Women And The All Powerful "Silent Treatment"....

Sex & Relationships
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A man from Migori, George Chacha, has opened up about why he left his marriage after 27 years.

The father of three said that whenever he and his wife would argue, she would give him The silent treatment.

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“Sometimes, they would last for months. Things became unbearable when we stayed a whole year without speaking, yet we lived in the same house,”
he said, adding that he packed and left his house to start afresh.

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During the marriage, however, George said that he noticed that whenever any of his people would collide with his wife, she would write them off and would never speak to them again.

“She would often also give me the silent treatment whenever we would argue.
I would sometimes plead with her to allow a dialogue for us to fix things.
Sometimes we would go for months without speaking because of this,” he narrated.

However, the situation got worse when they were in their 27th year, and things completely veered off the road.

This was made worse by the fact that one of his three sons had been struggling with mental illness.

He, unfortunately, succumbed to the illness leaving the family with a deep sadness to grapple with amid the already existing challenges.

He said that he hopes that through his story people can learn to keep communication lines open at all times in marriages.

He also hopes that one day his ex-wife will agree to have a dialogue with him so that they could at least get closure.

“I do not blame her for everything, I also played a role and I have learned my lessons.
I just wish we can at least talk this out and move on and be in each other’s good books but she has blocked me everywhere,” he said.

He had retired by this time and had built a modest house for his family in Migori. Moving out of their bedroom

He said that he and his wife struggled with communication during this time and nothing he tried worked so he gave up.

His wife had moved out of their bedroom for a whole year.

"One day I couldn’t take this anymore and I called her to sit and talk. I asked her to list all the wrongs I had done and that I would do the same and we would fix it together and she refused. She told me that she would rather be a widow than be married to me. It hurt. It hurt so bad and on this day I packed my stuff and left my marriage after 27 years," he said.

George went on and married another woman with whom he is trying to build his life back up again.

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How footballer Michael Olunga and lover fought for Sh67m land

Harambee Stars captain Michael Olunga has been a man on a mission ever since he burst into the limelight while playing for local football giant Gor Mahia in 2015.

The 28-year-old sharp-shooting striker, who currently plays professional football at Al-Duhail Football Club in Qatar, has traversed many countries in Europe and Asia making millions of shillings from his gifted left foot and goal-poaching skills.
Back home, the bully striker has not only invested in his balls by registering a football mentorship foundation dubbed Michael Olunga Football Academy (MOFA), but also has his eyes set on property investments.
With the fame and big money that comes with playing professional football, Olunga and his girlfriend Grace Edith Akinyi decided to expand their territory by a commercial plot in Nairobi to establish a business.
Aware that his glorious playing career will one day come to an end, the current golden boy of Kenyan soccer and his sweetheart decided to pump Sh67 million into a real estate company that promised to sell them the commercial land in Nairobi.
What started as a noble gesture for the couple almost turned into another con game and mega land scam when the company refused to transfer the land to the couple after receiving the full payment.
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The details emerged in a suit where Olunga and Akinyi sued Captain Real Estate Company for refusing to hand over the property and allegedly selling it to a third party after he paid the agreed purchase price of Sh67,292,500.
“The company refused to honour its end of the bargain to affect the transfer of the property to Grace Akinyi and myself. They have been consistently treating us to false promises, only to realise that they had advertised the property on social media sites and sold it to a third party,” said Olunga.
It is as though Olunga had foreseen what was about to befall him when he stated in one of his interviews with the Standard Newspaper in September 2020 that money is the root cause of all evil, which almost cost him were it not the swift action of moving to court to stop the company from defrauding him and his girlfriend.
The real estate company refused to hand over the property and allegedly selling it to a third party.

Olunga had stated during the interview that he always tries his best to remain disciplined and grounded when dealing with his millions of shillings, but that the allure of getting a new property and the promise of massive return on investment made him fork out the Sh67 million.
“When you get money, you get new friends. Your circle starts to increase and everyone wants to be around you, but you need to know who your real friends are and you need to know the people who are genuinely in your corner. Money is the root of all evil and with money, a lot of temptations usually come,” he said then.
True to his words, his 2020 statement about knowing genuine people in his corner came to pass after entering the deal to purchase the land.
Olunga, who is fondly nicknamed as ‘Engineer’ having pursued a course in geospatial engineering, swore in his affidavit that he entered a contract alongside his girlfriend with Captain Real Estate Company in April 2022 for the purchase of the commercial plot in Nairobi identified as LR No3734/423. After signing the sale agreement, the Harambee Stars striker stated that he proceeded to make deposits to the company’s bank account at Nairobi Riverside Platinum Branch in varied installments until he completed the full agreed purchase price in September 2022.
The footballer said he became alarmed after making the final payments when the company refused to honour its end of the bargain of affecting the transfer to the couple and instead started making false promises.
Alarmed by the possibility of losing both the land and his Sh67 million, Olunga swore that the turn of events forced him to engage the services of a lawyer who acted fast by writing a demand letter to the company to either hand over the property or refund the cash.
“Despite the demand to reimburse back our money or transfer the property to us, the company consistently started treating us to promises and counter promises without any action,” swore Olunga.
He added that instead of handing over the property or returning the money, the company called their lawyer on October 30, 2022 for a meeting, where they informed him of their intention to sell the property to a third party.
He stated that although they had paid the full purchase price and had the sale contract signed, they were surprised when they saw the company advertising the same parcel of land to potential buyers in November 2022.
“Our advocate then wrote to the company asking for a refund but they did nothing. They were notoriously enjoying possession of our money and using the property at our expense,” he said.
Olunga stated that after the prolonged frustration and refusal by the company to transfer the property or refund the money, they decided to move to court in February in a bid to preserve the land so they don’t end up losing everything.

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Michael Olunga and Grace Akinyi moved to court in February in a bid to preserve the land.

Their lawyer Elvis Majani told the court that Captain Real Estate Company, which is a registered real estate company, breached the contract they entered and should be stopped from selling the land to third parties or compelled to refund the money plus interest accrued for the period they had it.
“The company breached the contract by failing to complete the transfer of the property after accepting considerable money from Olunga with the knowledge that they were not intending to transfer the said property after being paid,” said Majani.
He also accused the company of offering the property for sale to third parties while still holding on to the Sh67 million they had received from Olunga and failing to indemnify the couple to the position they were prior to intentionally breaching the terms of the sale agreement.
Olunga and Akinyi’s swift move to the court saved them from losing both the money and the land because when the matter came up before Justice Alfred Mabeya at the Milimani High Court on March 1, the parties informed the judge that they had reached an agreement to settle the dispute out of court.
“Since the parties in the dispute have informed the court that they have reached an agreement and filed a consent to settle the dispute, the case will be marked as settled and withdrawn from court. Their consent dated February 27, 2023, settling the dispute will be adopted as an order of this court,” Justice Mabeya said.
Details of the agreement was however not in the court files with only confirmation from lawyers representing Olunga, his girlfriend and the company agreeing that they had reached a consent to settle the matter.
Having the dispute settled was a close shave and learning experience for the goal poacher who describes himself as a God-fearing, humble, down-to-earth and hard working person who rose from a humble background staying in Lucky Summer Estate to the top cities of Europe, Asia and the Middle East.

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Huyo.mkisii ama ni mkuria huko Migori kwao hakuna pombe na malaya?

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:D:D:D

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Hiyo silent treatment inakaa simple but it is a very cruel form of abuse btw. Nikiwa na dem anifanyie hiyo upuzi namfukuza aende anyamaze huko mbali sana na nakulisha block. Nilikua na GF alikua ananinyamazia hadi 3 days in the same house tukikosana and that thing used to really irritate me. I should never have tolerated that bulshit but we live to learn anyway.

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Two can p

Two can play the game.
Be psychologically prepared before getting home.
Women huwashwa more than men.Chezeni kama nyinyi.She will first talk with “that” mouth between her legs

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Hehe, had an ex alinikalia kuwa hio sampuli. Nilijiondoa upesi mno juu I consider that to be very mean. Alikuwa akitaka kitu hasemi, anafura :D. Alikuwa very generous kunipea vitu but communication alikuwa chini saidi.

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Haha. It is quite mean. Lakini sometimes as a man heartbreak can be among the most important things to be handed to you ukiwa young. This man alimeet dem akamkufia na kumuoa within months thats why he is so devastated after 27 years and in his head thinks his break up situation is so unique juu ni yake ya kwanza after hiyo time yote. Hapo kwa loosing his son though waah. I really sympathize with him.

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Naleta lanye nakula Kwa bed. Pipi ataongea

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Watu wa silent treatment huwa kama coping mechanism.Mostly you find mtu akiwa mtoto akicomplain kuhusu kitu anaambiwa anyamaze,au it’s not taken seriously.Kuna watu well into their 70s and 80s who still do it, irregardless it is a terrible coping mechanism that breeds resentment.

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Stupid man. Yaani silent treatment ndio inakulemea? In my life the few times a girl tries that shit she’s the one who makes the effort to reconcile ju my pettiness can be off the charts. Time flani I asked my then gf what’s wrong hajibu. Niliignore kabisa. Akajaribu dressing sexy and stuff (everything apart from taking accountability). Kama na ignore bado. Nilikuwa tu namgotea na kudoze nikifika keja. Nilikuwa bado nambuyia food and doing other responsibilities but sikuwa na any intimacy. I thought in 4 days she’ll break but after 2 days alianza kulia.
Still ignored again nikamuambia tutaongea kesho. Day 3 ndio sasa akaanza kuact like an adult.
Moral, hii kureward bad behavior is why some bitches keep doing things. This wife for example, she knew silent treatment=getting things she wants.

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Mimi ukininyamazia naondoka mbio mithili ya farasi

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This is the correct way ya kudeal na watu, especially wimins.

Msito Jay Z husema pale kwa Anything eti “A closed mouth don’t get fed”.

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Men need to learn how to be comfortable in company of self. Pitia kwa local kula nyama na beer zako.mpaka midnight. Ukirudi home piga shower na ulale. Saturday afternoon dedicate it kutomba makunguru kwa Airbnb. Sundays visit interesting places na ukule kanyama na fobe on your way home. In no time vimbwanga za watu hazitakuwa na meaning.

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Thank you for being an actual man.

Huyo dem alikua amekamata hii ninja kwa balls.

Hii silent treatment haiwes work. Maybe kwanza hio ndo week nasukuma ka 12-16hrs nikibeba simiti kwa muhindi.

Nikifika kejani naeza furahi aje nikinyamaziwa. Kwanza napitia kwa nyamchom + beer mbili. Kufika kejani i’d be happy being alone with my thoughts.

I’d serve her a cold one yenye hangewahi rudia ufala.

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this reminds me of two weeks ago limeleta some soft meat ya campus pale mtaani sato usiku, i am a biker so i am in numerous wozzap groups and my phone is always receiving texts, so i just ignore them, kumbe dame anafikiria kuna madame wengine wananitext and she asks niko talking stage na kunguru ngapi? i tell her none and keep quite and continue playing MOTOGP all of a sudden naulizwa if she is boring :D:D:D. i at time love just keeeping quite bila kelele mingi na kunguru ikajijazia ninaicheza na ivo ndio ilienda.

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That means you are being taken hostage outside your house. When you have to keep off like that.

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WORD.

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Ongea na mtu.kama hawezi mwambie aandike barua tu utaisoma.some people need reconditioning, including myself.Mimi nkiona umekanyagia mara tatu I switch off.

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That’s not the run of the mill silent treatment we know of, but could be something else. His wife could have had selective mutism, a type of mental disorder perhaps a variant of depression like their son who succumbed…