Najua ktalk kila mtu ni mbirionnare na najua very few talkers wanaeza admit mabibi wanalipwa mshahara kubwa kuwaliko…Mimi tukianza life na mama watoto(15 years ago) tulikuwa hatuna kakitu sisi wote…lakini with time,maneno ya kuongeza elimu na promotions unashtukia Khupipi outearns you…my wife now outearns me na kedo 95k…wenye mko kwa situation kama hizo mnaishi aje?
This is not unusual tbh. Women can have better upward mobility than men in the corp world depending on the industry. Sijasema ile ya kulala na bosses, but based on merit. She can earn a better salary but mwanaume your overall income shouldn’t be limited to just your salary alone, your side hustles should be able to generate additional income so holistically bado uko mbele. This is ideally important because the provider role comes with bigger expenditures while still supporting the household.
Usione ngumu sana, a partner with decent income is a great asset as long mnaelewana na hakuna kiburi kwa nyumba. Kama uko na ka insecurity kidogo, tafuta ujanja ujue how you’ll find an additional means of income so you can out earn her. Just don’t mention hii kitu inakuuma kwa nyumba, dynamics za relationship will change na madharau itaanza.
Mine is the opposite,
We solely depend on my salary and sides hustles which is a good fortune to live a middle class life.
Bibi she does not appear interested in finding a job or engaging in any business or acquiring additional skills.
She is already in a comfort zone, I have tried hard fishing her out of this cocoon, but she is adamant this always leads to quarrels
I have always done applications for her, she get invited for interviews, however, she never get past interview stage, she came back with endless complaints about the interview panelist but from look of things she never takes interview preparation seriously and always working to justify her failures.
I have gotten tired, how do I re-active her to realize how tough life is and need for having her own money and need of getting outside there to meet people and create your own networks and even probably getting laid if one is loose.
I believe in empowering everyone, because you never know what tomorrow has for us, Plus some key financial and management skills can only be gotten from employment in the exploitative private sector.
On the other hand, my mistress who is a former XGF she is extremely hard working and entrepreneurial, we have partnered in a few business and so far so good this being our 4th year anniversary.
Love and money are two sides of the coin…love is inversely proportional to moneye… wahenga na tafakari ya babu…the devils details come out when money is involved
Naona unapata the best of both worlds, so I see this as a win-win. Btw kama wife ako sawa na watoto and general household stuff, then consider that as her input in the marriage. Shida ni upate she’s lazy, bad with kids, na bado haleti kakitu.
Ehh, that wife should be live alone to left. Chunga that disease isikuingie….there’s need for a partner to propel your progress. Hiyo laziness ilifanya I didn’t take my baby mama as a wife.
Fake a crisis and that woman you call a wife will bolt out of your life at the slightest whiff of problems. Jaribu tu uone.
Also, keep your relationship with your former GF strictly business. Do not stick the sword back in that sheath.
Nitumie number yake. An unbiased party is allowed to pipe a hardworking lady, but not her business partner.
Mbona kila mtu anaavoid kuambia OP ukweli that amemshinda salo ju ya shimo? Kuchapiwa ni Siri ya ndani huku inje tunkudunga ukweli. Unachapiwa msee hadi treads zimeisha ka tyre ya ndege
People say masomo ni kitu poa if you want to succeed in life. Of course I agree but it ain’t the only thing. Sisi watu wa planteshen we have another hurdle to overcome. Tabia ya bibi. You could be a neurosurgeon but ukiangukia kunguru who sucks you dry, you’ll be frustrated in no time ujipate unarusha mikono ukitembea while talking to yourself kama @Tauren
In short, I’m saying there’s thaaat element of luck that’ll determine your prosperity.
Mimi niliangukia mduruma who was earning almost double my salo when we met. I stuck on her like a tick and shooed away other hyenas. Lakini pia aliona potential in me. Hardwork and, once again, luck landed me a job that propelled me further from her earningwise. Nilikua namtwanga almost 15x over. But coz of her character, I moved mountains to bring her closer. Sahii tuseme nimemdouble. But in this life hujui kesho. Hatujasumbuana mambo ya bills
