Understanding Suicide

Thanks for the call-out @Ka-Buda and teh rest, here is a very raw text I had a while back, nothing has changed at the moment.
Developing countries are at greater risk non communicable diseases than developed ones. So because the former do not have specific measures to deal with these diseases. One such disease is mental illness, which developing countries actually do not regard as a health concern.
Delving a little into mental health, let us look at an issue that is often swept under the carpet due to the associated taboo and stigma-SUICIDE

If attempting suicide in Kenya, pray to God it succeeds. Otherwise, you will be mocked, jeered, laughed at, beaten even, and stigmatized, often called ā€œyule alijaribu kujiuwaā€. Should the police get hold of you, be sure of prosecution for misdemeanour. That is Kenya, which is very unfortunate. Suicide should be a health concern

Suicide is the act of self-harm to cause death. Mostly it is a response to overwhelmingly overbearing emotional pain, hopelessness, feelings of unworthiness e.t.c Often people do not understand why someone would want to take their own life.


Predisposing factors to suicidal thoughts and attempted suicide

Please note; suicidal thoughts are common among most people, Kenyans included. In fact, more cases are now being reported of committed or attempted suicide among our youth and men in Kenya-due to middle age where a lot of challenges rise.Yes, most people have thought of suicide, hata wengine hapa Kijijini. Just that we feel it is too taboo to talk about. Yet, at the same time, more people are suffering, especially survivors. Okay, back to suicidal thoughts

Also known as suicidal ideation, they are divided into two;

a. passive which involves a desire to die without an actual plan, and

b. active suicidal ideation which is a great desire to visit the afterlife, including a meticulous plan of how that is to be exacted. Some can be planned to fail, some to succeed.

People at times attempt suicide, not to succeed but get through to someone. It is a call for help, for someone to listen to the pain and languish they are silently facing. Fruitful suicide could indicate one has seen death as the best alternative to the myriad of problems they are facing.
So, to some predisposing factors, or vulnerabilities.

  1. Environment-constant bombardment with repetitive negative life events and experiences leading to great stress that overwhelm one’s coping ability i.e grief, sexual abuse, financial problems, remorse, rejection, relationship breakup and unemployment. Availability of a means i.e gun, knife, rope

  2. Genetic inheritance-family history of mental illness or suicide, increases risk of suicidal thoughts. It is not a given though, even those without such history could think of and commit suicide

  3. Physical/health-depression or other mental illnesses/health conditions

Abnormally low levels of dopamine and serotonin, previous suicidal attempts, and the fact that you are a a man

Signs and symptoms
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[li]Feelings of hopelessness, despair, too much stress or depression[/li][li]Abnormal preoccupation with violence, dying and/or death[/li][li]Heightened state of anxiety or panic attacks and severe remorse, paranoia[/li][li]Changing personality, routine or sleep patterns, extreme mood swings[/li][li]Consuming (more) drugs, alcohol or other risky behaviour like reckless driving[/li][li]Getting affairs in order, mending fences with everyone, giving away valued possessions[/li][li]Getting hold of a gun, medications, or substances that could end a life[/li][li]Extreme self-criticism, self loathe, isolation from the world, reduced social activeness[/li][li]Psychomotor agitation - such as pacing around a room, wringing one’s hands, taking off clothing and putting it back on, and other such actions[/li][li]Saying goodbye to others as if it were the last time[/li][li]Seeming to be unable to experience pleasurable emotions from normally pleasurable life events such as eating, exercise, social interaction or sex[/li][li]Talking about killing oneself, expressing regret about being alive or ever having been born.[/li][li]Obsession with cleanliness, or not caring about one’s cleanliness[/li][/ol]
These are some of the things to look for and will often not occur alone. However, one of the surest things to look for is Depression and talking about killing oneself, or asking how it feels, in person or through the internet

Getting help
My mind my funk 22214 I personally recommend her since she’s been there and tried it

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Now that I have mentioned suicide, in future, there shall be something on mental illness
Kindly ask away should you have any queries.

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My brother tried to overdose on pills when he was in university but we got to him on time. The most overwhelming feeling I had was anger towards him because of what it did to my moms. I know there is a psychological component to it that means I should have been more empathetic towards him but it really broke my moms’ heart and she always comes first for me. I still feel angry when I think about it!

Very insightful

It is a long process, it does not just happen. Events happen in a way that it will lead to depression and eventually to suicide. It all happens at spiritual level or mind. Some people suffer from that which they can not describe, others are tormented by beings at night. They start blaming satan or God while the real enemy is a family member

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That number 6 under Signs and Symptoms: Is that what is happening to @Wakanyama. He is suddenly apologizing and forgiving everyone.

An eye opening read. Thanks man.

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Hoping your brother is well and mother has now healed, anger doesn’t help.
Instead, assuming he has opened up about what drove him to the wall, it is important to understand the circumstances around that. Once there, have a candid one on one chat, over time. Talk about how you value him and your mother, and how such an action made you feel.
It is about him, with everyone else involved in consideration

I try approach life with a … different view.

In this (and most other cases), I feel that one should take the time off their pity party to look at how their actions affect those around them. Like I said, I understand the psychological component that drives most to the point of suicide. However, I still find it to be a very selfish course of action.

If the situation is such that you cannot get any kind of help (which is very rare), I might make an exception. But today, most people can tell when they’re going through a rough patch and they have their pick of so many options when it comes to help.

In his case, my brother had 2 therapists he could have turned to even if he felt that his own immediate family was not understanding. At the same fvcking time, my moms was going through chemo!!! Who the fvck cannot stop feeling sorry for themselves long enough to feel sorry for a cancer patient WHO JUST HAPPENS TO BE THEIR OWN MOTHER?

It is normal to actually feel justified the way you do
Did he ever say what was wrong?

THANKS

There was this dude who went to the flyover around city stadium. His initial plan was to jump then to be run over by speeding ā€˜motis’, when he jumped the driver was quick to swerve and avoid hitting him, the dude fell flat on the tarmac then raia started slapping him and saying unprintable words until the cops came and took him to hosi.

There is a dude who came to our bank to ask for loan, after the usual paper work he was given. FFWD he defaulted, when we went the third time to his shop to talk about the modalities of paying, the guy excused himself that he was going to relieve himself, only later when we thought he had gone into hiding, someone found him dangling on the roof.
I have seen more than 20 loan defaulters committing suicide

And these are just statistics from one person…
wait…you are one of those banking guys???
hehe

haaaai!!! Wewe ni shylock

I’m worried about @Carbon …([SIZE=1]are you okay buddy?) [/SIZE]

@aviator KUJA HAPA

Kufanya nini?

break-up with his girlfriend

Aha, loss of love and intimacy for any teenager(13-22/23 years) when not dealt with properly can be fatal.
You’ve heard of the phrase ā€œlove is a drugā€?

i guess …

It’s a case of take the drug away and someone dies since they are at the point of psychological and physical dependence

am not ashamed to say i once thought about this taboo of a word called suicide. I was young in my first job, living large straight from campus then bam! company goes under due to mis-management, the situation didn’t hit me till the 3rd month when i had maxed out on my savings, ended up in large debts coz i was striving to keep my image rather than be conservative…job applications were hitting a brick wall and my family were on my neck with requests for harambees and school fees aid…i was so close to giving up until my pal who is now current wife stepped in and shook sense back into me…today i think about what if i had gone through with it, the pain I’d have caused to my folks, friends and family…its not worth it