Demonization of Single Mothers

[Gaines]

@ryzen

…not. However, they aren’t any less or more to blame.

Blame sio 50-50 for one reason. There are far fewer deadbeats than single mothers. Unaonanga one man responsible for impregnating 6 women na kuingia Mau forest. Women in their prime tend to get fucked only by a small number of dudes so deadbeats sio wengi. The fact that you think its 50-50 tells me that you don’t understand how animals mate. You will be surprised how many women get pregnant for married men and known deadbeats thinking that they will commit to them. Most single mothers are that way because they are poor at making mating decisions and that is a fact. Very few were genuinely delt a bad hand. Wengi already knew the guy has a string of baby mamas or that he is violent etc. Women aren’t children that you can give them a pass. Lakini they choose to ignore all the red flags usually because he is handsome or rich. They are capable of making rational decisions but hate accountability when they fuck up. That’s where they rely on simps like @rexxsimba here to do their bidding.

[rexxsimba]

@Kidete

• If a woman who’s a gold digger and has a toxic nature decides to date or get married , she will most likely become a single mother becoz no man wants a lover that disrespectful and self centred.
• The elders from Ktalk will assume that ALL single mothers have toxic personalities and are focused on their selfish demands based on that one example.
• Children who were raised by single mums from birth can only identify their mums as the SOLE figure of authority.
• Based on the unique bond shared by the single mum and child, the mother will rarely allow your input towards parenthood or view.

My response …

• Most single mothers are not Toxic or Gold Diggers.
• Children ( even grown ones ) are highly adaptive … It just depends on your approach and interaction.
• Ground Rules and Roles must be agreed upon before the Union … Children are smart and highly observant …
  I had a very calm , laid back , intelligent , shy , introspective Father and a fiery , extroverted , focused , protective but no nonsense Mother.

But NEVER , even for a moment , was there any doubt that my Dad was calling the shots …
And we ALL ( Mum included ) complied accordingly and completely …

[ryzen]

@Gaines

Blame sio 50-50 for one reason. There are far fewer deadbeats than single mothers

I understand your Pareto Paradigm and the conclusion that only a small percentage of men have access to pussy and money. My argument is solely on principle of consensual sex and the good old patriarchy in an African setting. Much like murder and being an accessory to murder when it comes to sentencing. You were party to an act that resulted in a bad outcome. You can’t get a slap in the wrist just because women are hypergamists.

Your argument of women walking into red flags also applies to men. If you aren’t delusional you already know the female mindset, atakuacha dooh ikiisha, akiboeka or if a rich dude wants her. Worse ni yule mwanaume atafuga malaya sugu alafu aanze kulia single mothers, the same way women do with no-good deadbeats.

Ukioa social climber(pretty women mostly) ama malaya then single motherhood is a natural byproduct. Men are at fault twice – choosing a bad mate na kumwaga ndani fwaa. The same faults we use to pin down single mothers.

[KING_KING_100]

@Gaines

… here to do their bidding.

Classic case it that of tanasha Donna aliwacha job NRG Radio akakimbilia Simba akiwa amevaa chupi kwa kichwa

Diamond has a string of baby mamas but she thought she would be the chosen one only to end up a statistic as a single mother

She even converted to muslim to try and be the complete package but wapi sahii anaosha rungu za men worth affording her

I’m sure kuna boychild mahali alikuwa ana work hard to wife her and give her the life she deserved but she chose Simba instead

[KING_KING_100]

@ryzen

… The same faults we use to pin down single mothers.

Women gate keep sex …men gate keep relationship…
In the end it’s who she chooses to give sex to that determines the outcome

I agree some men are on a mission to fill the world but in the end it’s her fault for choosing that specific guy while she had other options to choose from

Single motherhood… women are to blame more than the deadbeat men
Women have the power to choose who they breed with

[sani]

Elders mimi sinaga shida na single mothers. Kwa ii maisha, lazima upande, mwengine ashuke, mpatane mahali.

Kwa kilimo, kuna miti za kienyeji ziko na root system mzuri, lakini matunda yake si mazuri vile. Kuna miti Zengine zina matunda bora zaidi, lakini root system mbaya. Izo mbili ukifanyia grafting zitakupea mti mzuri wenye mazao bora zaidi.

Mwanamke anaweza kuwa single mother, lakini awe na bidii sana kwa biashara, na kwa kulea watoto. Huyo nitahimiza kijana wangu amuoe bila kufikiria mara ya pili.

[cortedivoire]

Wacha niende vasectomy nisikue baby daddy

[ryzen]

@KING_KING_100

…n
Women gate keep sex …men gate keep relationship…

You win me here but kwa culpability, men gatekeeping the relationships means they are to blame since hawapei single mothers chance watoke streets.

Women are responsible for the bastards, men for the single mothers. Chicken or the egg scenario.

[KING_KING_100]

@sani

…miza kijana wangu amuoe bila kufikiria mara ya pili.

At the end of the day we need simps like you and your son … single mothers ni lazima waolewe and that’s where your lineage comes in

[Baby_Panay]

Watoto wa single mother mumeamua kuongea kabisa? Mtu sijaona ni ile puppy inaitwa @Tauren

To me, if a woman gives birth before saying “I do” huyo ni milaya.

Ktalk tulisema single mothers tunatambua ni widows, legally divorced women, rape and domestic abuse victims.

Hawa wengine wa kuzaa na boyfriend and married men ni meffi to our eyes.

Women hold the key wakaamua hakuna kuzaa na mtu nje ya ndoa Kenya itakuwa poa. Also hii si makosa ya women only. Men pia ujinga ya kuzaa zaa kama dogi ya butchery muache.

Ukizaa nayo pia ulee so that your son doesn’t end up to be a petty thief like @johntez_addi_gaza_ms

[Gaines]

@ryzen

…r the single mothers. Chicken or the egg scenario.

Correction. A small group of men are responsible for the single mothers. For every one baby daddy kuna kama five single mothers. Yet, the ratio of men to women is roughly 50/50. That means kuna 4 innocent men who are being included in a mess they did not create ukigeneralize hivyo. That is the root of the single motherhood problem. Single mothers and women in general try to shift 50% of the blame to men without realizing that most men aren’t baby daddies/deadbeats…its a few jogoos impregnating all the women.

The top 20% of men impregnate all women, but they can only maintain one woman each i.e. 20% of the women they impregnate. That leaves the bottom 80% of men trying to clean a mess they didn’t create.

Msito Tate explained it clearly and I agree with him.

Andrew Tate 'There is 0 Percent Chance I'll Ever Be with a Single Mother Long Term.. Here's Why'

[CARTHOZWENY]

@rexxsimba

There are three ways to become a single mother …

• When a partner absconds , exits or refuses to be part of a family for whatever reasons.
• When a Lady opts for the option of IFV.
• When a single lady assumes responsbility for Orphans or negected minors.

1. When a lady opens her legs like a bitch without thinking about the consequences of her actions should top the reasons

[sani]

@KING_KING_100

…azima waolewe and that’s where your lineage comes in

Haijalishi. Miaka yetu ni fupi sana kwa dunia, na tunasahaulika.
Uwe ulikuwa hiki, ama kile, yote inasahaulika

[Landlord]

@sani

Mwanamke anaweza kuwa single mother, lakini awe na bidii sana kwa biashara, na kwa kulea watoto. Huyo nitahimiza kijana wangu amuoe bila kufikiria mara ya pili…

You are wise.

[dingoo_wa_ingoo]

@rexxsimba

So what portion of stupidity do you allocate to the deadbeat father …??

Zero - womens is the guardians of sex. she chooses who she lets clap them cheeks, it’s HER fault.

[dingoo_wa_ingoo]

@sani

Mwanamke anaweza kuwa single mother, lakini awe na bidii sana kwa biashara, na kwa kulea watoto. Huyo nitahimiza kijana wangu amuoe bila kufikiria mara ya pili.

@Landlord

You are wise.

if you’d entertain such thoughts, you really must hate your son(s).

[sani]

@dingoo_wa_ingoo

…ain such thoughts, you really must hate your son(s).

I know a lot about society and human relations.

[majizee]

@dingoo_wa_ingoo

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[Lionheart]

@Kidete

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With that said, I cannot marry a single mother regardless of her character or financial status. Here are my reasons

1. Children who were raised by single mums from birth can only identify their mums as the SOLE figure of authority. That’s why 99% of step dads find it rough when their step kids become teenagers who constantly remind them that “You’re not my real dad!”

2. I don’t want to become a parent on someone else’s terms. Based on the unique bond shared by the single mum and child, the mother will rarely allow your input towards parenthood. She is used to making all parental decisions by herself and this will cause endless arguments when you try to chip in your point of view.

@rexxsimba , I agree with @Kidete on this.
In fact I do socialize with one, the widowed mother of a boy. She’s a very friendly, hardworking and kind person, but we are just family friends. I think it really differs from person to person.
As for dating, that’s tricky. Never done it, don’t wish to, and the tricky part is how you will relate with the kids if you step in in place of the father. It’s complicated.

[Predacon]

Kuoa single mother is an undisputable exhibition of a man being daft. Hio ndoa itakuwa ya watu watatu au zaidi: wewe, mke na baba ya/za watoto wake (kama kila mtoto ana baba tofauti). Ufala mtupu.