Sasa kama hujapata works, na hawakufungulii biz, unaambiwa utoke uende wapi at 22? Ukakuwe mwizi ama malaya?
Your parents are heartless. Hebu chunguza kama you are adopted.
At 22, I was already making good money through a monetized blog I was running…Saa hii unapata mtu ako 29 with a degree na hajui kutengeneza pesa..Baby sitting is too much
Mashavu hajawai hama Kwa mummy. Kila mtu anajua hivo. Meffi wewe
There is nothing wrong with living in your mother’s/parents home/homestead, coz that is your ancestral home/land. They should show kijana pahali ya kujenga simba on the homestead and life goes on. Unataka kijana aende wapi and that is his home? Even if you live in an apartment in nairobi onyesha kijana bedoom yake and he can live there as long as he wishes, apana sumbua yeye coz that is his home where he was born and raised up. Na kama unaishi karen wacha kijana aishi SQ for as long as he wishes because it is the primary duty of a parent to provide shelter and food to their offspring.
If you have a kid at 22, let me just say utatumia akili ama mkundu.
You should know that nearly all kenyans in cities/towns have rural homes they come from and are in cities kutafuta pesa. Even those buying plots in urban areas are doing so to build homes close to their places of work/business so that they stop paying rent, others buy the plots to develop for income generation. So it is stupid for you to think that you are the only kenyan owning rural land.
You are so BITTER. take it easy
This is the 21st century. Enzi za kupata kazi immediately after campus ziliisha 1999. Siku hizi a child is a 25+ year financial commitment at least!! Some of us were lucky to get decently-paying gigs in our early 20s, lakini hizo avenues zilikuwa flooded already. Nowadays ukipata mtoto be prepared to finance them for a minimum of 25 years if you want to set them up for success. That means umsupport hadi amalize masters ama phd na aingie job ama aanze a profitable hustle. This is a new age na enzi za kusahau mtoto akiingia university first year ziliisha. That is an extremely stupid thing to do nowadays.
Siku hizi if you want your child to succeed you should hold their hand as long as realistically possible - 25-30 years. Also, ukiweza mpee boost kama anafungua biz, mnunulie suti na umpee fare ya kuenda interviews, etc. Give him/her every advantage juu the world is tough to those without parental support. Starting from the bottom is overrated - a fact that most peasants don’t know. Most birrioneas had a headstart in life.
They never have anything positive to say about their neighbours. A key trait.
These are the effects of colonialism and its imposed systems our people refuse to get rid off.
Many rights of passage such as circumcision’s were viewed as an acceptance into the community as a young adult (no longer a child) and the responsibilities that came with that stage in life. Western lifestyles imposed on our elders and passed down to us, have reduced our cultural rights of passage ceremonies to a regular occasion of little significance. Now we have grown adults living with their parents who keep them in perpetual child like dependence and with little life skills to survive outside of the home. Arrested development is what mzungu psychologist call this phenomenon
Stop the Blame. Take responsibility for your own actions and change them for the generation to come starting with your offspring.
Mtoto kuishi na mzazi sio hatia. According to several cultures, kwa wahindi for example have mansions and they all live under one roof, They help each other na with that hutapata mtoto anateseka.
Kama kenyans wanataka kuishi na wazazi wao, all is well. Maisha ni yao na haikuhusu ,
Most of you don’t even know the cost of a roll of chainlink fence and you think you can build anything from scratch.
Quite amusing.
My children wont live in isolation so I too have a responsibility to open as many eyes as I can. I have offered my view on a potential root cause that you can either offer a counter opinion or remain silent if you have nothing to contribute other than generic statements. We are African and not Indian…our solutions should be tailored to fit us.
watu wanafaa kuishi pamoja kama family.
wale wazazi wanataka kufanya umalaya, na wale wazazi wavivu hawakuinvest wakiwa vijana, ndio hufukuza watoto ndio waachwe peke yao
Depends how the parents are kama ni wale waliona mtoto ni mzigo walilazimishwa wabebe unafukuzwa ati they want you to grow independent for your own good.That home will never be your safe haven maisha ama spouse ikikutandika.
Mimi a year after dropping out of college nikipewa marching orders at 23.
Good parents probably will never kick their kids out
In african culture when someone was circumcised and considered an adult, he wasnt chased out of the home, rather the father showed him where to build his house and the land to till to support himself and his family. So grown adults actually lived with their parents on the family homestead. Hii upus ya chasing away adult children is unafrican and must stop.
Luo homestead:
Kikuyu homestead
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Maasai homestead
Case closed
Same reason divorce rates huko US happen when the kids are off to college. Niligundua until you reach 50’s and kids are off to college don’t count your marriage as successful.
Kuna watu that approach families/children as a bucket list item. Kuna mmoja Ule Surgeon wa US i dated, aliniambia vile walifika Campus aliwafukuza kutoka kwa nyumba.
Was saying she really never wanted kids, na hizo miaka were a waste, got divorced na akaanza umalaya.