What are your thoughts on this issue. I have seen people arguing they will quit any job if it drains them mentally while others say it’s better to be depressed at work but keep chasing the bag.
Would you trade your health for money.
According to @uwesmake , @T.Vercetti has developed anal complications due to his prostitution job… Kuna watu wakiona pesa hawajali health yao
If you quit your job and have nowhere else to go, you will even be more stressed. Just start looking for another job and once you get it, move on
If people at the job are stressing you, just avoid conversations with them and keep to yourself as much as possible. They will soon start respecting you. Silence is golden
Never. I gave a hekaya here of how I used to work for some company along Mombasa road. My friend that place was so toxic. The bosses and head of departments were women reasoning with mood swings and emotions. Anakuongelesha ni kama anaongelesha malaya pale river road. Sijui waliona ni kama tunawadharau abuses all the time. People were quitting left right and centre. Salo ikiingia jamaa anaingia mitini. After working for two months na kupata salo nilienda home nikakula food mathe amepika nikazima simu na nikalala. I knew I was jobless but that was the best sleep I have ever had in my entire life.
You should have recieved their call and proceed to tell them to shove that job up their Azz.
Join the divest movement, it is a movement for people who must deal with anything that isn’t bringing them happiness but they can’t cut it off completely. Like toxic people especially black men, toxic institutions like government and dirty politics and corruption and suppression of rights and overtaxation.
I will give you my advice as to how I handle or handled toxic workplace some even had sexual harassment. First of all you have to completely divest emotionally from your workplace, that means before and after working hours, you strictly don’t think about your workplace. This includes having most of your friends not as workmates coz they will drag you back to workplace gossip and issues when you are not at work.
Number 2 go to work and do your job like a robot, don’t expect praise or get your emotions involved. Be 100% cerebral. Avoid unnecessary interactions with your workmates but be kind and cordial. Don’t speak ill of any one least it gets to the person bcz some workmates want to sour relationships especially if they are jealous. Once you learn that someone is petty and jealous, catty and competitive avoid them at all costs. Don’t be rude to them. Just silently ignore them and their rude remarks. Don’t date workmates, if someone makes sexual advances, tell them that you are not interested and if they insist you will have no option but to talk to HR about the harassment. Be very private about your personal life. Very. Being mysterious breeds respect.
Most workplaces are toxic so you may go out of the frying pan into the fire. Divest, manage your expectations, pray, get your emotional needs met elsewhere and you will be fine.
Most of the time men endure toxicity at the workplace because of family. you think about degrading their lifestyle and choose to endure the hardship at the expense of your mental health.
Lakini kama ni bachelor, unawacha hio job mbio and survive as you look for a better one.
Hata hii sio rahisi hivyo. At times mtu hauna a strong support system(financially). yaani uki resign kama hujapata soft landing utahema ushangae.
just quit
utakonda na sterss na utupe pesa kwa meds
Ondokea kazi, upee wenye hawatambui toxicity.
Bora pesa mzuri kazi ni kazi, wewe shinda hapo ukiropokwa bora utoboke.
Dont quit unless the owner ndio ana stress wewe. But if its fellow employees usiende. This is because fellow employees are also scared of losing their jobs. Most likely they are being toxic as a way of survival.
Instead kuwa kichwa ngumu. Be the guy who is not trusted to deliver results quickly. Be the guy who eats in the office and doesnt give a damn.
Fika job late or after almost everyone arrives. Omba watu pesa and dont pay back. This ensures that they avoid you. Yaani just be a kichwa ngumu. Worst that can happen is that hautakuwa unapendwa kazini but you will have a piece of mind.
Shida is that we were never taught how to stand up for ourselves. Then tunaambiwa that we are desperate and need to shikilia hio job. Believe you me even the big bully boss is also scared of losing job, ata mwenye comapny is scared of going on losses, everyone is scared not just you.
Lakini kama ni bachelor, unawacha hio job mbio and survive as you look for a better one.
This is what I did sometimes back. And we keep saying here usioe kama huna mpango and like 3+ streams of income mnaona ni jokes.
I found wazee hapo who had worked for 15 years they had no choice adi wanapigia boss magoti na kutusiwa but kesho wanarauka mapema saizo Mimi nko kwa my desk nmevaa earphones I care not
Finally siku job iliniboo nlikua nafanya vitu intentionally adi nikafutwa ndio nilipwe kila kitu na hiyo ndio kitu nlikua natafuta for the last three months na si ati I had another job only savings. I went to my friend tao who had his own shop nkakua kama messenger wake nsikue idle buti had my freedom and peace of mind before I figured and navigated my way through life
Don’t be caught up in the rat race. Thanks God I learnt this early enough.
Sasa hii ndio kuingia Karura forest at lightning speed.
In this world, you’re either a slave or a freeman. I’m nobody’s bitch, I always have plan B. Never been employed but even while working with other people (e.g suppliers) I bolt at the slightest hint of madharau/toxicity. There’s always a better option. I’d rather make a short-term loss but ultimately build a fulfilling long-term professional relationship.
lucky you mtoto wa mummy. hapa kuna watu wanaenda hope wanapata bibi na watoto wamengoja alete food.
I have had people out here coming to me crying that i get them a job some even at graduate level tarmacking for 2+ years, i wouldn’t advice you to quit until you get another one or have a business/ investments that can cover your expenses
Separate job from yourself. Shida sometimes huanza ukichanganya personal life na kazi. Watu wa job hawana any business na your personal life, high chances watakudharau wakijua. Second, boss kama ni mbaya…tafuta option ingine.
EXIT PLAN muhimu sana. Strategize on how you can quit and move on swiftly. Otherwise, you can take a risk and end up in tears a few months later.
But you had a place to go… your Mama. Most people either stick with it ama waenda mashambani.