Baby mama and I been having issues and I think it’s time to part ways. I’m currently not in the mood to talk to her since it always gets me so angry.
Today she sent me a text telling me that we need to talk about taking care of the child. Ni story ya doh tu. The woman is currently not working and the child is a 2 years old.
Naona ni kama anataka kuni shortchange.
How much roughly should I be giving her monthly or which obligations should I take on my part?
Lipa @D… Mungai consulteshen fee akueleze vile game huchezwa. Tell her to draw a list of everything the baby needs na unanunua, usikuwe unapea hio ghaseer cash. Ata kama huwes buy shopping unatuma voucher. Hosi unatafuta insurance, and keep receipts and MPESA statements for ile siku utapelekwa Children’s court, coz that day is coming.
Don’t send her any cash directly ,she’ll be eating your own sweat with other beta males.
Hakuna kitu ingine I will add. When a woman starts to be unreasonable, to get back her reasons will take time. So be prepared.
chunga mtoto boss
Venye @captain obvious amesema.The only thing naeza ongezea ni ukipatia yeye pesa itakuwa inatumia ku entertain the rebound omega males.
Mtoto ni wako,you have a source of income na yeye yuko jobless.if she takes you to court and you prove that you have been taking care of the child you can use that as a basis of getting custody.That way,you will minimize the chance of the kunguru using the child to milk you dry.
Sikatai but I dont want her to take advantage of me because of a baby. You know how these women are
For the next week ar so, list everything the baby uses in a week, multiply by four, and that’s what you’ll be buying monthly. Usijaribu kutumia hiyo nugu cash, she’ll use it on useless shit like makeup, shoes, and basically to show off to her friends just how “independent” she is. Pitia supermarket, buy the stuff the kid needs, pelekea eye, and ALWAYS keep the receipts in a file pigs ata shopping yenyewe picha if you can, alafu make sure all or most of your communications are on text and screenshot everything. Tengeneza Dropbox file and keep those screenshots and pics of stuff you buy cause sooner or later, you’ll find yourself in children’s court and you’ll need all the ammo you can lay your hands on to annihilate her ass. All the best man, and don’t let a woman turn your life upside down just because she has your child.
Thanks man. I will do exactly that. I heard her mention something about me paying her rent also. I was left wondering if that’s my responsibility as well.like She can’t hustle and provide anything for the child. Not food, shelter or anything
Nimeogopa sana hii watu, hata mtoto sitaki kumpata sasa
What if she can’t hustle because of circumstances out of her control? Hapo itabidi you pay their rent. Yes, you are ultimately responsible for their welfare. Stop getting mad about it or angry at her. Hataki “kuku shortchange.” Kwani you thought kids are cheap to raise? Man up!
Unalipa aje rent nyumba huishi?
Mimi i was told everything I did is being paid by my office :D:D:D:Dyaani she wants to see me pay nikitoa pesa kwa mfuko ndio hafurahi.
The thing with such women, they don’t want to separate from you, they just need to make you sing their song and they know if you have money you can get any woman you want easily especially in that period. So anataka afunge pesa yako ukose dem then humrudie kama unalia. Next mtoi atapelekwa Montessori ya 150k.
My advice is, she wants your money for you not to get any other woman (to diminish your value in girls market) if this fails, she will use the kid to diminish your money through high school fees, medical expenses etc. Soo kaaa macho.
There are 5 basic needs of a child.
- Shelter
- Food
- Education
- Health
- Clothing
The one staying with the kid (actual custody) does 3 things. Mostly uwa Shelter, Food, Clothing.
The other party does
Education
Health
Sometimes, food top up. Around 5k a month for any child below 10 years.
What does the law say if she’s not able to provide for these 3? Will the man be forced to pay for them?
Weeee wacha uongo. Utalipaje rent nyumba huiishi? Mimi kama baba who pays my rent? Who knows if I have eaten, who knows about my daily expenses? Hio nyumba gharama yake ni mtoi pekee.
Kama hana uwezo wa kulea apeane mtoi if she gets back to her feet, jamaa can give her back the kid.
Remember this is a 16 years to come arrangement (mtoi ako 2 years old) jamaa can’t pay rent for 16 more years in a house ambae haishi.
That lady should work, or rather DID THE LADY DIDN’T KNOW KULEA NI KAZI as you try to say to the guy, ama it’s only the guy who is supposed to know that?
Stop with the fucking shaming. If the mother can’t afford anything then she should give up custody to the father. Mimi nyumba siishi siwezi lipa rent ata na dawa, besides parenting is a 50/50 gig, and he’s ready to foot more than 50% of the bills. If she can’t even provide shelter then what good is she? Apatiane mtoto kwa mzazi mwenye anajiweza.
Photocopy receipts. POS issued receipts fade with time. Then attach with the original and file. Kama hayuko job, walipie rent. Lakini usipeane cash, akupatie rent account, deposit and forward the payment message.
Who determines if she can’t provide? Is she a homeless? Yeye ni chokoraa? Hana chakula hana nguo? If that’s so the guy takes the kid in a 5 minutes open court submission.
Bro, kuna watoto mathare, kibera, lodwar, wajir, and they live with their parents, or mothers. So hakuna story I can’t afford/provide.
What ladies do is they say I can’t “provide” the life the dad can, so am hopeless:D:D:Dbut the dad now is a dad, husband to someone else.
Remember the court is aware it can force to maintain a lifestyle which you won’t agree to, it’s usually Kids interest at heart. Na watoi hawakuli pesa nyingi most of the funds uwa ya mama. Kids expenses goes up when they go to school
Fanya DNA kwanza …siku hizi nikubaya…
She will never look for a job, ulipe rent, ulipe school fees, ulipe medical cover, u buy food, aaaaaiiiiiiiiiiii ata wewe umekuja sana. Kwani jamaa’s life is about a family he doesn’t live with?
When a family breaks up alot of things BREAKS UP don’t expect things to be normal when already life is not the same
That’s not your responsibility man. If you can afford a good lawyer I think you can use that to get full custody. I don’t know. Lakini usilipe nyumba my fren. Kama hawezi afford akupatie mtoto wako umlelee kwako.