I am a late 40’s man who has been drinking for 30 years. That has not stopped me from achieving my life goals. Saa zingine mnaxingizoa pombe sana.
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Genes predisposing one to hedonistic tendencies require MEGA BUCKS. I agree with you. Tumepata iyo pointi.
Umenyamba points hapo, mimi addictions nilikuwa nazo zilikuwa distraction, saw a talker pia admitting his Lanye to a distraction to challenges he was facing.
Niligundua if you admit that to yourself, you gain a very different perspective to the addictions far from the delusional thoughts of having fun. Even if they come back haunting it won’t be as lethal
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what is your relationship with him now
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what is your limit… How many bottles do you take in a sitting. Unakunywa mara ngapi kwa mwezi ama wiki
Chew sugarcane na siyo internode moja but several. Tumbo litatulia mara moja.
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Mimi huona the biggest problem na pombe hukuwa financial. Alcohol is a bitch. Very few men can stick to a budget when alcohol is involved because they eventually build tolerance.
Let’s assume mtu ana-earn 100k net per month. Ajipigie budget ya 4 beers per week on Sato jioni after working and giving himself enough time to rest on Sunday. At first glance, that looks like a doable budget and a somewhat acceptable level of fun to have. After all, its just Ksh 5,200 per month or 5.2% of his net income.
Shida huingia when that person is in his 3rd drink pale club and his judgment is compromised. Anapatana na kunguru anaamua lazima aoshe rungu. An initial budget of 1200 bob for 4 beers can easily balloon to over 10k(pussy, food, ubers, more drinks+cocktails etc). Halafu shida ya pombe ni next weekend you will still feel the urge to go out and party. Unapata that same guy spends 5k every weekend on a 100k net salary or 22k per month. That’s now a whooping 22% of his net income!!
Hesabu ya pombe huingiana only on paper. Kwa ground when your judgment gets compromised all bets are off utajipata umetumia pesa mingi sana kushinda vile ulikuwa umepanga. Very few people have the discipline to stick to their budget after getting drunk.
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I have found myself cursing that I will only go to the club with only cash and no phone. Only for me to later find a boda kunirudisha home niendee phone yenye iko na mpesa balance mzito.
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Your best guess is drinking a lot of water, eating something, and giving yourself enough time for your body to adjust.
Alcohol and financial discipline ni kama maji na mafuta. Very few men, if any, can stick to their budget at the club every single time. That would require god-like levels of discipline that 99.99% of men do not have. Hakuna mlevi hajawahi regret kutumia pesa hakuwa amepanga kutumia the next morning after a bender.
Prostitutes operate mainly in bars and night clubs for a reason. That’s where they can catch men at their most vulnerable state. A man is unlikely to hire a hooker when sober.
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my stomach survived , it was the vital organs that took a hit . Hoping all will be well but I don’t stress over it.
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we don’t talk any more , if that’s what you’re asking.
Mali nilisare b’coz that was his manipulation area
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peace of mind is paramount
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He spends plenty of time huko ocha juu ako na zile pikipiki za boda anamanage
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Huyu jamaa ni neighbour uko home his place and our place is walking distance heard he was a nobody back then wakiwa na professor hamo
It’s funny how fortune favours people only for them to fuck it all up
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But pia when you think about it …alcoholism and drug abuse are a result of success (a man/woman knows a hefty salary will always come end month)
There’s a level of brokeness that you can’t afford the weekend outings to clubs or even dating kazi tu nikunyonga (getting a nice meal or even affording a lanye huwezi)
As much as kusota ni mbaya it’s also good as it keeps you safe from such vices
Personally i think that’s what gave me alcohol and drugs discipline because I’ve experienced lack and i wouldn’t want to go back there just because now i can afford the best …i can do without it because I’ve lived without it
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I disagree because there are millions of broke Kenyan men who are alcoholics. Yani watu hawajawahi kuwa na hata 500k kwa account zao. Therefore, drug abuse and alcoholism is clearly not a result of success. Those people may not afford to drink at a trendy club, but they can afford chang’aa and quarters at the wines and spirits shops. Kusota can never save anyone from alcoholism and drug use juu normally people don’t stay completely broke for long. One day’s work is enough to get anyone drunk with chang’aa and other spirits. Hata watu wa mjengo wanaweza afford pombe.
The reason why YOU did not slide into alcoholism is because you refused to lower your standards i.e hukuenda chang’aa den when you got broke. It’s your discipline and willpower that saved you, not brokeness.
Halafu pia hata ukiomoka you may escape the financial ramifications, but you won’t escape the health issues. Heck, even Maina Kageni with his fat salary was admitted to a hospital because of alcohol-related health issues. People like Shaffie have had embarrassing moments caught on camera due to drunken stupor. Uhunye, with his billions, is battling health issues too.
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Reminds me of my selfish mother bana. She inherited lots of property from our dad but hakua anataka to share. She’d use it to manipulate and control me.
Used to abuse substances a lot kumbe ilikua Tu frustrations za keeping up with her demands.
Ile siku I decided to remove myself from hesabu zake is when I started healing. Nikaacha pombe na kadhalika shortly afterwards. You can stop ulevi but first u must deal with the devil on your shoulder
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U gave desagu a lift in mommys car
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Mamako anakubeba makende zako kwa handbag and thats what u use kuringa