:mad:what is wrong with most people?? no one seems to return money by the period they promised to do so. In most cases, without even any explanation whatsoever:mad:. sijui ama ni kujisahaulisha but what people seem to forget about borrowing money is that you gonna have to return it. whats the biggest amount you’ve ever had to call a bad debt?..
5K…I was jobless then and I had to write off a debt ya mtu anafanya kwa serikali, Iliniuma sana.
shieeet. that must have felt like a lot of money
the good thing with someone refusing to pay you back is that hatawai kuitisha tena
The best way to get rid of a friend or a nagging relative or in-law is to lend them money. You will never hear from them again. But some idiots have the balls to ask you for more money yet hawajalipa ile ingine.
Twas crazy joh…the value of an amount that someone owes you greatly depends on your net worth. To someone having a million in a bank, writing off a bad debt ya 20k may not seem like a big deal to him. But if you live hand to mouth - yaani we can’t measure your worth then mtu awe na pesa yako ata 500 and he fails to pay, hii kitu huuma sana.
Over time, I have realised friends and relative like taking advantage. Someone texts you 5.00 am. Unaamka unakutana na messsage ya kuombwa pesa. Roho safi unapeana. Utangoja mseh akurudishie hiyo pesa itakua kama kukamua ndovu. I have cut ties with almost 7 friends. Hawarudishi pesa. Na dame pia akikuomba pesa, hiyo sahau . Kuna mwingine (Platonic friend) aliniomba doh. Nikampa roho smart. Ilibidi nikule yeye pole pole hadi siku hiyo pesa itaisha.
Some still come back especially relatives. Na ukiwakausha wanajam kisha unaskia wakibonga eti ulipata kakitu ukaringa.
Mimi kuna single martha imebidi naanza kumu-avoid. I dont know what makes her feel entitled to whatever i’m left with after paying my rent. Maybe its coz sijaoa or have any kids anafikiria nimekosa kwa kupeleka pesa. She is always in need of money,mostly using her kids as an excuse to ‘borrow’ money. Which gets me wondering,its not like those kids are my responsibility:mad:
Hapa naona itabidi tu umehama. Watu kama hao huwa kama kupe.
Alafu have you realized that when you are in need, out of all the ‘friends’ you know and all those names in your phonebook…you can actually count the people who can help you on the fingers of one hand?
Keep distance …ruuuun bro ruuuuuun…na usiangalie nyuma lest you turn into a lump of salt akulambe.
I dont even need to count coz ni mmoja tu.Nayo Stori ya kuhama itakua tricky. I think the biggest mistake i made ni kumpea number
Weee kwanza umefanya nikumbuke. Nilipea colleague 10k 3 months ago, following month akafutwa, kuitisha doh akanishow ningojee nov bonus ya tiabe(tea leaves) itoke.
Naona nikienda nikikaukanga lakini wazito mnikumbushe mkiskia imetoka
Watu ni wajanja. Watakuitisha those small amounts you don’t mind giving out like 5 sok or 1-2k after every two months hivi. When you add it up what you have given them in a year, the total amount can pay for a holiday huko Lamu.
Kuombana doo na next door neighbor ni stressful sana. Though at times inabidi, may be she is going through a rough patch.
Just block her damn number.
But Why drag kids into this world if you are not sure you can provide for them
People have been raised and socialized differently, some even don’t know how to help. In the same breadth some don’t know how to ask for help. But if you can support or help a friend please do so expecting nothing in return.
Buying a car or being employed doesn’t mean a person can’t be in shit. Everyone tends to think of their problems first and see others problems at the horizon. I have a friend who is on a 300,000 salo, drives a nice car and lives in a 50,000 house but he is perpetually broke. I have bailed him out several times and I can’t remember the last time he helped me out. That doesn’t stop me from helping him in future and as usually expect nothing in return.
I have a friend who doesn’t know how to ask for help also, just yesterday I asked him if he needs some cash coz he is cash strapped and in Eldoret (he stays in Langata) but he told me he will get back to me if his plans don’t work out. Guess what? I know he won’t. When I borrow cash from him he sends it like in an hr or 2, I can’t count the number of times he has bailed me out. I also can’t remember last time he accepted my cash unless when I was buying drinks.
I also have another friend who used to be very surprised when I couldn’t pay back his loans in time… he got into several whacky situations soon after and I have loaned him more than 100k to date. I have my personal issues as well especially when it comes to asking for help, showing gratitude and giving help. Just last month, I walked past some guy who was panting by the roadside, seemingly gasping his last breath and I didn’t help despite being a health professional as it would have mean’t I skipped on a crucial meeting in town. I wasn’t alone there were numerous other people who stopped momentarily and walked past… I have a lot to deal with…lots of skeletons in my closet.
That said …you can set out to have friends that can reciprocate in future. life is hard for everyone…don’t be too judgmental on your friends. If they are close enough to you and you value them, face them but in a non-confrontational way. And don’t carry grudges. Also learn to ask for help even here… @Twangapepeta got a job through these forums…it may be an asylum but guys here will give a virtual shoulder and powerful ideas that you can exploit…
Lastly, I know I have made a lot of assumptions on this. sorry if it isn’t exactly what you want to hear.
Same case here nikiwa bachelor…tenda wema enda zako.
Mimi advise nilipewa na kakangu mkubwa ile siku nilipeana pesa mingi ni, “Don’t ever lend someone money you cannot afford to lose”. Ukiombwa hizi pesa ndogondogo peana. Ikifika huko kwa pesa unadhani ni mob sana, sema umekaukiwa, hata kama unaonekana pale local kila kukicha.