I always ask myselefu, if this marriage is so good, why does society have to guilt, trick, and shame us into it? No one has to force you into a good thing, ama namna gani? @BBIsiMuhimu confirm uko sawa.
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To our brothers suffering in marriage in the name of being “real men”, you shall overcome. Let me encourage you with this Negro spiritual, it kept the slaves going during their darkest days.
bonobos marriages are very complicated…rahisisha maneno iwe ‘kizungu’… zalisha mtu ile watoi unaweza lea, issues zikija mnaSeparate amicably … bora mna co-parent only DNA tested brats…
Marriages zinalemea both gender. For a fact, it’s women who are suffering more in marriages than men, kwanza violence. In all these, it’s the kids who suffer most. As for when it’s men on the receiving end, children tend to side with the mother so utabaki mataani tu na shida ni ikuwe ulichukua loans ukasomesha watoto upto the top levels alafu kinaumana. Utajiona useless sana especially if you never kept anything for yourself and at that level, you have nothing left to live for. Sad life. Ndio unaonanga wamejaa kwa bar.
Alot of diplomacy has ruined our society today… women ought to be ruled ruthlessly.mshawai jiuliza mbona madem wanapigwa Kila siku hawajawai Toka kwa iyo ndoa, it’s because that’s the language they understand.ukijifanya romantic you mistaken to be weak
If you have to beat your wife ndio akupende, then you better separate and live alone. Where is the happiness in violence! You rather go live alone than living in a violent home where you have no freedom at all. Ukiona ukichapana then you are not happy and neither is she. Wachaneni ama hata usioe. Nyinyi ndio mlioa juu society inawaambia ni lazima muoe.
Hii maisha it is unwise for a man kuweka interests za family mbele kila wakati bila kujifikiria. I know many old men wenye walisomesha watoto hadi majuu sasa in their sixties and seventies. Madam alienda majuu kusaidia watoto kulea wajukuu, the man anawachwa vumbistan akiwa amezubaa tuu and lonely.
The wise ones did a compromise. Walijisecure financially halafu wakasomesha watoto decent local schools. Hao sasa kazi ni kuokota rent, kuenda shambani na double cab, na kukula nyama na slayqueens pale mugithi wakingoja pesa ya chai ama kahawa iingie kwa account. Build two roads my man…not one superhighway. Assume the worst possible scenario ie your family boots you in old age.
Very true. I have observed this many times and vowed never to put anyone above myself. Mimi najitafutia pesa. Anyone else including my progeny should have their share after I have had mine. Ukijiwachilia utasuffer sana especially in old age.
This here is a mountain forest baboon…
how do you just start punching the mother of your ‘DNA’ tested brats? just walk away & never be seen again…simple maths atakutafuta akukose:D
Men are limp dics these days.
Mtu unafuga mwanamke na anakupea irreducible minimums. Lazima wanaume waende men’s conference na huu ujinga usimame mara moja.
Hii ni ujinga ya hali ya juu. Why not just focus one one approach i.e eternal bachelorhood instead of kufanya kazi nusunusu in the name of ati my kids might abandon me. Ndio maana napenda vile wasungu approach issues, unapata mtu kama ni family man he dedicates his entire existence to his kids and gives them a real shot in succeeding in life, on the other hand, some men just decide to stay childless and focus in business or their career without raising half-developed kids. Hapa kenya Omwafrika wants to kill 3 birds with a single stone. He has 2 baby mamas and 2 wives and six malnuourished illeterate children ati hio ndio legacy yake.
Nah bruh, you can still be respected without laying a finger on someone. And those women that stay tend to have some unresolved issues and likely think that thats the love they deserve.
Generation must continue. We are not saying ati usisupport your children with all. We are just saying that as you do so, don’t forget to keep something for yourself. At some point, you might be the only stranger in that family. These are real things that happen unexpectedly.
Sijasema kupiga mtu, people have understood differently, av just given an example ya madem hupigwa, basically what I mean is to be firm and adamant on how you lead your house… I repeat, don’t be too diplomatic with women, they don’t understand diplomacy…Be firm and have your irreducible minimum, ajue akicross the red line it will not be business as usual.
Waafrika sisi hatukua na hizi shida za wazungu ya kutaka kujiua kwa sababu ya Bibi, mababu zetu wangekua wasiwasi hivi hawangeeza kuoa mabibi tano na ku ensure boma ziko imara.Hii generation yetu tumekua weak sana