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The Plight Of Kenyan Men: Is Your Father Okay?

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By Diaspora Messenger Last updated Jan 19, 2019

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A recent research of homesteads especially among the urban Kikuyu’s reveals a worrying trend, where the father figure either died a while back, or is overly depressed, a drunkard or both. A conversation with my elderly caretaker yesterday centered on the recent death of Abel Mugenda the husband to a renowned scholar and former Kenyatta University VC. The Mugenda family happens to be our neighbors and the conversation with our caretaker was therefore, based on factual details.

He retorts, “Abel, may have been facing serious depression, but just like most men, he was ashamed to affirm that his eyes were teary (after all African men don’t cry).” He continues “You don’t know how hard it is to be under the shadows of a successful woman, it is like carrying live coal on top of your head, on a windy day. Of course no one will confirm it was suicide, but we all know he was depressed.” He concluded. The old man continues to count for me so many other homesteads around us where the men have become cabbages and only drink from dawn to dusk and the fact that it is a common trend for the man to eventually die, while leaving behind a strong well-maintained woman, despite their age gap being minimal, you know the type of widows who fly to China and Dubai often and own harriers.

But the conversation got me thinking, why would a 66 year old, celebrated scholar, a don in a prestigious university and a man of means decide to jump from the 6th floor of a hotel room? Even worse why would he leave his matrimonial home to rent out a hotel room “alone” on the eve of the new year? Recently, a top employee in a well-renowned audit firm did the same in his office in Westlands and died on the spot. I know many men in marriages, men of the cloth, rich men and poor men who are at the verge of suicide. Therefore, the question is how well is your father?

A rumor went around recently that men no longer eat at home, because they are weary of shrewd wives who make meals for their husbands and intentionally add small portions of steel wire on their food leading to slow but inevitable death. Another rumor has it that especially in cases where couples have vast properties the woman gives the man the leeway to drink himself silly and even gives him a daily stipend for alcohol, with the results evident in central Kenya. As I have indicated, these are rumors, but they also provide a basis for a discourse on the plight of men. How well is your father?

Even when we call home, the chance of calling our mothers is definitely higher than our dad’s. Has the African man been so awful that they eventually die a death of solitude and regret? For us who are now young men, with families, what must we begin to do to ensure that at old age we are not part of these statistics? When I reached my wife for a comment, she noted that in most cases, the problem is that the men mistreat their families during their youthful days. When the children eventually grow up, the man loses favor with the family and is relegated to a beggar both emotionally and financially. How true this is, I can’t verify. All I know is that men do cry but when they do they do it secretly and in that state the devil visits them and they end up forming an uncanny relationship, which we all know how it ends. Please talk to your father.

Peter Karanja

:mad:Why have read this a million times this week

Maisha tuichukulie with a light attitude.

Also prepare to die alone. No matter how good you treat your family, your wife does not owe you gratitude for taking care of her; neither do your children. Do not expect gratitude from them. Treat them well and expect nothing. But also treat yourself like a king. That way you can show life the finger when you finally bow out. Exit like a boss.

A boss like the prof should have been getting a murderous bj new year eve. Instead he locks himself in a room. That, while other old men are sitting nextdoor in a bar toasting to “tender buttocks and wet snatches” or whatever other naughty senile wisecracks.


This dudes who are always on about this Alpha bullshit are the most timid individuals who are typically loners and feel the need to sooth their fragile egos at every opportunity. On the contrary men who are alphas I. E confident about themselves won’t spend a second proving the fact.

It’s a high time the Kenyan society, started embracing other forms of sexual relationships in marriage, apart from polygamy, which is one sided.
Time is ripe for spouse swap, group sex and getting an extra partner to join in the bedroom.
Hii wife swap italeta heshima kuba sana kwa watu, imagine a scenario whereby, @Panyaste na @Motokubwa are involved spouse swap.

Mambo ya mugenda tulisema yeye Ni INCEL,son of a failed Father,yeye Ni generation ya kwanza among three generations that lack strong male role model to teach them masculine behavior,the kikuyu men today,are victims of societal breakdown brought about by colonizers ,where men were sent to detention camps and young boys wakawachiwa women to" raise" them ,women can’t raise a man ,never , matokeo Ni beta males

In my eyes, you are a cunt with an extension

steel wire kills? i thought it passes out with:meffi: since it cant be absorbed in the blood? anyhu,what do i know

Yea wanaume wanaumia. I know of a family which has completely isolated the father on claims that he abandoned the mother when he had money in his 40s. Yes it’s true and he even got himself a younger lady during that time although she left after he retired…But that was 20years ago! Now the man is suffering and alone while the seven children, all working abroad, dine their mom and take her to holidays abroad and have even put up a nice mansion for her. Last week the father got a stroke, waiting to see how they respond…very sad situation…am not judging because I don’t know what they went through but talkers please forgive your fathers…they didn’t know any better…the generation that has come after them has learnt those lessons and is correcting those mistakes.

choices have? Hakuna vile you forgive your father if he deserted you .if they separate he must take care of his children

Funny thing is, if I was in his shoes feeling stressed or feeling frustrated and sidelined by my wife. The first thing I’d do is get slices elsewhere

Probably he is flat broke. No woman even the village uneducated ones would go for a broke,old man.

Hata 300 ya SJ hakuna?