Choosing A Marriage partner

Guys when looking for a wife do u look at compatibility i.e shared interests as in you both love football,same music,both hate politics,sex with her is on top of the world,she doesnt ask for your money,both think of investment,she always apologises for big/small erros ama mistakes she makes bila hard feelings…etc.Ama its opposite attract?

Its coz i have a pal whos from a rich family.Dude is 33yrs,works in Govt but drinks bila tabia as in hes been in and out of rehab for many times.He got a chic,27yrs working also in Govt but chic ni dame wa kanisa but detests her jamaas alcoholism but they have been on/off relationship for over 5yrs.Last Nov they got married(My pals think parents forced the dude 2get married ndiyo awache pombe mapka they built for them a 2bedroom hse)Now 3months have passed & dude was hospitalized coz of uclers & still drinks like a fish & looks depressed.Maoni

do fish drinks?

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me nangoja tu kusoma maoni

Maoni yangu hao wazazi wanipe hio nyumba na huyo bibi halafu nikuwe mtoto wao.

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Ok, that’s a serious case. I think the reason women choose such guys is in their nurturing orientation. Otherwise why would a saved chic kubali to get married to such a guy? It’s simply because they think they can change them.

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…yes they does

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following on behalf of fellow fishes

We share same values in life.

I see what you did mate.

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Ni wewe ama beshte?

She is still hoping he will change, a woman of faith.

Hizo maswali umeuliza hazishikani na hio story kapsaaaa
That’s a chronic case of spoiled brat!!!

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Messiah complex (also known as the Christ complex or savior complex)

The day ata realise hawezani atakuwa full of curses how the jamaa wasted her

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looking for a wife do u look at compatibility => BORING LIFE

Ama its opposite attract? => INTERESTING COUPLE. KILA MTU NA WAZIMU ZAKE & UNPREDICTABLE

Kwa Ufupi nasema hivi…

Tulifunzwa shule nursery that you supposed to get the imperfect and try to make them perfect…Wasipobadilika face Mount Kenya in prayers and hope watachange tu with time…

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Ulitoka rehab? Ok. Sasa ushaamuoa?
Sorait… Ukalazwa hosi.?.. Okay okay

You stole that from my head man. @ricko what say you? How are the ulcers?

One Jackson Biko (Bikozulu) once said the “right woman/man for you is one who make peace with your weaknesses even before you do.” If this is the line of thought you take while ‘looking’ for a life partner I see no mess too big to be solved when this partner comes along. Mtaclick tu na ndoa iwork. Again, compatibility is key…BUT si kitu inakuja tu fwa…it’s something two people work to achieve; You can’t both love football with the same intensity, love/hate politics bla bla…unless kuna mmoja anapretend apo.

About church girls being attracted to ‘people of the world’ - ni ukweli. At least mi nime-experience. I once met this guy who would at all times mention all the church-related stuff that he does while free. Ati “leo niliamka nikasoma Word, later nikaenda zoezi kidogo while listening to Chris Tomlin songs…mara kesho naenda Bible study,…Do you pray for your boyfriend? Does God listen to you? God hukuambia nini”…Huyu ni kamtu kalikuwa wa world pia juzi juzi sa ameokoka anaona yeye ni Righteous kuliko kila mtu, nkt! There’s just something about (SOME) Christian guys that completely draws us further from them…You’re saved, I acknowledge that, you do weekly Bible study, I acknowledge that too! Lakini sasa ukianza kucampaign kwa kila mtu venye wewe ndio unajua kuspeak in tongues kuliko wenye wameinvest kwa hio business…apo hapana! I thought we’re taught to not let even our left hand kn0w what our right hand is doing!! :):slight_smile:

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@Phenomenal Woman .

Values =/= interests.

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Or the chick could be eyeing the wealth :frowning:

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