There is a lot of female and male bashing in ktalk, It’s like either one is unhapply married 'n banging every walking thing with a p*sy or divorced 'n bitter with a bunch of vicious and angry baby mommas on his back. As a bachelor who’s planning to make that big mistake (get married) soon, this is a little bit unsettling. Are there guys here who can proudly say that they have been married for years 'n they’re content.
What’s is it you’re doing right that almost everybody seems to have gotten wrong?
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@Carbon jibu huyu jamaa
here i am. it wasn’t always all nice and smooth. we had our turbulent times. we learnt to listen to each other without throwing that killer - “si hata wewe ulifanya hiki au kile”- at each other. looking back, marriage is not a mistake.
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Uliza Jay
I nominate @Luther12 and @Msuper
you’re the only 2 people who ever had anything positive to say about their marriages.
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I HAPPILY MARRIED A NYERI LADY
We all know how that story Ends…
Good Faking Luck bro!
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Inform your to be wife you will get a second wife later in life but with her consent. Then come back with hekaya
Faith.
Its not easy sleeping in the same room with a ‘stranger’ you’ve known for only one year, just had a serious argument with na haujui if they have vampires in their bloodline…
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Understand each others weaknesses and learn how to rectify or cope with them. Marriage is a bed of roses if you know how to go about it!
Ehe.
Hehe since when?
Am all ears or its eyes am thinking of starting looking in that direction of stressful life called marriage.Its sad dat most of my bundies marriage are in da situation dat would best be described by world war during cold war era.A neighbour juzi amekosana na wife akarudi kwao.Guy was stressed ile mbaya akajaribu suicide stunt.wife came back the following mornin kuskia ivo.Is this drama REALLY WORTH IT.
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My secret!! We’re best of friends…friendship is your only shield in times of adversity. This, coupled with communication you’ll never be miserable. Easy peasy right? Not really because you need to take time to invest in the relationship…modern day couples skip this stage (accidental pregnancies) setting themselves up for a disaster!
They say to have a friend and be a friend is what makes life worthwhile…imagine that friend being your SO? Bliss!!!
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Never sleep in the same bed…it’s not natural…
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Married 8 years and still going strong. The first 5years are the hardest. My experience is that women from time to time will always say factless and annoying things. dont react to everything. With time they start making comments based on fact not hekayas.
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HAHAHAHA, your avatar makes perfect sense now.
My marriage is 15 years old, there will always be lows and highs, as a rule we can never go to bed if there is an unresolved issue between. I hope you have dated long enough so you know abit of her true character. My kids have also been a unifying factor.
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marriage is very different from dating. Living with your “lover” in the same house everyday creates the perfect fodder for conflict. However, the secret is having good conflict resolution discussions and high lelvel of tolerance. The kidsa also help dillute the conflict sometimes.
Respect each other’s space and right to privacy and you will be fine. Living together doesn’t mean one is the slave of the other. Remember both of you are independent minded individuals.
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