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Manze kijana yangu who is a second yr in college has an issue. He’s extremely anti social. He actually does not go out of the house during holidays, has no friends… I think it’s eating him up and might worsen as time goes by… I recently talked to him akaniambia it’s like he feels he’s losing himself in any social place. He is afraid to walk even in crowds. Is there any help you can recommend please?

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Has he been always like this? Those could be signs of a chronic wanker. Anyway, lipia yeye therapy before he goes off the rails.

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Yes quite keeping to himself

Njia moja ni ajifunze kuwa social slow by slow. Hii itachukua kitu miezi tatu. The goal is celebrate those “small” wins. Hii inaweza chukua hata miezi nne.

Week one, target itakuwa ni kutoka nje na kutembea 1 hour mahali popote kila siku. Azurure kila siku mpaka ile siku ataskia ako comfortable kutoka kwa nyumba

Then, ni time ya kuanza ku make eye contact. Akitembea jioni, aanze kuangalia watu kwa uso, na ku note wale wanamwangalia. Ma boy na madame mpaka awe comfortable.

Then, target ni akiona dame yoyote, amsalimie “mambo” na ahepe mbio. Kumsalimia pekee yake inatosha kuitwa win. Asalimiane siku mingi mpaka awe comfortable kuwa salimia na kuwa acha waki hang.

Then, target ni aanze kukuwa na conversation na ao madam. Anawasalimia, anaongea na wao kidogo alafu anachukua number. Hakuna luhepa tena.

Then target ni kuongelesha madem wengi kama watano ivi in one hour.

Then target ni aanze kusimamisha madem wanatembea wakiwa kwa group ya madem wawili kuendelea.

After hapo ni kukatiana in social situation kwenye Kuna watu wengine. Eg kwa line ya supermarket, wakingoja sukuma ikatwe kwa kibanda, kwa matatu etc.

The goal is to make very very small steps so that it doest not become overwhelming and that we get easy wins. Zinasaidia sana mentally. Akiona progress atakuwa motivated

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Will it be effective

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Hii ndo shida

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introvert… the more you force it the deeper into himself he will dig in. the only option is subtle repeated exposure ama lipa some chic to help him socialize chini ya maji

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How valid is this?

Ungeinbox us plantation workers quietly , this will make dogs like @Kodiaga happy today but ongea na kijana . Mtafutieko kadem kimpango to reset him to default settings. Human beings are social beings.
Also remember high IQ ghaseeers are also antisocial. That boy may be great if you set him on right path . Socialising nowadays utapata kijana alieda kudeenyer Malaya na mabeshte apatwe na ukimwi. I think I like an antisocial son than hizi ghaseeer zangu zenye ukiwaacha keja utapata all sort of kids playing with them

Have him checked out by a psychiatrist. Most major mental health issues start in late teens and early 20’s, Schizophrenia especially

This might a case of Agoraphobia…

Be needs a sport