One with kids and another without, where is she buried? At her husband’s, her ancestral home or her baby daddy’s home for the kids sake. This is so complicated aki.
2nd frame can have someone traumatized for life if it is a close kin
if a lady is not legally married to either, then its her family parent(s) / siblings who bury her, or decide where she will be buried, and in most cases they will go with the man who is most loaded expecting that wata benefit