The past is a bucket of ashes. Nobody can change the past. Not even God. Do you know why you regret things later? It’s because you have grown. Now you see things differently. When you were a child you played with fire, if you got burnt, do you say, I wish I never played with fire? Hindsight is 20/20.There are no mistakes in life only lessons. When I was in a child I thought like a child but when I became a man I left childish things behind.
As a Christian I have a very strong conscience and I would often agonize about things I wish I had done better such as treat myself and others better. Then the Lord spoke to me through His Word, like how merciful is God? Satan is tormenting you with regrets and the Lord whispers with great tenderness a Word to silence the enemy.
2 Corinthians 7:10
When God makes you feel sorry enough to turn to him and be saved, you don’t have anything to feel bad about. But when this world makes you feel sorry, it can cause your death.
I thank God for everything I did wrong in my life,it helped me become more understanding, forgiving and compassionate, less judgemental about the failures/faults of others. It made me a more loving and caring person. I am very careful about how I treat people nowadays because I have regretted how I treated them earlier in my life without consideration and kindness . I have learned that God should be my first resort not my last. God really knows how to sort things out. I realised God is the most powerful Friend I have in high places. LOL.
I have learned that happiness is a choice and unhappiness is also a choice. If someone or something is making you unhappy deal with it, don’t just complain and become bitter. Ask God for help if you can’t let go. Choose to be a happy person. To interact positively with others. Enjoy and be grateful for what little or much you have. Your body is not a carcass eat nutritious food.Before putting anything in your body ask yourself, if I only had one car to take me through life 70,80,90,100,120 years would I put in it the things I put in my body? If the answer is no. You know what to do to that junk you are putting in your body.
In my 20s I saw people pursue very wreckless lifestyles they slept with lots of people and had kids with different men and some even caught incurable diseases and others died. Others stayed in toxic relationshits out of the fear of loneliness and started sleeping around and drinking out of frustrations and in the end they could not hold on anymore. The sooner a toxic situation is left the better don’t be left or fall into severe depression 20 years and 3 kids later. Love yourself enough to say no and to walk b4 you have invested too much in the relationship. Love whomever you want to but don’t allow them to ruin your life and your happiness. Life is too short to be miserable from avoidable circumstances. If it’s not working for you that’s the only reason you need to leave. What I learnt from watching all those experiences is that as invincible as you may feel in your twenties, you are still delicate as you were when you were a child, only that now, it’s you to parent yourself and protect yourself not your parents . You won’t find love by having sex and children and stds and aids by having sex with people who you are not married to. Nobody can love you more than you love yourself. Don’t become a love addict who is throwing your life, your health and everything to get your next high like a regular junkie on the streets btw there’s people who have ended up dead, on the streets and in Mathare because of blind love. Don’t fall for the time pressure, your biological clock, what if you die tomorrow and you have never had sex, it’s a lie from the pits of hell. Better to die a virgin with no children than go against what you know to be the right thing because your conscience will always bother you when you are on the wrong route no matter how noble your intentions may be. The road to hell is paved with good intentions. Live an honorable life even if you are the only one. Remember Elijah in the cave. There’s always a remnant, don’t be part of the crowd, be part of the remnant. The road to heaven is very narrow. It’s not for everyone it’s for the Chosen Few. Many are called but few are chosen.
Don’t look at all the trouble in the world and feel guilty or overwhelmed. As Mother Teresa said, think globally but act normally. There’s no point in going to children’s homes in December when you have never given your watchie a cup of hot coffee or some soup even when he’s having a cold. God doesn’t expect you to save the world. He expects you to be His face, hands and feet to those around you. That’s why He placed you there. That’s your assignment. Give your watchie food. Buy your househelp a towel if she did not come with one. Even buy her pads. People are very unkind to people who work for them then they be running to feed orphans in some far away places . Charity begins at home. Another thing that Pope Francis said when He was in Kenya, don’t send yourself, let God speak to you before you go out to help people. You are not assigned to everyone, even Jesus knew He was not sent to everyone. So since you didn’t call yourself don’t send yourself. Let God speak to you about who to help. In my 20s I was hyper active like that. With age I learned that I am on assignment and the assignment comes from the Lord. Not from my feelings. Or my friends. I have been of greater service to God when I let God lead me to the assignments He has for me than running around helter skelter . Going on every mission. He who began a good work in you will be faithful to not complete it but direct it and support it. God is just methodical and strategic like that. Cease from your labors and enter the Lord’s rest. On the same line, seek God for yourself. Many pastor’s are in business and they are charlatans. Christianity is a relationship not a religion. You do not need broker’s and go betweens. God is reachable through personal prayer. Avoid being manipulated by avoiding including 3rd parties in your relationship with God. That one lesson has saved me a ton of grief. God doesn’t need a 3rd party to talk to me or minister to me or hear me. God is omnipresent, He is not a reserve of a few men or women of God. And those posing as the gateway to God to take advantage of vulnerable people in desperate situations. Cultivate a personal relationship with God to avoid cunning false pastor’s.
There’s an atheist I love so much he’s called Pepe Mujica, he spent 11 years in solitary confinement. With not even a book. He says a human being rarely learns from others, he often learns from his own personal experience. He also speaks of consumerism. When I was younger I was a shopaholic, it still strikes me sometimes but not as much. I had such a shoe fetish that my father would call me Imelda Marcos. Things can never give you worth or happiness. Some people with every thing are very unhappy because they have everything but still do not feel fulfilled. God is the only source of true happiness. Not a man or a woman who hasn’t seen the best men and women betray and change and leave. Not children, some children have brought nothing but grief to their parents. Not possessions. Though it’s good to have them for the comfort and convenience just don’t become so attached to them that when you lose them you get a heart attack. Invest your heart and love and adoration in God. I assure you that you will never regret it. That is the only one thing in this world with 100% no regrets.