Between 0-10 years, children spend most of their time with their mothers and this where the male child is always manipulated to seek validation.
As a mother, she manipulates the young boy-for example, she only congratulates the young after doing something like cleaning, taking the dirt out. This validation becomes addictive with time and he must continue to work to receive it. Meanwhile the young girl is always told how a princess she is without the need to work for anything.
The man grows into adulthood with this manipulation tactic that he must do something to get it an approval.That’s where the problem begins in the interaction between the male and the female because men are doers. The male will always look for a woman so that he can be validated just like he was ‘taught’ by his mother. He will go to accept friendship with the woman even when the benefits unreciprocated onto him because this validation. That’s why you find some men are mistreated in their marriage/relationship and you wonder why they can’t quit; it’s because of the validation.
In the era of social media, have you ever wondered why women didn’t give likes to a male picture but would (unless he was an alpha) and would like their female counterparts in droves? They know that the male must work for the validation and it should be given in droplets. The droplets validation keeps the male addicted and checked(controlled).
How do you stop this?
One thing you have to know is that the world is amoral. Nobody cares if you win dirty. You just have to win. Winning means you are allowed to against the social contrast and that will include, not conforming to societal validation bullshit. Winning also include being selfish with your time and resources. You should always ask yourself in any encounter be it with a woman, a business, a man; What is it in for me? Always put yourself first nobody will.
Yes, but when a man reach 25 years, the brain cells becomes much stronger that cannot sustain the manipulation. The man realizes he was manipulated and still being manipulated. Then men decide to go to the planteshen because of such early manipulations.
Me too. Every relationships am making lazima ikuwe kuna kitu am targeting.
I am entertaining a single mother coz ako na connection kwa kanjo. Another one nataka anionyeshe mashimo ya kuendea vitu flani. Nowadays it isn’t even about sex. Ni biz.
Am scared nimekuwa psycho coz I always want something from people.
Reminds of a certain series called Animal Kingdom where Smurf’s son, Andrew (Pope) hufanya kila shit mamake anamshow just for approval and validation since he was a teen.
I believe that life is very easy but people over complicate it for no reason; in the end they bring hurt into their hearts and minds. The devil has really got people in a chokehold, love has waxed cold due to the increase in evil which is very sad. You’re free!