A “Kitchen Party” in the Coastal Swahili Culture is somewhat similar to to the Western Pre-Wedding Batchelor Party ( .. at least in theory ..).
Close Female Adult Friends of the Bride are the only ones invited.
(..no Children , Parents , Older Female relatives or Men … apart from Musicians and 1 or 2 Ex Boyfriends , suitably camouflaged , masquarading as Musicians …).
The Mistress of Ceremonies is often a prominent “Kungwi” or “Somo” who are the equivalet of Senior and Junior Ssengas in other communities.
Feasting , Suggestive Songs , Raunchy Dances , Relationship Lessons , Marriage Advice , Gifts and Wedding Fund Raising are the order of the day.
Try and get an invitation to one .. It is quite an education…
I’m sure I don’t want to be invited to one. There are certain public displays of debauchery which I don’t find amusing, like the gross witchery of flashing her ass to the world, being done by that chunky woman in black.
..Ujuzi ni Kipaji Cha Kutosha..
..Kila Mtu ana Kipaji Chake..
..Ujuzi wa Kutosha ..
..Huu ni Ubunifu wa hali ya Juu ..
Please see all this activity in the right context ..
It is predominantly an all Ladies Affair and open to close friends of the future Bride.
It is an activity done ONCE for that Special occassion to say Farewell to the Single Status.
(..an opportunity to “Sow any remaining Wild Oats” before serious Marriage business..).
They come to advise , prepare , encourage , contribute and enjoy themselves…
(.. Men do even worse at some “Batchelor Parties” that I have attended - often with some very unsavoury Women in attendance ..)
Hehe, life is in fact very serious–it’s the only thing you really have!–as Mandela himself knew.
All you need to know is where to put your energy, and where to place boundaries.
She is a very “down-to-earth” , fun loving individual but has non-negotiable guardrails , principles and “red-lines”..
Whenever “Lucifer” tries to lead me astray , I get a warm , calming embrace , a quick prayer of encouragement and chanelling my negative energies in positive directions of mutual benefit ..
When the “Big Deal” is finally brokered , the guardrails will be “modified” appropriately in fitting with the new status and reality..
Kitchen party? No one’s cooking!
Tz urban society today must be where ours was in 1970. These raw, highly sexualised and shameless women’s gossip events are relics from prehistory.
Clearly .. You have not yet attended one in Central Province …
After the congregation is well lubricated with strong alcoholic libations , the suject matter seems to veer towards the proper utilization of Vibrators …
Which actually leaves me wondering … What is the purpose of a Vibrator in a successful marital union …???
Successful marital union, hm!
Any woman who wants to know the proper use of a sex toy is no wife. 'Nuff said.
Abandon plans of being shackled to her, either in this life or the next, because after the wedding you’ll just have stepped off the platform of a slave auction. You’ll be worked hard, and poorly fed–even whipped.
Please don’t be delusional, think: kama hata chakula utanyimwa, na mke akupige, ( ) unafikiri sex ndio utapata?
Why do you think @TrumanCapote calls it the plantation?
) unafikiri sex ndio utapata?
