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[SIZE=7]Daddy Owen’s heartbreak: Lessons Kenyan men should learn[/SIZE]
#1. Never date or marry a single mother.
Never in a million years date a single mother seriously. Enjoy the ride and then get off when things begin to get serious. And for the love of God, do not commit and marry single mothers. These relationships usually have some major problems. First, let us start with the fact that she clearly has poor decision-making skills which led her to end up with the child of a man who didn’t want to be a father. Secondly, you will never be allowed to discipline her children as if they are your own. you will constantly be reminded they are her children.
Add to this the fact that it doesn’t benefit a man to help raise crotch-goblins not of his genetic makeup who will constantly be cheeky and remind you that you’re not their father. They will go through life with a chip on their shoulder and you will be served with dealing with the emotional damage that comes along with having been rejected by their fathers.
#2. Daddy Owen is a weak man
Why was he mourning and moaning about this failed relationship? He should have sucked it up and moved on. Clearly, the people within his circles are just as useless as he is because they are the source of this information about him. He needs to rethink who his friends are and to quickly move on to only trusting one or two people and only shedding tears in their presence. The rest of the world doesn’t need to know about his suffering. As a man, showing a chink in the armour is taken as weakness. That is why when word first broke about his failed marriage, Kenyans mocked him rather than sympathized and empathized with him.
#3. Just like Daddy Owen realized, men are human doings, not human beings
When he was the biggest star in Kenya, he was happily married. When he was making money, his wife, Farida was happy to make a home for them and their children. Now that he has fallen off and most of the shows have dried up, her love for him too has dried up. Men are only as valuable as what they do for their partners, their parents, siblings and society. The minute you as a man fall off, society will move on as you no longer have utility.
#4. Never pedestalize a woman
Daddy Owen would speak about his wife as if she were a veritable goddess. The problem with putting people up a pedestal is that they have no other way to look at and address us but by looking down at us and talking down. He used to treat her like a superstar so she treated him like a groupie. That is why she has moved on with her life so quickly; in both their minds, he is nowhere near her level.
#5. Learn to lead
According to Daddy Owen, whenever they would get into a heated argument, Farida would begin speaking in Kikuyu. This is something that shows a lack of leadership because he is incapable of even setting rules within his own home that govern their interactions. How can you not lead in your own home and not expect things to go awry? It is something as simple as letting the other party know how to deal with differences in opinions. He should have let her know that he was not the one to talk Kikuyu to and when she broke this rule, he should have walked out of the house and withdrawn attention. Instead, he kept silent about this disrespect or he ignored it.