Hawa watoto wamejionea in the name of polygamy but Mungu ni nani? @Finest wine come baby come.
At this point, only kamotho will ever tell us what went wrong. Side ya bibi tumejua yote. If we’re lucky. We’ll get the whole story one day.
I worry about these testimonies YB is dishing about his father. Some could argue that it is therapeutic but they had counselling offers which they turned down. The family has not healed and they will not heal anytime soom if they keep talking about it. Esp Virginia. That is how I feel. They still love their father and he will remain to be their father.
Meanwhile Mwari huku amenifurahisha sana…:D:D:D:D
I kind’a agree with you Maiko. But cha muhimu ni the kids are now getting to pursue their studies. A basic right their father had denied them…
I wish Virginia would stop talking ill about him day in day out infront of the children anymore.
she is doing the same thing he was doing. They’re both toxic by forcing the children to pick sides
I went back and watched a few of the clips online. I observed that when the kids were with their father they said they were happy. He’s not violent to them, he has never physically assaulted his wife or his kids.
When the kids move to their mother, they say they’re happy there yet they can’t state a single mistreatment they suffered under their father, except failing to educate his son. All, including the wife, seemed extremely healthy and well clothed. None had any signs of physical abuse or malnourishment.
The mother and father lost love and respect for each other. That should not be a reason to pit kids against each parent. They could have handled their break up better.
In terms of funding education, kamothos relatives don’t seem poor. The wife could have asked for help to pay fees for college unless they’re also extremely stingy.
One aspect I don’t get is how and why he fell for the other woman. That’s the only mysterious aspect of this thing.
I honestly think Virginia wants him back. She just hates the other woman so much and will spite her by reconnecting her husband. Many African women of the older generation cannot conceptualize a divorce.
Cc. @TrumanCapote
Yes. She gets a lot of help from the public and I think it is time she withdrew these kids from online manenos. It is embarrasing to those in their teenage years.
What is without a shadow of a doubt is that ‘she needs a man’…she has said so many times. She will find one very easily. She is pretty and is moneyed. Quite how she will juggle with her brood is beyond me. Infact she ought to have taken Kamotho to court for not keeping up with the payments and also gone for the house of horrors. But she has not because she still harbours some feelings.
Wooi there is a song by Tina Turner or Yvonne Chaka chaka…‘every women needs a man to hold her all night long…’.
[SIZE=1]You have already CC’ed Jojina so I know she is on her way but I will be in hibernation:D:D:D:D.[/SIZE]
Have you been watching testimonies of the kids? The reality is that Kamotho is a beast and that is why he is on wife numero 3 now. People blame Tabitha but even b4 Tabitha took over these kids were physically and emotionally abused and Kamotho was a bishop in a cult where he was the god to the point of breaking up Tabithas marriage. My favorite Angel Maria did not get any immunization. Please go back and go through the testimonies bcz clearly you are not in the know.
Talking is cathartic and it helps us make sense of how this started. I had a neighbor whose husband left her and her and her kids were always talking about the dad ad nauseum but guess what? It really helped them heal. The only casualties were my ears and everyone they spoke about it to. The kids did very well in school too in spite of the ugly breakup. I didn’t counsel them all I did was listen and all they needed was to vent and the assurance that their angst and pain were valid. Which is what happens in post traumatic syndrome counseling, carthasis. These family has been through alot of abuse, spiritual, physical and emotional even when things were normal for the family. You can’t dictate how they will heal. Counseling is not a silver bullet and it’s nuansed. It’s so personal that lack of chemistry,transference, type of counseling for example can cause more harm than good. What works best IMHO is family and group therapy. I have a degree in counseling psychology and I still prefer prayer to counseling. The appropos type is tricky but they could try Gestalt, REBT, PSYCHO DYNAMIC, person centered etc
BTW this toxic mindset of they love the father and he will always remain their father is a mindset that revictimises abused children bcz it’s like casualties are not allowed to express feelings of animosity and anger towards a parent figure. It’s like telling a woman who was molested by the father that it is wrong to habor extreme feelings of hatred/revulsion and anger and not wanting any relationship or rejection of the abuser as her father. Those are valid feelings but the he’s your father and you should love him bcz you can’t change your DNA so he will remain your father does not accommodate feelings of ambivalence towards a loved one who has harmed them.
I don’t endorse remarriage after separation and divorce . I also don’t endorse staying in toxic relationshits in the name of marriage.
You only have 2 kids. Have 10 more and tell me how you won’t still harbor feelings for their dad even if he’s a psycho.
How anyone wants to relate with the opposite sex is a very personal decision based on upbringing, religious background and personal needs. So to me the same way I feel OK not having a man is the same way its OK for Virginia to want to have a man. It’s her life. Having children doesn’t preclude desire for intimacy.
But you agree Virginia wants him? It’s not about you.
You try to make it look like I support people staying in bad relationships to avoid divorce.
She doesn’t want him, she wants the dream, there’s a difference.
Yeah he holds the dream. It comes in a package with him. :D:D:D
But like I said, it’s not about you in this case. The numerous altercations she initiates over several years points to the above. One day she will get her 22year old, but she will now keep going back to that home, asking for her 50%, her money….
Oh no she wants him. Go back to one of the videos where she says she secretly thought he would lift her up and tell her how sorry bla bla bla…so when she prepared herself that morn she was hoping that would happen.
Jojina your responses contradict ‘themselves’. Re-read this post and the one you posted to me on YB. And as for Virginia she can go and get a man but to me she is in the category that can be soo easily fleeced.
Na mi sisemi YB asi-post..oh nooo. Aendelee tu hoping he never regrets one day one time.
Have you listened to the new song… with Davis on Thuita?
BTW Jojina have you heard about these street kids who have formed this band Safara Gathimiti…we have subscribed in our dozens…pls subscribe and share..
No shit!!! Ati aria? Weka link. Aki I have to see it to believe it. What??? By the way this last time she was there and they were fighting I noticed that they don’t touch Each other other like Kamotho will pretend to hurl stones at Ritu who is behind Virginia but he won’t lay a finger on her, alafu he pushes his chest out in a very suggestive manner like woman I can get you pregno AGAIN don’t mess with me, I done got you pregnant 12 times already.