I’ve seen some terrifying states women have been put into by their husbands and fathers of their children. Extreme anxiety that makes it impossible for them to do anything, that they need heavy sedation for days for them to be normal again. One woman got to such a bad place mentally because of extreme depression that she became catatonic. Like she has this blank stare like the walking dead.
Look! I don’t judge married women, single women, divorced women,sex workers or any other woman. I blame men for everything but at what point is enough enough ladies? Is being a single mother so scary you would rather die of psychosis than just leave. Of course I don’t have to struggle to leave a relationship because I have no physical ties to a man. I didn’t go through Kwaitu and a huge wedding Infront of everyone. Leaving is as easy for me as deciding I don’t want KFC so I am going to Galitos. It’s gotten so easy over time. I just block you and move on like how fast Kenyans move on so I can’t judge you. I’ve never been in your shoes. You want a complete home for your kids but if you die because of depression will your kids have a complete home then?
I usually believe that mothers should be more careful with their lives because their kids depend on them literally, mommy’s baby daddy’s maybe. You die your husband remarries in less than a year and your kids become a side note as the new woman has her own kids and takes over.
If there’s one thing I have learnt in this world is that the world would be such a different place if women just practiced self love coz sometimes I even wonder if y’all even love your kids . I understand the women who kill themselves with their kids. They may not love themselves enough to leave but they are not leaving the children behind to suffer.
It’s very hard but what about life isn’t hard? You have to choose your hard and pull yourself by the bootstrap coz you are a woman. A woman is a fighter,is resilient, can rise out of the ashes like a phoenix 
in ways that men never could. Just try. You can do it! If you can be in labour for 48 hours when a few hours of cramps and PMS makes me want to strangle someone, you can start over. If there’s a strong creature God created it is a woman. Nurture yourself back like you nurture your kids because this world is harsh with out a mother.