Marry a black man at your own risk and finances. Very useless. Before uzalie mwanaume you must be sure he’s a provider not a feminine man child who doesn’t know what being a man is, hadi he moves in with a single mother of 4 bcz she is willing to provide. Mwanaume irresponsible is a very bad person. You better stay single ukule Mali yako pole pole, if you want kids adopt or uzae na wazungu to ensure that he doesn’t come back to destabilize your kids. Don’t be an IMF for any man. Kila mtu apambane na hali yake. You build yourself acha na wanaume broke who want to misuse you as if you are their mother. Me the first thing I do when I discover a man can’t take care of me financially is that I block everywhere sio kukimbilia kuzalia yeye as if there’s a shortage of sperm donors. If utalelea mwanaume mtoto by yourself at least basi awe mzungu.
Hello ladies we need mature advice from those older ladies in the group…I have a cousin , married with 3kids…the husband ni mlevi and changing women now and then…like a number of them…he also had a woman walichukuana akiwa na 4kids na sasa amemzalisha wawili…azn amemweka…this cousin of mine ni stress day in and out … no peace in the house…they can’t sit down and talk like dinner people because he is not even available in the house na mostly comes home drunk.doing things for the kids inakuwanga kuvurutana always ,yaani lazima asukumwe ndo apatie watoto pesa ya nywele ama nguo and sometimes paying school fees it takes ages Hadi watoto watoto wanafukuzwa shule…my cousin does some hustles but was very much affected by corona so chenye anapata saa hii ni almost nothing…They pushed him during Christmas na akawapea pesa ya fare ya kwenda Christmas juu kwa kina cuzo they had a get together…he gave the 3k which was barely enough juu fare was hiked …now pesa ya kurudi amekataa kabisa kuwapea and threatening them wanaeza fika na awaambie warudi place walikuwa…He is calling his family creating stories vile amekatalia kwao na ata simu she is not picking…home kwa dame hakuna stima so when the fon is off akimpigia na ingine anakata na kueka blacklist…This man is also physically abusive akilewa…What is she supposed to do?