[SIZE=5]They demand maternity fees for their wives and hate you like satan – Maina told about toxic relatives[/SIZE]
Maina Kageni and Mwalimu King’ang’i spoke about a topic that affects most Kenyan homes. That of relatives who pocket watch and expect you to give them money when they need it.
Maina asked, “Today we are talking about toxic relatives. Relatives who open WhatsApp groups to talk about you, who think your money is theirs. Guys, do you have toxic relatives and how do you deal with them?”
King’ang’i felt that one’s duty was to help their relatives when they needed it, saying, “Its your duty to help your relatives na wakikuja kwako kukaa wakaribishe.”
Most Kenyans however agreed that they had met toxic relatives, some of their experiences are below:
“Relatives are the worst kwanza side ya bwana. They think you are millionaires hao wako ushago hawajui venye nyinyi mnasurvive. You can become poor because of these people.”
Toxic relative’s will even demand for maternity fees for their wives and if you don’t they hate you like satan. It’s like you’re the owner of the pregnancy. I know one he even says his sister’s hate him cause he’s poor
“Generational debt is what’s pulling people down that’s why it becomes hard for people to succeed because you have an entire clan to feed.”
There is a time to help and a time to step back and let them experience their own consequences. It’ll be incredibly painful to watch and they may even try to guilt you into “helping” them.
This is where you need to implement boundaries and stay firm. “My wife and kids come first the rest can wait. Mimi kuniweka WhatsApp group nitatuma 50 bob hakuna shida. I want to urge people to put their families first.”
Some relative’s can be very toxic!! They will even destroy or misuse what you’ve sweat for in the name of “ako na pesa atanunui ingine”!They demand everything like they are your first priority.
Relatives some of them are full of burden and toxic the only person I can do anything for her is my mum and my brother the rest watch my back I don’t entertain nonsense and evil minds.
You have to say enough because this relative can make you die and they start saying alipata pesa nowadays amekua na maringo
“Maina toxic relatives are there! Helping is part of life but know it gets to a point you become enemies because they start demanding for things. They think you don’t have priorities.”
Relatives some of them are full of burden and toxic the only person I can do anything for her is my mum and my brother the rest watch my back I don’t entertain nonsense and evil minds.
Most of them make you feel like you owe them…do they even know the struggle of earning that money?
Today am even unable to changia to the topic… i have lots of lazy cousins especially side ya my dad… the most annoying thing is that no one is lame …they all can work but kuomba omba kwanza end month is on another level kwanza they lack manners they demand
Nothing good like having such pipo, dawa yao avoid & stay far away from them.