This is an issue that has bugged me for sometime and I have noticed a few common issues with these women/ladies/girls. Now, unless they are married, which in that case the dynamics might change.
BTW it is a pity what people call marriage these days…a woman who barely knows your family nor you hers comes over with a suitcase and moves in and bang! you start introducing her as your wife??? common don’t lie to yourself!
Anyway back to my topic, women (read girlfriends) who get beat up:
Do not have confidence within themselves
Mostly tend to provoke the beating because that is the only way they can get attention from the “loving Boyfriend”
Are almost always the marriageable type but they are desperate to prove to themselves that they are loved.
They have this notebook that they keep to themselves in which they write down all the atrocities done to them…e.g. On Monday Tim slapped me and I nose bled for hours, sob sob, he doesn’t love me these days as he used to…but I know he can be very sweet when he wants to. (Major Fact Here…find that book and you will have an insight into her life because she will tend to talk about everything here)
They are mostly beautiful women with a bright future…But they cannot see that and are too afraid/intimidated by the guy to do anything about it.
Most cases the girl will have issues with her own family…especially her parents that she cannot go to them and talk about her life in general…Guy watch out for this one coz it means she will most likely find comfort in other men or friends when she feels down…kama @rollout
Have a negative perception when it comes to themselves…i.e., given two choices, she will most likey take the one that will hurt her or end up badly for her…
Bottom line, these girls are mostly attention seekers and will do anything…well almost anything to have some attention
i can only tell you one thing son, women do not need any notebook to remember the ups and downs of matters of the heart…and especially the bitter ones.
There are multitudes of women out there suffering from lack of self confidence,trauma from abuse during their childhood etc etc,the very fact that we have adopted the attitude of ‘am not my brothers keeper’ leads to their continued suffering.
Those of us who have sisters at home quiver at the thought of them being with a brutal/mean man.
Bottom Line:
If you see a woman being abused,do something about it.At the very least advise her to get some counselling. Don’t look away,don’t let evil have its way.
I wish you get to meet her in the next world and tell her that the reason she got thrown out of a 4th floor balcony by an abusive man was because she had self esteem issues or she was seeking attention