This is my dilemma

1776 · May 28, 2019, 5:09pm

So, there is this kaissue niko nayo.

1777 is 1.5 years now, and he can say things like baba, papa, dada, tati, gigi, gugu and other junior words. kwa ufupi, he’s picking up language.

Towards the close of last year, I noticed that the grandma on the mother’s side, was actively talking to him in their language. I pulled the mama1777 aside nikamuuliza tu polepole, ambia grandmithe asiongee na mtoi lugha ambayo sielewi juu akianza kuongea, anaweza aanza kubonga kitu sijui then we’ll be unable to communicate (sorry for the long sentence).

the mum said hiyo si kitu anaweza mshow. so i told her if you don’t do it, then i will. and a few weeks later, I asked the mum politely and she was agreeable. (WIN).

FF, the grandma is here on visit. she’s been around for the past 3-4 weeks now. when I’m in the room, I can hear her talking to the kid kwa lugha yao. i’ve been keeping quiet about it. i asked mama 1777 aende aambie mamake what I mentioned. she said “wee wacha tu just bear with her juu hiyo lugha ndio amezoea”. I refused. Again, if you don’t tell her, I will.

Juzi, I heard her and I went and asked her again politely the same thing and she says politely “huyu atajua kila kitu, lakini kiswahili sana sana. nataka ajue kila kitu”. i carried my boy and took him for a walk.

Nikifika home, I check my phone, messages kibao kutoka mama1777 saying that I have lost respect for the elderly and that I’m causing tension in the house. I was reading the texts like o_O. The grandma doesn’t talk to me in her language. She easily speaks swa or very pure english. We can sit and talk about history of Kenya and many other political issues. In other words, “we cool”. she’s one of those that shrub with an accent :D:D.

So I’m being “guilted” (nice try) into feeling that I’ve lost respect for the aged. my question is, did I do something wrong?

[SIZE=1]*don’t send guka anything.[/SIZE]

LePhilosopher · May 28, 2019, 5:14pm

Why is your wife’s mother living with you for upwards of 4 weeks? Tuanzie hapo.

You were not on the wrong. That upuzi can make it difficult for you to have a bond with your son due to language barrier in the long run.

Motokubwa · May 28, 2019, 5:16pm

1776:

So, there is this kaissue niko nayo.

1777 is 1.5 years now, and he can say things like baba, papa, dada, tati, gigi, gugu and other junior words. kwa ufupi, he’s picking up language.

Towards the close of last year, I noticed that the grandma on the mother’s side, was actively talking to him in their language. I pulled the mama1777 aside nikamuuliza tu polepole, ambia grandmithe asiongee na mtoi lugha ambayo sielewi juu akianza kuongea, anaweza aanza kubonga kitu sijui then we’ll be unable to communicate (sorry for the long sentence).

the mum said hiyo si kitu anaweza mshow. so i told her if you don’t do it, then i will. and a few weeks later, I asked the mum politely and she was agreeable. (WIN).

FF, the grandma is here on visit. she’s been around for the past 3-4 weeks now. when I’m in the room, I can hear her talking to the kid kwa lugha yao. i’ve been keeping quiet about it. i asked mama 1777 aende aambie mamake what I mentioned. she said “wee wacha tu just bear with her juu hiyo lugha ndio amezoea”. I refused. Again, if you don’t tell her, I will.

Juzi, I heard her and I went and asked her again politely the same thing and she says politely “huyu atajua kila kitu, lakini kiswahili sana sana. nataka ajue kila kitu”. i carried my boy and took him for a walk.

Nikifika home, I check my phone, messages kibao kutoka mama1777 saying that I have lost respect for the elderly and that I’m causing tension in the house. I was reading the texts like o_O. The grandma doesn’t talk to me in her language. She easily speaks swa or very pure english. We can sit and talk about history of Kenya and many other political issues. In other words, “we cool”. she’s one of those that shrub with an accent :D:D.

So I’m being “guilted” (nice try) into feeling that I’ve lost respect for the aged. my question is, did I do something wrong?

[SIZE=1]*don’t send guka anything.[/SIZE]

wewe ni kabila gani na cucu ni kabila gani?,tuanze hapo,juu kama cucu ni pure blood lazima mtoto ajue the language of gods liwe liwalo

The.Black.Templar · May 28, 2019, 5:16pm

Ofcourse you are on the wrong…is there more between you and the grandma that you are not revealing? Btw snatching the child from the grandma means you are the immature one.

If any problems arise in your family you will have yourself to blame 100%. Why dont you make an effort to learn the language!!

kush_yule_mnono · May 28, 2019, 5:16pm

Tena sanaa. Now a days kuna diversity, and for a small kid it’s an added advantage to know all the languages he/she can master to survive in todays world. Alaf hapana chunga mjunia hivo kama kuku ya mluya and lastly heshimu wazee. Ni hayo tu kwa sasa.

WuTang · May 28, 2019, 5:17pm

Why is he even staying in the same house with his mother in law? Kwangu hio upus haiweskani.

The.Black.Templar · May 28, 2019, 5:17pm

My bet is that the grandma is kikuyu

Nimejam_bado · May 28, 2019, 5:18pm

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Greedy_Genius · May 28, 2019, 5:18pm

This is my opinion, and I know it is trash to other people, 1777 is lucky to learn an indeginious language. Personally I wish I could speak more than just English and Kiswahili. I always feel uncomfortable meeting my relatives because they have to use English or Kiswahili around me so that I can participate in the conversation. But they always slip into mother tounge and keep apologising to me for forgetting that I do not speak their mother tongue.

scotch · May 28, 2019, 5:20pm

The challenges of intermarriages. So long as he carries your name na hajabatizwa zingine don’t fret. Just limit the time he gets exposed to such. And in-laws are destructive ,msizoeane

Motokubwa · May 28, 2019, 5:20pm

in other words ,wewe ni pseud-jaluo?

Greedy_Genius · May 28, 2019, 5:22pm

I am not a luo.

Mshutaji_Hodari · May 28, 2019, 5:26pm

Your wife will always side with her side of the family. So hapa itabidi pia wewe ulete your mom akuje kuona mtoto.

kush_yule_mnono · May 28, 2019, 5:26pm

Hehehe …

wood · May 28, 2019, 5:30pm

1776:

So, there is this kaissue niko nayo.

1777 is 1.5 years now, and he can say things like baba, papa, dada, tati, gigi, gugu and other junior words. kwa ufupi, he’s picking up language.

Towards the close of last year, I noticed that the grandma on the mother’s side, was actively talking to him in their language. I pulled the mama1777 aside nikamuuliza tu polepole, ambia grandmithe asiongee na mtoi lugha ambayo sielewi juu akianza kuongea, anaweza aanza kubonga kitu sijui then we’ll be unable to communicate (sorry for the long sentence).

the mum said hiyo si kitu anaweza mshow. so i told her if you don’t do it, then i will. and a few weeks later, I asked the mum politely and she was agreeable. (WIN).

FF, the grandma is here on visit. she’s been around for the past 3-4 weeks now. when I’m in the room, I can hear her talking to the kid kwa lugha yao. i’ve been keeping quiet about it. i asked mama 1777 aende aambie mamake what I mentioned. she said “wee wacha tu just bear with her juu hiyo lugha ndio amezoea”. I refused. Again, if you don’t tell her, I will.

Juzi, I heard her and I went and asked her again politely the same thing and she says politely “huyu atajua kila kitu, lakini kiswahili sana sana. nataka ajue kila kitu”. i carried my boy and took him for a walk.

Nikifika home, I check my phone, messages kibao kutoka mama1777 saying that I have lost respect for the elderly and that I’m causing tension in the house. I was reading the texts like o_O. The grandma doesn’t talk to me in her language. She easily speaks swa or very pure english. We can sit and talk about history of Kenya and many other political issues. In other words, “we cool”. she’s one of those that shrub with an accent :D:D.

So I’m being “guilted” (nice try) into feeling that I’ve lost respect for the aged. my question is, did I do something wrong?

[SIZE=1]*don’t send guka anything.[/SIZE]

What is wrong with your kid learning other Kenyan languages?? I always wish my kids could learn as many languages as possible… Usiwe wale watu wakuwa mentally enslaved ati you would rather watoto wako wajue French and German lakini wasijue kimassai na kikamba.

sakwa · May 28, 2019, 5:33pm

1776:

So, there is this kaissue niko nayo.

1777 is 1.5 years now, and he can say things like baba, papa, dada, tati, gigi, gugu and other junior words. kwa ufupi, he’s picking up language.

Towards the close of last year, I noticed that the grandma on the mother’s side, was actively talking to him in their language. I pulled the mama1777 aside nikamuuliza tu polepole, ambia grandmithe asiongee na mtoi lugha ambayo sielewi juu akianza kuongea, anaweza aanza kubonga kitu sijui then we’ll be unable to communicate (sorry for the long sentence).

the mum said hiyo si kitu anaweza mshow. so i told her if you don’t do it, then i will. and a few weeks later, I asked the mum politely and she was agreeable. (WIN).

FF, the grandma is here on visit. she’s been around for the past 3-4 weeks now. when I’m in the room, I can hear her talking to the kid kwa lugha yao. i’ve been keeping quiet about it. i asked mama 1777 aende aambie mamake what I mentioned. she said “wee wacha tu just bear with her juu hiyo lugha ndio amezoea”. I refused. Again, if you don’t tell her, I will.

Juzi, I heard her and I went and asked her again politely the same thing and she says politely “huyu atajua kila kitu, lakini kiswahili sana sana. nataka ajue kila kitu”. i carried my boy and took him for a walk.

Nikifika home, I check my phone, messages kibao kutoka mama1777 saying that I have lost respect for the elderly and that I’m causing tension in the house. I was reading the texts like o_O. The grandma doesn’t talk to me in her language. She easily speaks swa or very pure english. We can sit and talk about history of Kenya and many other political issues. In other words, “we cool”. she’s one of those that shrub with an accent :D:D.

So I’m being “guilted” (nice try) into feeling that I’ve lost respect for the aged. my question is, did I do something wrong?

[SIZE=1]*don’t send guka anything.[/SIZE]

Let’s the kid learn as many native languages as possible. I support the grandma on this one. You are being petty. So if your kids grows up and learns French and German in school does that mean you cant communicate anymore?

LePhilosopher · May 28, 2019, 5:34pm

Manze it’s very weird. I can maintain good conversations with her for like 3 days maximum and after that it will be awkward silences. In 2 weeks i will be avoiding the house completely, nafika 12am na kutoka 5am.

thesavage · May 28, 2019, 5:36pm

Do not live with your mother, and do not live with your mother in law. Do not invite those two to live under your roof. Never. Unless you do not value your peace, and the peace of your wife.

pohpohpoh · May 28, 2019, 5:37pm

2 > 1

sakwa · May 28, 2019, 5:38pm

Your relatives are soooooo nice. I speak my native language when with relatives who speak the same irrespective of the number of people in the group who don’t get it. And yes am smarter and make more money than 99.9% of the fuckers who could not learn a single Kenyan language