Talkers theres is this irritating habit sijui ilitoka wapi when the groom goes to pick the bride his convoy inawekwa hapo nje ooh the bride bado hajaoga na hakuna sabuni …the grooms convo wanachanga then ooh gate imefungwa na padlock no keys inabidi tena mtoe pesa in short extortion by the brides relas to taste your patience…
Now a guy who i know was once caught in these situation but wasnt the patient type after the first extortion he couldnt take it he excused himself that he is going to collect the money in one of the cars got in and drove off then switched off his phone…wacha watu wahangaike ,there was panic all over the bride akatolewa speedy and was taken to church wapi the guy was nowhere to be found and just like that there was no wedding…The guy was later found in a bar that evening enjoying his drink with a loosened bow tie relaxing with other revellers… who was to blame in this scenario? The bride ,groom or the extortionists ?
Her and her family.
Extortionists
Dowry is a very unfair practice. Why pay money for the bride? Ati tumesomesomesha msichana hadi university. So what? Kwani you were investing in your daughter? And what about the boy child? Who educated them? Makes me very mad.
so imagine this case youve paid for the dowry , paid for the wedding ,still wondering how youl pay the debts but still on the material day aunties and uncles wanadai za macho before msichana atoke kwa nyumba…
akae huko let’s call off the wedding
I think someone who would find such a something that is meant to be fun and in the spirit of a celebration of a wedding irritating or a nuisance would make a dour and miserable husband, son-in-law and life’s companion. That woman and even her family was better off.
What’s 10,00 or 100,000 or even a million when you’re getting the person who you would spend the rest of your life with? Men who complain about having to pay a dowry are make for miserable in-laws and are probably suited to parents who would milk mercilessly their potential son-in-law. Go into it with good cheer and recognize it for the bond that it serves to create between families, for the money you would spend satisfying even the meanest of in-laws, if you truly are getting the woman of your dreams, your missing rib, you will neither miss that money and moreover you will probably recover that much and more in material wealth and happiness and joy that a good wife brings to a man.
Kuna place nilienda kubeba bride. Tulifika saa nne , mrembo alitolewa almost four in the evening. Nilipiga gari rev ikachamka karibu iishe petroli juu ukizima gari ya bride ni faini. Bure kabisa.
As for me n my friends hakuna pesa tutatoa… Mara sijui shuka ya aunty, mbuzi ya nani… Mtaoa mtoi wenu
Which bond is created when one is extorted? A leaching bond? Dowry+ lavish wedding + honeymoon + wedding day extortion Kwani you want the young groom to live on loans?
Venye @bangi iwe huru amesema. Hapa kuna watu clearly hawaelewi maana ya dowry ni gani
@gashwin @bjurmann @Meria Mata ebu kujeni muelimisha watu
@benja yaani umeangalia hii jua ya Njanuary ukaona Tu vizuri utumwagie maharagwe hapa? Hata ikiwa tuko njaa bana…unataka kuniambia groom huyo beshte yake alikuwa solo huku amebeba wallet? Pesa ikiitishwa anatoa? Wewe wacha kutubeba hivyo ghasia. Mimi sijawahi ona groom ameenda kuchukua bride. Either angoje kanisani aletewe huku akicheza candy crush
That’s not it.
Very inconveniencing and of what value will it bring to the newly weds?
She is your rib right? so why should another third party make you sweat to get her? besides when it comes to money theres nothing like loosing it being fun not unless you inheritated it …if its fun why cant they use puzzles or trivial questions or even maze but wasitumie legal tender …
I’ll be damned if my wife to be thinks all these is fun.
Bibi yako akikamuliwa usishangae
Tembea basi ndio uone mengi different people have different cultures na pia i said ni groom and his procession huwa wanachanga because the brides side huwa wanaitisha pesa hadi mifuko zinabaki empty
Most of the time the groom isn’t around while picking the bride. Hii ujuaji yenu na kisomo kingi will be watered down by your tradition keeping entourage of aunts,uncles and friends. You won’t even know they bribed their way to get you your wife out of her parents house. So tulia na muache kusema Mimi siwes na siwes.
Am not talking about dowry hio kulipa ni your own liking …How many come we stay are we witnessing ?..am talking about wedding day cultures…
Hii upus ya dowry inafaa itolewe kabisa na ikue kwa katiba its illegal to pay dowry…Take for instance me ni hustler nimepigana na life and at least for now am financially stable, then I meet a mama,a cute fine assed in her mid 20s.Amenibamba and am willing to moves things further but b4 I invest my all my feelings/emotions on her amenisho ako na kaninja aliget after High skull .Hako kaninja kako like 4yrs .So hii ni ile mbuzi unaskianga unabeba na kamba yake ,so who is doing whova favour… I think the mama shud be paying dowry for me in fact am doing her and her parents a favour.Do u kwn how many Mwendes and Njeris are out there looking for a single financially stable nigga like me. I sure deserve a dowry.
Ni hayo tu kwa sasa