Most families nowadays are very toxic and dysfunctional, My big question is, girls from such families can they really make a good wife, or because of the environment they have been raised in, they will definitely become hell to their husbands.
It depends some people get damaged by such experiences and become bitter broken people and find that as the norm even when they start their own families while others never want their kids to relieve such experiences and wiill take the initiative to become better partners
Good people can come from broken homes, it just comes down to the person and their willingness to grow beyond the trauma they endured as a child. They also need to unlearn unhealthy behaviors & coping mechanisms that impact their platonic & affectionate relationships. Lazima tu ukague mtu kama they show emotional growth if you know they come from such a background.
Depends on the learnings that they girl picked from her family situation.There are those who will come out of it quite broken.They will want to have families but occasionally throw the ‘wanaume ni trash’ ama ‘mwanaume haezi niambia kitu’ subconciously then instantly regret.These ones will be constantly monkey branching in pursuit of a better man who is better than her dad.Before she knows it she has 3 kids from three different dads and heading to her fifties and becomes the chairlady of the local feminazi crew after all the kids become gay and lesbians.
There are those that want the family life so bad that they are convinced that even if their parents relationship didn’t last,it doesn’t mean that hers’ won’t last.She learns from the mistakes of her parents and tries her best to ensure that her family comes first.She gives the relationship her all.Dem kama huyu ukipata ni wife matirio direct.
Nope. Most of them become whores.
Consider @PHARMACY.
His great grandmother was a smelly kamba lanye
His grandmother was also a smelly lanye
His mother is a very smelly mlolongo lanye.
We’re all products of our genetics. Is it any wonder that @PHARMACY anauza mattercore 50/ bob?
Umeamshwa na mshuto ya @uwesmake hapo kando yako kwa mattress chafu kwa floor at 3:08am ikakuingia kwa akili ikakuonyesha upost hii uvundo?Umbwaaa.
Before uoe tembea kwa kina fiancee wako uone vile mamake ana treat babake…then go from there
Average girl from a good family doesn’t take accountability and plays victim card when beneficial. Sembuse a girl from an actually abusive family.
Some actually heal and become great versions of themselves but that’s up to the individual. Inabidi ufanye vetting wewe mwenyewe. Si fair kuassume that individual is damaged ju ni prejudice but lower your expectations when searching for a wife from such backgrounds. Don’t be too disappointed ukikosa.
Tip poa ni watch how she treats others. Her brother, her father, random waiters etc. Itakuwa a good reflection of how she may treat you. Also how she describes her exes. If all her exes were “abusive” hapo kimbia ju mkiachana ataambia next man pia wewe ni abusive. It shows either a lack of accountability or very poor judgement, both zenye hutaki for a wife
Amka umpe @cortedivoire moarning gory kabla muende dumpsite kuchokora mavi. Ulipona matako ulitombwa highschool accidentally?
I want to believe that maybe some can come out doing good, but on the other hand if the mother mishandled the father its almost impossible to unlearn this. Sometimes those who have been in such dysfunctional situations that they had to live with grand parents come out very good.
Girls from such ni damaged goods. Very toxic. Unakula uki ingia karura.
moarning gory ni nini wewe mkamba mjinga illiterate mtoto wa malaya?
Story ya kutombana high school ni yako na tauren na @Cross Fire.
Mabachela tuna chukua notes Chini ya maji.
Speak for yourself. Dysfunction is the exception, not the rule
Women that did not get along with their mothers during childhood, teenage and later in their adolescence rarely have lasting relationships. They are passive aggressive and self conditioned to usurping authority. It also hints a failure of a father, who did not enforce his authority, ensuring a chain of command.
In a set up of a woman filing for a divorce, i want to imagine there has to be a script that the girl might follow.
Lets give a scenario here.
I am a shags muntu, born and bred in the countryside. I have seen some primary school teacher couples raise their kids in a strict environment that appreciates discipline. In my view this is the most ideal set up where a kid should be brought up.
Normally these kids end up being disciplined individuals who appreciate hard work and family later in their lives.
Myself in my next trial i might settle for a girl from succh a set-up.
Unlike urbanites who are ever in antagonism every now and then, kids read it wrong and probably you might find yourself in problems if you settle for girl that @TrumanCapote has sired in Zimmerman.
Methinks dawa ni mastering how humans roll and controlling your internal locus. After that, hakuna kitu mwanadamu atafanya ya kukushangaza. Unaeza ishi hata na @TrumanCapote na uko tuu sawa.
Kama ni yatima tufanyeje mhenga?
Tembea kwa nyanyake uone vile nyanye ana treat guka yake
Itakua tricky she was raised in a children’s home.