Xtreme Mourning

So there’s this lady with whom we’ve maintained a plutonic relationship for the longest time. She’s cute like hell and I even sometimes fantasize about her lakini I am a one-woman man so fantasy yangu ni mbio za sakafuni ambazo huishia ukingoni. But I digres…

She in October 2015 lost her parents and all her siblings in a road accident hapa Thika Road, leaving her an only child (mtu amefika 25 siwezi muita orphan). Sasa… most mazishi nime-attend upande wa Rift Valley, Central (na Kisii); watu hulia tu mdogo mdogo. Unaskia tu ma sniff, watu ma-handerchif kwa mapua. Of course if umeenda mazishi “pacho ka baba” unajua non-family members[professional mourners] (and even a few close ones) watu ni kupiga “samaa” na kulia kulingana na mourn-o-meter. Usipolia kwa bidii wanaweza hata dai ni wewe unajua “kikulacho”.

Kama umewahi kuenda “Ingoo”, unajua hiyo Isikuti hucharazwa mpaka ng’ombe yenye Khalwale alipea bangi ikatoa hiyo ngozi inalia hata kama @Wakanyama aliashaiuza Dagoo!. “tu-tu-tu! tu-tu-tu! 'Luwere{3,2,3} , Luwere Nyasaye akhulinde!, tu-tu-tu! tu-tu-tu!” … Hawa vijana wakishavuta ndomu na wa-kunywe “marwa” ‘kitoko’ tu; isikuti mpaka asubuhi. Were it not that uko kwa maombolezo/mazishi, you may even like it… na sa hizo the dead guy ako kwa open casket pale mbele…; and if you have unfinished business with the dude, just go there and “talk” to him. Akikijibu ujue kuna shida. Lakini kusikia atasikia… or so the theory goes.

…back to my story…

so this chick is all devastated, collapsing every now and again… sometimes upto four times a day, calling “Woooi Daddy!, Mum! Mum! mummeniacha na nani…!!” Over, and Over and Over. Faint!! Wake up! Start again! Over, and over, and over… Basically just being miserable. Understandable coz they were a close-knit family; and in fact, were it not for last-minute, job-related commitments angekua nao pale!

When she gets all sad and mournful, her friends who are helping her out also start crying and the whole thing becomes one, huge sad affair. And when it all goes to shit, they call me “IsMundu, si uongee na rafiki yako awache kulia haki”

Sasa leo amelia, akalia, akalia… and all efforts to calm her were not fruitful. I got mad. Nikamwambia “Juliet! Stop being selfish. Your friends have been by your side for like three weeks! When you cry so miserably you affect all of them. They have been strong for you for three weeks. It’s now your turn to be strong for them! They are also hurting (most are cousins)! It’s time to put all this sad affair behind us and move on!”

She fainted!

Now everyone is on my case. “Why are you being so heartless!.. Blah, blah, blah!!!”

So… Am I really heartless, or just pragmatic! And… does the world have love for pragmatic people!!? NB: Wazazi wangu walijikata pia; but kitambo kidogo… Hii drama hakukuwa. Does it mean I loved my parents less?

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Let her mourn

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get your friend professional help ASAP…ako beyond where she should heal naturally…

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why digress from hio story ya ng’ombe na tututuu luwereee. inzaaka ndio mwisho. hanyway mtu ka huyo you leave her alone alie alie then when relaxed kiasi you talk sense the way you did. I force people to accept the finalith of death. Fact they are not coming back. Fact, there is nothing anybody could have done or can do. We have to pick the pieces and live on. We are now in two different realms from the dead; turn away from the grave and go to the living

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Seconded

Let her cry n cry …3 weeks are too short , let her be

That’s heartless, after such a devastating loss mtu ka huyo ata akimourn for a whole year hakuna shida, in my opinion.
ION, wewe inakaa uko na kasoro flani. Si ni wewe uliwahi post (i think in klost) about how people around you were just dying left right and centre?

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I know we are all wired differently lakini… seriously… 3 weeks!?

vile @gashwin amesema hata kama ni usaidizi wa pastor…losing your a whole family in one accident is too much for anyone to bear

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@captain obvious nilibonga kuhusu friend yangu mwenye ako Germany hosi. And sadly, he is still there and… people are still dying (58 now). We are yet to bury a kid who died this past Monday in India. Kumleta home hatutoboi… but in as much as everyone amehepa, I am still hanging in there… almost two years later!! Maybe I’ve become impervious and/or indifferent!!

Fcuk the Internet… IT never forgets

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58 and counting?.. afadhali sasa muanza kuappease huyo mchawi aliwakemea…hii ndio inaitwa kulambwa na shetani?

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ehm, they died in October. 3 weeks is the current stint

She needs proffesional help

My “friends” walisha anza kunihepa nisiwambukize. Most say I MAY be next. But like I said; I am not one to run away from a friend in need just because shit is tight and some supernatural shit is inferred (curse, witchcraft, sins of the father/mother, abomination…)!! I will die some day anyway!!

pole kwa misiba kaka

Hatuna budi ila kutii amri. But 58 deaths of close friends and family in 23 months does raise serious eyebrows - it does not matter whether you look at it medically, religiously and/or spiritually. Science dictates that co-incidences do not exist. There must be a scientific explanation!! I am yet to place a pulse on it, but I am not playing the witchcraft or curse card!! …At least, not yet!!!

58 over a 2 year period??? Yaani tuseme every fortnight mnazika mtu? I’m ashamed to say if I was one of your friends I’d probably create some distance for fear of getting sucked into whatever’s causing all those deaths. Na chanzo cha hayo maafa yote ni? Even if you’re not sure of the cause you must be aware of rumours about the origin. Pole lakini.

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Really…have u ever lost someone close, it will take yrs

labda mliattend get together au arusi ya mmoja wenu mkakula poison yenye inawaua pole pole? mlikuwa na dispute ya mali?

how exactly do you define close friends and family? I know a lot of us can count many people who have died in the last 23 months but most of them don’t fall in “close bracket”

3 wks is a very short time to mourn for the lose of your whole family, people you have known for 25 good years.

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