@Lionheart kuom utoe maoni banae
It’s a long one. I need to listen to it first
Tuwekee summary.
@ Truman Capote:
@ Lionheart :
Having constantly endured endless condemnation , scorn and disparaging remarks from all and sundry in here …
Perhaps now you can all begin to understand my motivation , passion and desire in my noble “CSR” activities with these hapless “Bibi Wa Mtu” trapped in Loveless , Thankless Unions with immature , unskilled Juveniles … :D:D:D
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…" … Come Unto Me all Ye who are suffering and heavily laden , I shall give You much needed Rest …" …:D:D:D
This girl pushed with a guy for a while, then she went to Dubai for 3yrs, still in the relationship, came back and married the same guy, had a child together. All the time he was very nice and giving, but he took away all her freedom. Her friends became his friends, her salon became his salon and her phone became his phone–ati unawekea bibi simu ndio ujue anaongea na nani. Finally she left after she was told he was having a parallel secret family.
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I think she was too docile, and possibly insecure too. She allowed him to do “everything” for her that money could fetch, but he in turn enslaved her. She must have been excited to be back home to settle and raise a family, and possibly ignored his controlling behaviour because she had been away toiling and lonely for long.
She doesn’t say it, but I believe she was scared of being direct about his affair, coz they never really thrashed out the problem. She says she had told him he could do whatever he wanted, as long as she didn’t know. So it seems he felt he was set, as long as he covered his tracks.
She simply could not have failed to know she was being emotionally blackmailed, I think she was only shielding herself from pain.
I think the guy has very serious insecurities–he wanted to hold on to her tightly, taking her everywhere, knowing who she’s talking to every time, and keeping her phone himself, as he eats fruit elsewhere–yet she had lived out of the country for years without him!
You cannot control an adult like that; not for long. There is no respect when you get so intrusive as to check a spouse’s calls and messages. The other person won’t be free–and if you aren’t free you’ll feel it, no matter how materially comfortable you are, or how nice a person tries to be to you.
If a person wants to wander off there’s nothing you can do about it–and someone who feels trapped will try to escape. It seems the real reason for quitting was not that he had the other woman, but that he showed the wife madharau, and even allowed the girlfriend to call the wife to report that “they” were having a baby soon.
The psychiatrist is part of your CSR too?
Treatment and Therapy must be holistic in order to produce good results…
My record in this arena speaks for itself … :D:D
Hm, hoe-lish stick indeed.
Mind You ,
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Some of these are prominent people’s Wives and pillars of society in their own right …:D:D:D