FieldMarshal CouchP .
You are a proud father of a beautiful and INTELLIGENT gurl.Embrace that and remember,she is still a young girl trying to discover herself.

Remember,we also passed through that stage ( girls mostly)

Eng_iti · January 20, 2018, 10:24am

Rink

shocks · January 20, 2018, 10:25am

Rink ya nini?

Eng_iti · January 20, 2018, 10:30am

ya io story ya Journalist wa Nairobi Aviation

Swansea · January 20, 2018, 10:32am

Hehehehehe :D:D:D

Ulihama Mzee ama tukuchangie? :D:D:D

shocks · January 20, 2018, 10:33am

This is How Low Our Media Has Sunk............Somebody Please Take a Screenshot and Post Here... - General - Kenya Talk

Kangal · January 20, 2018, 10:34am

This post is gonna be unlike anything I have posted here. It’s personal, very personal.

It comes from Byro’s post on Laboso’s homosexual son.

My last born daughter (NOT SON, remember the MSiM?) is 16 years old. A beautiful, bloody intelligent angel. We don’t live together because she’s the product of a MWK. She attends a good school in Nairobi where they are even allowed to have phones on some hours of the day and weekends.

Any way, like any father I have in the past surreptitiously gone through her phone when she visits. Just to snoop around to see she ain’t getting into those dark web sites where she could be a victim of a paedophile ring.

What I have noticed is that she has no single friend that’s a boy, despite the fact that her school is mixed. When I am with her she doesn’t even mention a single boy’s name, only gals. Her pages are full of her and her galfriends hugging and pecking.

On her FB page, her profile picture is of her getting a peck! When I asked she simply said that that is her best friend, and let the picture stay (in my day, if my dad asked me about anything like that, I would get rid of it!).

Byro’s post has given me a sleepless night. It has awakened in me the very deep fears of a father of a teenage gal - what if my daughter is gay? What if, six years from now she came to me and said, 'Dad, meet Jean, my husband".

Am I over-thinking/reacting to simple pictures by a teenage gal who is living in the age of tech? I want the likes of @Guru and @Mrs4thletter to pitch in, seriously.

Am I, by being a long-distance father, the one to blame if she turns gay? Perhaps I made her lose confidence in men by not being there?

Jesus, sweetheart, do you know how much your dad’s afraid? Please, please just turn out to be a normal gal. I really don’t care even if you get pg at 19. Please, sweetheart, please!

Am I being paranoid?

PS: That story of Laboso’s son has truly traumatised me.

How long were you in her life ? Were you always there for her ? Were you are rolemodel for her ? Your conclusion is based on her phone contacts and fb pics. Dont judge her too soon. As a parent be frank and ask if she has boyfreind or met someone. It wont hurt better to know now than later. At the end of the day she is your flesh and you have to be there for her no matter what.

system · January 20, 2018, 10:34am

In high school nilileta msichana nyumbani while the parents were away, waliporudi na kusikia mushene ile masomo nilipewa, wacha tu, was told nisake kwangu nipeleke wasichana. After form 4 nilikuwa nimetulia sitaki story mob wakaanza tena ati kwani wewe huongei na wasichana?

FieldMarshal_CouchP · January 20, 2018, 10:43am

He he he he he! Nichangie priss! Niweke paybill?

shocks · January 20, 2018, 10:43am

Unge wa wa guilt trip, waambie after ile msomo ulibadilisha njia.
After high school a friend immediately got studs, one time akapitia home, of course majirani wakaambia mathee ati kuna jamaa wa studs alipitia hapa. Now, my parents generation believes watu wa studs ni gay. After a few days she asked me straight if my friend was gay, in other words pia alikuwa anauliza if I was gay. After kumuuliza where hiyo swali imetoka ndio akasema maneno ya studs then akaniambia nikate maneno ya huyo jamaa coz. watu wataanza kuongea.