Uthoni

sasa wewe iko tofauti gani na yule mzee anadai kichwa cha gari ya mosi? uchoyo na ulafi huambatana, donge?

What’s good for the goose is good for the gander.

1st u must pay what is known as “mwati na harika” then they can “kunira miti” that is give u a breakdown of the dowry and thanks @Female Perspective for yr insight. your lady has to protect u

All this drama ndo mi huogopa…but as fp has said its always gud kwambia mwoman wako ambie wazazi wewe ni peasant wa kawaida prior ama utakua cash cow pale kwa kina mwoman.

Usilipe dowry yote. ni kama kuwaonyesha hakuna kitu wameitisha. lipa kidogo hiyo ingine utapeleka polepole. Somehow, you will pay more than you expect.
Lakini mimi sijaoa. Just an opinion.

Following for future reference

In 2016 it is standard to milk dry the prospective son-in-law.

Mwati na harika(approx 20k) ndio ya Lazima bila hiyo hakuna uthoni!Alafu Mburi ni mirongo kenda na kenda muihuru as in 100goats alafu kuna ma-nonsense Kama kabuti ka muthee(less than 10k most places), ngoima(Kama 30k), johi ya athuri (20k hivi), soda ya atumia (10k) etc etc.All in all don’t be afraid coz you aren’t expected to pay up everything on that day.Uthoni nduthiraga…

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Next in line are:
Mwati na harika- 20K
mburi cia aihua (uncles)- 3 live goats
Nguo cia aciari (10K for each parent)

After that: Mburi 100 cia ruracio- This is where the manenos become elephant.Irrespective of what the dowry was paid for the mum, it was 100 goats. The issue is the cost/goat. So, they may say their goats cost 50, 500, 1K or 10K each, so, hapo watakutoanisha vile wanataka.

Later on there will be kiande (shoulder) which seals the whole deal.

Of course there will also be other demands like lesos, tank, etc. But those are meant to keep the uthoni ongoing.

Eeeeh… swali… Kule kwa akina chebarbar pia wanataka 100 goats?

Na kama niko na mbuzi 100 kwa farm yangu, naweza wapelekea hizo?

Na wale shemeji huoa akina @Preety , nani analipa mahari? The luhya dude or the Indian girl?

I honestly think you started on the wrong foot - you were too generous.

If you have been visiting them every now and then with kitu kidogo, there was no need to spend another 80K (in cash and kind) to know their home. That’s exploitation, unless of course your families are both mbirrioneas.

Now, they will ask for something like 300,000-1M for dowry, and you meet the costs of a Church wedding. Mumewaonyesha mko na pesa.

With these things don’t use big city cars or be too generous; always leave the Range behind and travel in Toyota 100s, and get a drunk old Uncle Theo to accompany you to cause trouble when demands become too much.

My two cents…

haiya … niwaragia gikuyu? ona ni ndamaka muno… no umuthi wi sawa kana niurenda kamwe ?

Do you have men from you clan ? The know everything

When i went for these shughuli, The old man (father in-law) said ::: Hao watu wakija, msiwasumbue…thou he is gone (RIP) i really respected him.
One thing you shld knu,the dowry issue isnt asked or negotiated by the family ,but wazee wengine wajinga who come and take that opportunity jst to benefit and leave.

Hehe,ile A nilipata ngoso ilitosha,marking scheme sasa ni mimi

Hapo sawa buda,muthoni umwe utatira

Dude, from your First sentwnse i was like wtf? Anywsy,wewe umeenda ama ni chocha tu?

Dude, from your First sentence i was like wtf? Anyway,wewe umeenda ama ni chocha tu?

Combolo na spax muroiga atia?