Sometimes I thank God for being a man. In the last few months I have met a number of women in my age range 27-33 who I went to the same primary school with. I met another one today and I have observed some recurrent themes. Women experience the devastating effects of aging more than men (generally). Today I met a lady who was three classes behind me in primary school. I could have sworn that she is 40 before I recognized her face. Men can get away with a lot of bullshiett if they have a fat wallet. Women - not so much, because society judges women based on looks. 10 years ago this woman was the shiett then I guess she got two kids with a bum and you know how the story goes from there. It was sad talking to her because I could literally see the distant memories of her youth. Now, broke as a joke, with two kids in tow from a deadbeat and asking me for a job connection. I wasn’t surprised when I was asked whether najuana na huyo mama - the one asking me doesn’t know the “mama” is younger than her. I concluded that life isn’t kind to women especially if they sire kids with broke deadbeats. Men have their own challenges but men’s challenges are often reversible e.g alcoholism. Women’s challenges are often irreversible e.g siring kids with a bum or aborting too many times and damaging the uterus.
Its sad that women make life-long decisions at their most vulnerable moment when they are young and stupid. It’s truly a man’s world out there. Imagine having to make the most important decision of your life at 21-23 years because for women, the man they sire kids with is the most important decision they make in life.
Have a look at the top 100 wealthiest women. 95% of them are heiresses or divorcees. Very few women become multimillionaires or billionaires from their own effort. I used money as a measure because it can counteract most of the negatives that come with aging i.e a wealthy older woman still won’t turn heads, but at least she has the lifestyle to cushion her. If a woman bets on the wrong horse at 23, she is fucked because her main predictor of future success is the man she marries - not her own effort.
I remember reading an article on the Daily Mail about millionaires in the UK. Out of the 114 new female millionaires, only 2 were self made. The rest either inherited their wealth or divorced their rich husbands. Now, women can’t choose their parents. Therefore, the most important decision within their control is the man they marry as the data shows.
I have noticed from the other thread as well that you seem to think that as a man you have lot of power in matters pairing. Well shock on you, you don’t.
This is the modern world, and dynamics changed a long time ago.
A woman can easily use you for your brown skin to get a baby. And that’s all she wants : a brown child.
Atafute mturkana apate a dark black baby. Na ukitaka kulea wote shauri yako. All she wanted were the babies NOT YOU.
You have no power at all. Whether ufanye dna ni shauri yako tu.