Of late I have come to the realization that a sizeable number of my friendships are decaying and withering away, some with an acceptable amount of decorum while some are just awful.
Not for nothing but I do tend to be fastidious in some issues so perhaps that is the root of this phase?
I decided to reflect upon a recent fall out between an office colleague and I, and much as I tried to recollect any data I could sieve in anything tangible that would definitely be intolerable to them. So I went through our typical hang outs and the black ops we carried out and it suddenly struck me that I am maxed out on hook ups…and not just the PYT hook ups, I am tuned out by the time the 3rd round is brought.
The themes revolving around sexual conquests, beefs, soccer and tall tales. They are no longer my cup of tea, I have become… Boring!
This trend has been replicated in most of my social circles as well, when I am on leave I just do not want to spend my precious time chatting up random strangers and spending coin just to get a plunge in their knickers.
I do not want to drink myself silly and take a load of pictures to remember my imbecile moments. I do not want to fuel the car and go for pointless night trips to the latest clubs and choma joints.
I was never much of a church goer - the place just stifles me- so on Sundays I’d sooner stay in the house watching Rick and Morty. The less I see of people, the more serene I am… I daresay the happier I am.
Well, there’s a time for everything and I am glad that employing stoicsm in my life has taught me not to react to that which makes no difference, and sadly a huge part of my life has been exactly that. Meaningless conversations about stuff repeated again and again.
As to my friends, they have grown hostile to various degrees which lends credit to the phrase ‘misery loves company’
Long story short I will forever embrace Mr Monty Burns from Simpsons wisdom.
‘Family, friends and religion. These are three demons you must slay to be rich’