If you are still broke as a man, hustling making your way up and there is that one chick standing with you and never shows you madharau - she is the one; marry her, don’t make a mistake
If you have already made it, a bit well off, you are surrounded by a parliament of women (all because of your money or fame) - do not think of settling down with one of them. Go to the village, get that woman who knew you without money, without fame, the one you went to primary school with, the one you played in the village with, the one you are from same village, etc - marry her!
If you have already made it or atleast living well, do not marry and settle down with any lady you meet when you already have the money or fame - nikujichimbia kaburi!
The problem with many men is that when they get some money, come to Nairobi or any other city in the world, get some fame, etc, they decide to get married to women who knew them when they have the money, fame, etc, and the end is always a disaster. E.g Okari, Raburu, daddy owen, etc.
Nonsense. All marriages have their challenges which you cant run away from. You can escape a kunguru but end up with another kind of poison. It is about choosing the poison you want. Never regret marrying a woman. Other than extreme kungurus, never pick a woman based on tabia during dating because all women change after you commit or they have your kids. Never kid yourself that you are dating an mpole woman who does not argue because the moment she has your kid or you marry her she relaxes and defaults to factory settings.
All marriages are challenging no matter how smart or clever you think you are. That woman who you think is mpole has just learnt that that is what she needs to do for you to commit. Once you commit she no longer has to put on a show and she will go back to default settings. Plus all women go through mood changes due to hormones every month so lazima watasumbua. Elders know this. Instead of running away from challenges, be informed so that you are equipped with dealing with women. There are days something small becomes a full blown argument just because of hormones and other days the same thing she will not bother with it. Many men make the mistake of leaving their women when they are pregnant or after child birth. They complain about the women having an attitude or not being intimate and they go for other women only to end up with exactly the same problem multiplied by 3.
Marrying and choosing a woman is not ‘choosing the poison you want’. If you know you are choosing a poison to kill you, abort mission and go look for that which instead builds you. The wrong woman will destroy you as a man and your empire, the right woman will make it multiply and prosper.
A woman whom to you has changed is because you never knew her at first. Woman can camouflage but they can’t hide real self - take time to know the real person son.
My son, it seems all what you have faced is wrong bitter chameleon like women, listen to elders and you will be more wiser for a peaceful life in the future. Not all marriages are like yours nor or women are like the one’s you have encountered
Born-town; get a woman who knows your struggles to build your empire as a man and doesn’t show you madharau but supports you in achieving your visions
Those experts i think ni wale wa ‘tano-tena’ or rao’s experts who tell him after every 5 years he will win the presidency The opposite is true. Do your study; look for couples whom knew each other even when in primary school i.e when young, study them and their marriage … you will realize Mzee @jmoy heading to 60 years he is right
In my writing i have not used that word ‘perfect marriage’ - kizungu ndio imekuruka ama unasoma ukiona zako? Tuachane na bangi before reading kijiji.
You are the kind of people who when they look at a cow they see an elephant and when they see the elephant, they faint. Or when they look at a cat they see a lion.
Non of my classmates/neighbours that I know of married each other but got with people who were complete strangers.My studies based on perfect match those women want older men even before seeking to know their financial status.
The expert is Chris Hart in last week’s edition of The Nairobian.