Wedding Irritating cultures

[bjurmann]

@benja

Tembea basi ndio uone mengi different people have different cultures na pia i said ni groom and his procession huwa wanachanga because the brides side huwa wanaitisha pesa hadi mifuko zinabaki empty

Most cultural values are shared. You don’t take a male rabbit to a doe’s cage. In a real African setting even European one utaletewa bibi either umwangalie kisigino ujue uliyeletewa Ni yeye and incase of wedding wewe Mwenyewe ndiye utatoa neti to confirm. Ngumu Sana groom aende kunusanusa kwa bibi wakati wa wedo.

[threetatu]

Most recent wedding where I was with the groom, tulituma “best man” aendee bride, the rest of us tulikua tunacheza poker to ease mshuto ya “groom”…

[bjurmann]

@threetatu

Most recent wedding where I was with the groom, tulituma “best man” aendee bride, the rest of us tulikua tunacheza poker to ease mshuto ya “groom”…

Exactly.

[benja]

@bjurmann

Most of the time the groom isn’t around while picking the bride. Hii ujuaji yenu na kisomo kingi will be watered down by your tradition keeping entourage of aunts,uncles and friends. You won’t even know they bribed their way to get you your wife out of her parents house. So tulia na muache kusema Mimi siwes na siwes.

Call it ujuaji but ukweli ni kwamba the world became cruel and love was left for the birds and we were left with contracts…it doesnt matter if you follow the protocol when it comes to negotiations dowry blah blah kama ni wa kuenda ata enda tu …hence everyone is looking out for himself…we are a selfish generation and you can take that to the bank…

[system]

@biraru

Bibi yako akikamuliwa usishangae

Atakamuliwa juu nilikataa kununulia Aunty yake shuka ama kutoa pesa ya Keys za gate?

[WuTang]

@Bhangi Iwe Huru

I think someone who would find such a something that is meant to be fun and in the spirit of a celebration of a wedding irritating or a nuisance would make a dour and miserable husband, son-in-law and life’s companion. That woman and even her family was better off.

What’s 10,00 or 100,000 or even a million when you’re getting the person who you would spend the rest of your life with? Men who complain about having to pay a dowry are make for miserable in-laws and are probably suited to parents who would milk mercilessly their potential son-in-law. Go into it with good cheer and recognize it for the bond that it serves to create between families, for the money you would spend satisfying even the meanest of in-laws, if you truly are getting the woman of your dreams, your missing rib, you will neither miss that money and moreover you will probably recover that much and more in material wealth and happiness and joy that a good wife brings to a man.

You’ve missed the point big time. Hakuna fun hapo, ni utoto tu and a way by lazy uncles and aunties to extort money.

[system]

To avoid that extortion by aunties send the best man and some backup with smoke grenades.

[WuTang]

@bjurmann

Most of the time the groom isn’t around while picking the bride. Hii ujuaji yenu na kisomo kingi will be watered down by your tradition keeping entourage of aunts,uncles and friends. You won’t even know they bribed their way to get you your wife out of her parents house. So tulia na muache kusema Mimi siwes na siwes.

Ile nimewitness ni msichana kuzuiwa kuingia kwa kanisa where the wedding ceremony is to be held by greedy aunties, sisters and other busy-bodies.

[Mrs4thletter]

@old monk

Her and her family.

Don’t say her, sometimes a lady tells her kin hataki such shenanigans, anafungiwa kwa room na kufuli

[danji1]

Unalipa pesa kwa gate kwa nini and already dowry negotiations zimeisha? The bride’s parents wanajua venye tumekubaliana, halafu aunties na uncles wa bride waniletee kichwa? Wanaweza niambia kama ni wao naoa. But kupick bride sio kazi yangu.

[WuTang]

@Mrs4thletter

Don’t say her, sometimes a lady tells her kin hataki such shenanigans, anafungiwa kwa room na kufuli

Halafu God forbid hiyo harusi isifanyike, it will be a catastrophe for both the groom and the bride.

[Pos_i.Don]

ao ma auntie na uncles huwa na ujinga sana …especially kama ni single mother ama mzee alikufa …unakuta wanataka kudictate

kama wewe ni single mother na una daughter wacha nikupe siri…jitole mahari before daughter yako aolewe that is kama traditions zinawasumbua kwenu…ita ua siblings na relatives jitole mahari otherwise when the time comes utaumia sana

[Mrs4thletter]

@benja

Tembea basi ndio uone mengi different people have different cultures na pia i said ni groom and his procession huwa wanachanga because the brides side huwa wanaitisha pesa hadi mifuko zinabaki empty

A rational family,( brides) wouldn’t start asking for irrational sums, its just soda za wamama na shuka za aunty, past hapo hao no wahuni, some relatives deliberately try to frustrate the groom’s people to spite the bride ,

[bubudui]

If you don’t want to pay dowry, just ‘marry’ another man. Huko ukienda ni mapanga na marungu utafukuzwa nayo.
Otherwise, msichana wa wenyewe lazima uregeshe shukrani since she’s going to breed your future generation wakati kwao ametoka for good!

[Old_Monk]

@Mrs4thletter

Don’t say her, sometimes a lady tells her kin hataki such shenanigans, anafungiwa kwa room na kufuli

Oh could be

[Old_Monk]

@bubudui

If you don’t want to pay dowry, just ‘marry’ another man. Huko ukienda ni mapanga na marungu utafukuzwa nayo.
Otherwise, msichana wa wenyewe lazima uregeshe shukrani since she’s going to breed your future generation wakati kwao ametoka for good!

What if we don’t want kids?
What if I’m getting married to a woman who comes from where there’re no such payments?

[WuTang]

@bubudui

If you don’t want to pay dowry, just ‘marry’ another man. Huko ukienda ni mapanga na marungu utafukuzwa nayo.
Otherwise, msichana wa wenyewe lazima uregeshe shukrani since she’s going to breed your future generation wakati kwao ametoka for good!

Wewe hufai kupata shukrani kwa kumzalisha? Si watoto ni wenu nyote?

[FieldMarshal_CouchP]

You guys got it all wrong. THE PROBLEM IS NOT THE TRADITION, but its corrupted new version. You see, back in the day before we sold our hearts to the devil, the closing of the gates was harmless play to ‘reward’ the mamas who were cooking for the ceremony. So you would be asked for some ‘soda’ for the mamas, some shukas, and maybe some money for a pot the bride broke when she was two. All in good humour.

Trouble started when some Kanyarisque extortionists discovered they could make a kill.

[bubudui]

@WuTang

Wewe hufai kupata shukrani kwa kumzalisha? Si watoto ni wenu nyote?

The children will bear your surname, na hiyo ndio shukrani yako.

[4makind]

@Bhangi Iwe Huru

I think someone who would find such a something that is meant to be fun and in the spirit of a celebration of a wedding irritating or a nuisance would make a dour and miserable husband, son-in-law and life’s companion. That woman and even her family was better off.

What’s 10,00 or 100,000 or even a million when you’re getting the person who you would spend the rest of your life with? Men who complain about having to pay a dowry are make for miserable in-laws and are probably suited to parents who would milk mercilessly their potential son-in-law. Go into it with good cheer and recognize it for the bond that it serves to create between families, for the money you would spend satisfying even the meanest of in-laws, if you truly are getting the woman of your dreams, your missing rib, you will neither miss that money and moreover you will probably recover that much and more in material wealth and happiness and joy that a good wife brings to a man.

To put it simply…It is the money that will pay rent or buy milk, food, bills after the wedding…