Also delaying does not guarantee anything.
Can you mentally survey the number of successful married (10+) 40 year olds vs single 40 year olds. Results may shock you.
add this to the list of things that never happen
Can you mentally compare the standards of living today vs 20 years ago…Results might shock you.
For the ladies , kama mko kwa hii thread, marriage is the same old Isht , whether you get married in your 20’s …30’s … 40’s onwards .
Whether you cook like chef Gio or carry a Vera sidika’s bum , these boys are not and will never be loyal.
Marriage needs patience and maturity to handle the bad things when they come along… and they always do.
Well like you said it depends on who you settle down with. If she is a woman of virtue you will thrive(but how many do we have in existence). Otherwise at 28 you will look like a 60 year old cause of the leeching and stress level you are being subjected to. Plus look at the alarming number of single mothers in their 20s. These are probably products of the ideology of settling young. So for me it’s a 50/50 thing.
You are right…women can drain you both financially and emotionally…You are talking of 100k lying somewhere, I have over 2M and thinking of a way to improve my lifestyle thanks to my decision to go MGTOW. You are your first priority, this thing of ati get married early is a scam. Do it when ready and don’t conform to pressure.
No risk no gain, use your wits while selecting your future mama not your cock.
MGTOW’S have their logic and your dad had his, all I’d recommend when it comes to separating chaff from wheat is to watch carefully how impressionable your girl is. How much undue influence her family, friends and colleagues wield over her, if she is tractable wachana na huyo quick fast.
A solid person is the one who thinks and acts independently, izi zingine ni bendera za kupepea any direction
It’s better when you can afford childcare, health insurance, housing etc. Raising a family with no financial stability is a very bad idea, and very few people achieve that in their 20’s.
OP you have raised some good points but young men you don’t want to get married when you have nothing. Your woman will not TRUST your judgement. There is nothing that hurts than sharing with your wife your plans to get wealthy and she’s just yessing you with a flat tone and boredom kwa umbali because she doesn’t believe in your plans.
I know this woman who lives in Pipeline. She has a husband and 2 daughters. Haki tu ni vile I am a self respecting African man because I could easily turn her into a MWK.
Young men get this in your sculls - women trust men who have something/wealth. They don’t care how you acquired what you have only that you have it. Good looks, high education, and tallness are but bonuses.
I totally agree. A Man is always alone. Even when he is amongst his so called true friends or family. He realises this mostly way to late when life throws a shitstorm at him and he watches everyone that supposedly loved him decamp and question his value and worthiness. His Masculinity is thrown at him in this time of weakness, temporary or long drawn. We as Men ought to know this as a rule. We are disposable and alone and no one cares about you unless you have something tangible they can get from you. Ndume most hazijai kubali hii saga na hiyo ni kujiBlind. You’re a sacrifice to society. Society needs you to clean out and put things in order for it to prosper.
Hahaha you are there sitting your ka 1 bedroom saying how you will build a house in Runda and buy her a car 10 years from now. Akienda huko inje anakatiwa na a 38 year old man who has all that now.
Hizo dreams you’ll have to achieve them solo if you ever will.
You never quit the game because the game will never let you quit it.
Bana… Life’s casino is always dealing cards, why walk away from the table as an infant (28)… Ati umetosheka kucheza,
I have a 3 bedroom apartment.
The comment was not in reference to you but highlighting the fantasy that young men live in and the harsh reality on the ground.
:D:D naomba serikali ikupee some tax relief
The funny thing about this thread is that nobody, even the pro-marriage busybodies who spend time in ktalk shaming senior bachelors, has come out in supoort of it. Kweli kwa ground vitu ziko tricky.
Most of the guys who support marriage are those who bowed to societal pressure. All I know is, a single 40-year old is more potent in the dating scene than a broke 24-year broke ass nigga. Whenever I go to a new drinking den where I am unknown, I always attract the attention of women more than the younger guys. Yesterday, two fine ladies joined me and started conversing with. One was even asking me whether I’m married :D:D. I played to her tunes and I know I will smash her before Friday.
Personally I’m a big proponent of having a family because it’s the best way to create future generation. But I would be deceiving young men if I was to encourage them to go in it bila mpango. Even kuiba thieves have to have a plan otherwise it will fail.
But telling men to remain single all their lives is a sure way of turning them into something unnatural something ungodly. They will either become paedophiles like Catholic fathers or closeted homosexuals like the Arab men. Having as healthy sex life to men is as important as having good nutrition and also getting involved in activities that stimulates the brain.