Do you have a Favorite Child out of all your Children?
First Natural emotion is for all of you to get all defensive and stump your chests in a chorus of .“i love all my children equally! Bla bla bla fcuking BLA!”…
But if you are Honest with yourself (at least), you will accept that among all your children,there is one that you totally relate to as being a “mini you”…
You look at them and you can actually see yourself in them from the very day they are born!
You even understand their cry from day 1 and even when they keep you awake all night when you have to go to work first thing in the morning,it doesn`t irritate you or depress you…
You are one with their feelings and in your eyes,they can do no wrong!
Then there is the other “cry baby” who seems to have never shut up since you brought her/him from the hospital and they sound just like their Mother!..
You know its your baby But you cant seem to form a bond Hard as you try and as they grow older,you can actually see the distance in their eyes as you try to play/goof around with them.. They are irritable and they dont get your sense of humor…
When they are older,you seem to only notice them when they are in trouble for one reason or the other.
And yet you have another who jumps at you when you get home and you live for those moments when they sit on you and literally attach themselves to you no matter how tired you are!
They will cry at the thought of you leaving them to go to work while the other/others don`t even seem to Notice your Existence…
Parents; Can anyone Relate to what im talking About?!..
Hii yako ni special papaa. I have two kids and honestly i feel like i love em equally; could be the age factor…coz they are small, but i really doubt theres anything that can make me see them differently. Ofcourse nangoja utundu from the small boy in the near future…
Children are just children. I come from a close knit nuclear family. So your question is like asking me who is more dear to me among my siblings. When I look at it, I dont see who is lesser or greater in my eyes despite their unique characteristics and different genders.
The question should have been, do you think parents have favorite kids. Most of the audience here have had more experience as children than parents. To introduce a slightly different angle, some cultures name kids after grandparents. In some situations, the parents and grandparents will favor those kids whose names belong to their side. I happened to be a victim of discrimination whenever I visited the shags where my name did not belong. From this experience, I promised myself never to name my child after anyone.
Its almost a Taboo subject and i can understand why people would shy away from even confronting the fact that it goes through their minds!
Worse still; For men,it reawakens the thought that this could Actually Not be your Baby which is why you are failing to Bond.
In these days… DNA Kit ni Muhimu if you ever get these doubts.
