Very eye opening on the issue of separation and Copa renting. This is not my experience so I give credit to the writer a Kenyan lady who lives abroad and is married to a junguu and a mom of two.
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It’s unfortunate that society feels one isn’t in a position to speak about a topic unless they’re that in their present situation. Just because am not infected doesn’t mean I have never been affected. Guys just because am able to presently raise our children together doesn’t mean I haven’t experienced single parenting, my parents were both single parents. My mum walked out of her marriage when I was 4 years . So they officially separated but never legally divorced. Leaving my dad to raise my half siblings on his own . We stayed with her in dandora after she left our home in upperhill. Later at the age of nine my father moved to kileleshwa and I joined him and even attended the school there , I willingly wanted my father and my parents respected that. One thing about my parents despite their differences they never showed it publicly. Only when they went to cooker . Back to my situation, Friday I was with mum in dandora until Monday , morning I left for school and Monday evening I was with dad in Kileleshwa. I am that child so I speak from experience Finally when my mum got the chance to take me to the school she wanted ,she informed my dad who had been taken ill and they agreed that I could move with mum back to dandora and attend agakhan primary.
So I may not be cooperating or a single parent . but I have been coparented so am surely on my right . I watched my parents struggle to be single parents and trust me it’s not the easiest thing but one got to do it. What’s worse my dad died , all the times I wish he was alive even if he was reckless. Nothing can replace my dad . When I left to live with mum and attend agakhan , access to daddy was next to impossible because the school was far and I had to study every evening so I pass exams and I even had Saturday classes. I used to be exhausted catching the school bus to parklands. I was devoted to church so Sunday I went to church Saturday after did laundry house chores. So I lost touch with daddy last he asked for me when I went he was a shadow of himself and next to death . So this is my lane and am on the right lane.
Another thing my father told me to ensure that I make better decisions than he made. He told me to pick a man who’ll respect and love me as he did and a man who’ll be responsible for his family. A man who’ll be a provider and take his parental responsibilities with the seriousness it deserves. He made me promise to walk out when I felt the relationship wasn’t serving my interest especially my mental health as my mother did. Nicholas owned up to me that he has a very good thing going with my mum but he himself destroyed it. He told me he had been begging my mum to go back to him but she was hesitant once he didn’t get what he wanted when he wanted he went back to do the same mistakes and mum would tell him you see you can’t change .