This is for those in planteshen with career/working women. Do you guys foot all the bills in the house ama mama huchangia? Nimeona comment mtu amesema wife to contribute inaleta shida.
Ukifungulia mama biz and it’s successful does she chip in kurudisha mkono?
I have an uncle mwenye Bibi hata ndururu hajawai weka kwa nyumba and she makes a good salary. I always wonder women like her hupeleka pesa wapi? Hata pesa ya maziwa ikiisha Bibi hawezi nunua, lazima uncle. Rumor has it wife amenunua mashamba with her brothers binafsi so arms length from husband.
Reminds me of the story ya jaba where some planteshen hosband alikuwa analipa rent and the landlord was the wife and the fellow was never aware.
Someone said the only woman you can trust and rely on 100% is your mom…hata your sis anaweza kuruka…so for a wife,she will dry fry you hadi kwa mkia bila lube on mattersfinance akikuita babe tu hapo.
Most women will chop your monie while doing stuff on the side with their finances in preparation for the day you will smell the coffe and probably kick her out…stay woke wadau!!!
We must appreciate those few women who come into the marriage as equal partners though,the reason Oyunga Pala once told us to marry our best friends,those chiqs you call when you are in a mess and they come through for you.
Hawa at least ni wale washawahi sort you out in one way or the other,yaani mtu mmepitia jangwani na yeye and knows your ways…i believe mostly,these would gladly chip in…my thoughts.
I may not be the best qualified to talk about this but I think a man should foot utility bills and rent, then mwanamke can handle hizi vitu tudogo like mboga, nyanya, maji ya kunywa etc
NB: I make 9 times what my gf makes, so this opinion might have a bias
Kwa Enigma bibi hu handle kitchen and everything about the kitchen.Enigma akisota pia anampa soft loans.Ni poa kukuwa na bibi ana earn.God forbid ukikufa hutaki watoi wako wakuwe wana roam streets wakikula food za mtaro.You can never tell what they do with their money.And you can’t stop her if she chooses to have silent investments away from your eyes.Someone once said as a man,always have a nest for you alone as a form of insurance incase things turn against you in your senior years.In case she leaves you and turns kids against you you have soft landing.But if you treat your kids right and be there in their lives such a thing cannot happen.As I grow older am seeing this reality clearer and clearer and i have ensured my bond with my kid is unbreakable. Dont stress too much over these things.Hakuna mtu anaelewa women 100%.
Ukitaka kujua true colors za manzi sota, manzi mpoa ni yule mnaanza chini pamoja mnapanda juu kimaisha pamoja. Kama ali stick mkiwa msoto, she is a keeper. On finances i dont believe in mine-yours. Its either mko pamoja or not.
those creatures have got so much evil in their bloods that our creator had to come up with a way of draining it once a month…mnaeza lala njaa na akona 50million kwa account na saizo salary yako imechelewa si kupenda kwako
Its only fair for her to contribute financially, i personally don’t mind doing dishes, cooking and cleaning as well. I believe in 50/50 in everything even child rearing.
some are very good at detecting potential, as long as she thinks you have potential she will stick along - its very hard to know an individuals intentions, the sad part is that you get to discover that when its too late.
In my opinion as a man the best is to get into marriage when you are already well set and stable, and treat the marriage purely as a contract, with the knowledge that if you become broke she will leave you, wachana na feelings kwa marriage.
