Women who give men money

Sex & Relationships
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So today I am hearing a story of a young lady working at a bank, she got an irregular loan to give the money to the boyfriend. She got caught. She begged her dad to bail her out of the mess. He paid for the loan so she doesn’t loose the job. After the loan was fully paid she lost the job.

The so called boyfriend gets wind of her predicament, of course after she told him that she was in trouble he kept off. Now he starts tormenting her by calling her with another woman, mocking her for being such an idiot. The lady is down kabisa. Suicidal.

Now I wonder if it’s the money that the man was after why torment the poor woman? Why not just ghost her, block her and leave it at that.

In this forum I have been telling ladies that the only free thing a man should get out of you is poison. Mukasema I hate men but really who hates the other? When you have cost a woman money and a job. Prolly will never work in the banking sector again then you keep kicking her when she is down.

I keep telling yall ladies that men are not your friends and they do not love you, what they love is what they get out of you and this is why when you are on your deathbed they done already found your replacement. You are nothing but a utility to them. Therefore usilete mafeelings into your decisions where men are involved. Always ask yourself would a sane man do what I am about to do for this man? Risk going to jail. Risk your livelihood and money.

Lastly men are sadists, this is why they beat women, abuse women, rape women, abandon women with children, bully women online and IRL. They use every trick to get you to bed, then they go around calling you a cheap hoe. They impregnate you then they call you a depressed singo mother who only deserves to be pumped, dumped and impregnated. As in wakuongezee mzigo. I know a lady very beautiful, I think men hate beautiful women most, so this lady was a single mom of one boy, relationship after relationship, she ended up getting 5 boys from different men, they stay till they impregnate her and then they go to Karura forest. After she died here they were again rallying their individual sons to fight over their mother’s inheritance. People who did not even attend her funeral.

You may think that I am too hard on men but I have seen how they have destroyed women’s lives. When I tell you give a man absolutely nothing,never your money/help, not your body, certainly not your womb, until you get what you want its because I’ve seen what happens to these generous women, who are dishing out everything. From money to babies, to housing, to loans, to sex.

If you don’t want to be traumatized kua mkono gum. I am one of the most generous humans on planet earth but not to men. I am most generous to myself and it gets me in trouble sometimes coz Sijui kujinyima anything my heart desires. I spoil myself. But I digress. I will send 10k to some woman with a sob story on Tuko or Lynn Ngugi than give 500 Bob to a man I know coz I know if I go borrow a man money the next thing he will start feeling entitled to my body. And to my time, calling all hours of the night. Men don’t do anything for free. There’s ALWAYS an ulterior motive. ALWAYS!!!

The same man will be the one spreading malicious rumors about you especially if you decline his advances. I recently heard a story about a married lady who would go out to lunch with some guy who wanted to screw her, after he realized that she was not giving in as quickly as he thought, he drugged her and raped her. Of course he knew that because she was married it was unlikely for her to report the rape and for sure she did not. Personally I never go to lunch alone with any man unless it’s a date and we must go somewhere I know and the staff know me so that if I am drugged they’d rescue me.

Its unfortunate but this is the world we live in. A world where half the population are Predators and pretty much hate and want to completely oppress the other half of the population which is weaker physically, socially and financially.

Ladies think 1000 times before having sex bcz sex with people who have not made any commitment to you isn’t getting serviced or kutoa kutu it’s risking pregnancy bcz watu hurarua condom, with a guy who has no intention of doing right by you. Just steer clear of the sex merry go round where people are getting AIDS, herpes, HPV and unwanted pregnancies, dangerous, life threatening abo.rtions.

As for money, even if you are a billionaire, do not give men money, unless it’s your son or your dad. Keep that money for a rainy day or even to spoil yourself because if you give it to a man, you are giving him the power to hurt you. I am yet to see a woman who gave a man money and didn’t live to regret it. Sijaona bado.

Hawa wanaume hawatupendi na hawajali maslai yetu. If you check how they talk about women even their own wives it’s with contempt, judgements, belittlement and ridicule. No wonder married women are so easy to bed and end up being corporate hoes, they’ve been broken down so much by their husbands that they have no self esteem left. They are a shell of their former selves.

Protect yourself as a woman by saying no to being used. Just say no. Don’t take that loan. Don’t give that money to help him get that deal, don’t invest jointly, don’t move a man into your house, don’t have sex with men who have not married you, certainly don’t get pg or get AIDS in the name of trying to get a man to love you coz wakwenda ataenda tuu hata ujenge the Taj Mahal.

We as women are fragile, we already have all the physiological problems we deal with that men do not. We don’t need anymore problems in our lives. Kaa na dough yako na dry spell yako and have peace of mind.

Of course we should be generous to our dads who have proven themselves to be our allies. If they need ANYTHING let’s move heaven and earth to make them comfortable. But as for these others NO. Give them nothing. Don’t even waste your time listening to their problems. Let them pay a shrink for that, wewe sio mama Yao.

Its either uwe Taliban or you will be another victim of the patriarchal order, like Monica Kuria, the junguu thrown out of the window and the many women who have lost money, raising kids by themselves and suffering from the trauma and getting into cycles of trauma bonding with abusive men who only want to destroy their lives and reputations further. Dunia haina huruma my sisters, it’s upto you to take care of yourself and love yourself enough to protect yourself from Predators and sadists that want to dehumanise and degrade you.

On a light note I saw Aooko the boychild advocate on Gumzo LA Sato on NTV saying that she is so desperate for a man she’s willing to settle with a boda boda guy. How far the mighty have fallen. This is what happens when you forget that this is a patriarchal society and you are still viewed as a second rate citizen no matter how hard you try to be one of the mboys. After her defending the men, they turned on her and she is now begging anyone who wears trousers to just pump and dump her. She will cook and have gin ready for you at her house. This is how far you can stoop when you do not love yourself and your kind. You become a slave to the patriarchal order and instead of being rewarded for your internalized misogyny, you are hated and berated by the same men you take up for.

Here is to an egalitarian world meanwhile stop being naive and dishing out freebies. You are giving sadistic men the weapons to fight you. Be strong and do what is in YOUR best interests.

#womensconference2022

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Monday, 07 February 2022 – Kiss FM presenter, Kamene Goro, has narrated how she was swindled by her ex-lover after a Netflix Documentary dubbed Tinder Swindler went viral.

Narrating her experience on Kiss FM morning show, Kamene said the man started borrowing money from her on the first date.

“There is a guy I used to date. On our first date I ended up giving him 16K, apparently there is something he needed to take care of.

“He was like ‘Unaeza kua na 16K kwa Mpesa? I will refund later.’ To make it look legit he even paid for the bill” she said.

The guy kept on borrowing money from her but she was madly in love and before reality struck her, she had spent a substantial amount of money on him.

The next time he wanted 22K to fly to Kisumu. Before long he would ask me to send cash for lunch so like the good girlfriend I was I would send 5K or 2K.

“I realized there was something fundamentally wrong with the situation but I did not leave.

“I was in Coast for a vacation when the guy called me calling me his ‘sponsor.’ By the time I was breaking up with him I had spent a substantial amount of cash on him,” she added.

Kamene Goro got fed up with the man and eventually broke up with him.

“There was sickness, mara kanjo, maa puncture until I got tired.

“You never know you are with a swindler until you are swindled a big one,” she further said.

The next time he wanted 22K to fly to Kisumu. Before long he would ask me to send cash for lunch so like the good girlfriend I was I would send 5K or 2K.

https://kenyan-post.com/2022/02/kamene-goro-narrates-her-experience-dating-a-swindler-the-man-almost-emptied-her-bank-account/

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The woman lacks ethics anyway the fact that she is a thief in a bank. She schemed the bank. Any man can see that and will place very little value in keeping her. The bank had the same views and let her go. She got what she deserved by her choices.

We are all the same in this world. I can be a CEO in a bank or a boda boda guy. We can both date the same women. Don’t know why some women place themselves on some virtual pedestal thinking they deserve certain high value men. You find you can have better conversations with a mboch than certain women with a pretty face or high status in society.

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Give us the Executive summary nugu hii

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Funny coz she worked for over 10 years in the banking industry and never lacked ethics until she met this guy who was even the one advising her how to get the loan faster in an irregular way.

So the guy was the ethical one according to you? Stop being on sided. If she was unethical, he was more than unethical and he was downright evil to mock her when she was already down.

People have different standards. Clearly you don’t have any standards for the women you are interested in. Honey we are not all the same in this world, that’s why some people live in slums and others in plots were they share basic amenities and others in mansions. I don’t know which conversations are these you have been having with mbotches but I do know that the men who married mbotches acknowledge publicly that they are useless and should the man die the woman would not have the acumen to maintain their children’s lifestyle.

Personally, I don’t consider men to be high value or low level, I just consider whether you at my level or naw. It’s not a virtual pedestal. It’s reality. There’s no way I will of my own volition leave my comfy residence to go down to your kibanda in Eastlandos to appear humble or like I’m not on a virtual pedestal thinking I deserve high value men.

They are not high value to me they are what would be normal for me because they are of my standard. A high value man would be a man who lives at a better adress than I do. Has a better lifestyle than I do. Has better retirement plans than I do. That’s my understanding of high value. Which I think I am deserving of too. But I am just saying, a man of my class is a man I’d consider the norm or my norm.

If you feel like I am on a virtual pedestal perhaps you need to take it up with God bcz it is He who decided where I would be born and how my life would turn out. He decided to put me on what people like you consider high value and virtual pedestal. So if God in His infinite wisdom choose my value,that I should be on a pedestal, who am I to regress and start dating boda boda riders in a misguided attempt to prove that I am humble and I am not entitled.

Not only do I feel entitled, I have become accustomed to a certain way of life. If as a man you can not offer me at least the standard of life that I am accustomed to then unanirudisha nyuma and this life is too short to be back peddling. We are supposed to be climbing the ladder always. In every generation otherwise you have wasted the effort your forefathers put into bringing you upto a certain standard. If your parents had degrees, you should have masters, but if you have masters and you marry an illiterate man or woman, what are you doing to your parents legacy?

So this business of High value men as if women have no value is just another talking point of the manosphere to attack women who don’t want to be dragged down to the gulleys and the dungeons so that they can become available to useless men who can’t hold their own. After all why bother to achieve anything in life when you can brainwash women to house your broke, lazy ass in the name of they should not feel entitled to or deserving of high value men. The said high value men are actually very basic. A man who has a job and a car who isn’t homeless, in jail or living with his parents is now a high value man. Here I was thinking that high value men were the upper 1 percentile. But rejecting a bodaboda guy who likely never saw the gate of a university when you have several degrees is being on a virtual pedestal feeling entitled to ‘high value’ men.

FYI the real high value men the upper one percentile especially old money are actually the most amiable and humble men you have ever met. The people who talk about high value and low value men like Kevin Samuels has no access to the 1% of old money in the black community 2nd,3rd and 4th generation. So he has no clue even about who is a high value man.

His demeanor, his crass way of expressing himself, like every single thing about him screams low value. Go watch the 1% of the black community and look at Samuel’s he looks like a chokora.

High value men, the real high value men are very understated, impeccable manners, do not need to go online to bash women to make a living. Their energy is serene and secure. It’s not snarky like Mr. Samuels. They are not promiscuous. They hold traditional family values not the predatory promiscuity Samuel’s encourages his male audience to attain to prove their ‘high value’

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Kamene is wack. 16k on a first date? Enyewe desperation doesn’t discriminate. I have been in love twice in my life, both are now deceased but I never even had a thought of giving a man money or lending him. I don’t know how some women are raised. Me the way I am raised men give women money not the other way around. It just feels so so abnormal. I couldn’t do it.

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This is the real high value not the crap that homosexual been feeding yall. This is what I consider high value. The rest are kawaida then there’s the bottom as per Ruto boda boda guys are in that group.

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As you encourage women to marry men of lower classes. Read this study.

We set out to model the impact of household formation by artificially equalizing the marriage rates of black women and white women. The results will of course depend not just on whether they marry, but also on whom they marry. In our simulation, we assume that the additional women who are married have a husband with the same economic characteristics as their brother (see the Technical Paper for our detailed methods). The intuition here is that most people are likely to marry someone with a broadly similar background as themselves, and siblings, by definition, have an almost identical one. The results of this equal-marriage-rate simulation are as follows:

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Yeah the term high value was popularized by Kevin Samuel. But it’s to appeal to women, not men. I still don’t know it’s meaning.

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I personally don’t class people. That’s both a misinterpretation and a left-over of British colonial aristocracy in Kenya. Classifying is stuck in Kenyans heads. But go to the UK, everyone is the same. People marry their Nannies all the time.

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Social structure is hierarchical. Even in socialist countries. Even I in all my feminazism admit that there’s a hierarchy and in a patriarchal society, men are considered to have a higher status than women. As white folk are considered to have a higher status than Asians and blacks are at the bottom of the totem pole. In matriarchal societies women have a higher status than men. On the other hand a wealthy woman of higher pedigree like the queen has a higher status than most men in the world. A black woman who has wealth and fame like Oprah has a higher status in society than most white men.

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Classical examples of women constantly chosing the bad apples then bagging all men in one basket…

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Unfortunately the bad ones don’t come with labels so to avoid future mishaps it’s best to assume them all guilty until proven innocent. But let’s just admit it men nowadays are damn lazy and they just want to profiteer off of women like pimps.

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An ex of mine has been through a similar predicament… as usual I used to date very kind hearted and decent women…and this one was no different…problem is after I was done with her she ended up with some dude who impregnated her and then somehow convinced her to borrow a very substantial amount for his struggling business…am talking millions!
Well, dude innediately ghosted her and she had to shoulder the loan by herself…2 years later dude dead from some kidney related complications…not that it mattered since dude was already dead to her anyway…but she’s still feeling the effects of that loan years later…so recently she reappears in my life and I kinda felt where it was heading to so I took off…sai inasemekana mimi ni mbaya

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The only thing is this: there are wierdos of both sexes, of all races on earth. It’s not sincere to take the example of a few stupid, dishonest or brutal men whose stories you read or know, and make that the universal image of the black man.

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Don’t women scam men all the time?

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Have you read the scams Kenyan men be unleashing? I’m now fearing them. Noma sana hebu Google tinder swindlers

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@TrumanCapote why do you hate men so much? geez…

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I hate the bad ones because women deserve nothing but the best . The ones I love ohhh boy do I luv ‘em. I’m smiling right now just thinking about’ em.