So I have always wondered why, after some women get married, life is even worse than when they were still single. My idea about marriage is that since you people are one, the least your hubby can do for you, is upgrade you, but you a really nice ride since you are spending your life, energy, health and money on building him a posterity.
But alas, it’s like you are still on your own, even if he lets you use one of his good cars, he won’t put the logbook in your name. Gari tuu. The house is in his name, if he decides to throw you out, huna nyumba since you either put money into the kids or joint investments which are in his name. Woe unto you if the man decides to trade you in for a newer model, you have nothing to your name, the kids will side with him bcz he’s the one with the money. You are old and all used up, your body is worn out and you can’t start over. Then you have no option but to become a Betty Broderick. Hii dunia ulikuja peke yako mum. Even children can disown you after giving your life to them. It’s a thankless job have your own shit. Men are selfish and you should be too. To cover your back.
I’ve seen this with married women of all ages. Recently I was asking my friend why men don’t put their wives as their next of kin and she told me they’re afraid that the woman will get another man and he will take advantage of the situation to get the dead guy’s wealth. I guess waarabu wa Pemba wanajuana kwa vilemba. Men know how other men think.
All in all, there’s always opportunity costs to anything. Men don’t do anything they’re not compelled to, if he’s getting the milk for free, he’s not buying the car. Maybe you need to get the car before he gets the benefits.
But men, be kind to your wives. That giving birth business has a heavy toll on them. Others even die. The least you can do is get them a good car and some comfort. MTU asikae ni kama squatter, Hana chochote after slaving for you with blood,sweat and tears.
Weuh. Now I know why it is called the slave plantation. You build it for others while you get nothing out of it. May God give all women strength and wealth of their own coz kutegemea mwanaume is a scam.
Buy her a good car and pay her a monthly stipend, even if she is employed. She does ALOT for you.
