The voluntary making of a single mother continued

So I went about acting on my plan. I took a few months just to be very sure. It was afterall the biggest decision of my life.
I stopped using contraception and got pregnant. I immediately informed the father and he thought that it was obvious that we would marry.
I set him straight and told him no such thing would happen. He was devastated. I offered to let him be a part of the child’s life and he jumped at the chance. He provides materially and also has a great relationship with his son who is now a grown up. I was well able to provide for him on my own but I let him participate. He is now married and has other children.
My son has the best of both worlds in my opinion. There are positive male role models in his life, my dad, brothers and his own father.
For me life has been great. I have had a few long term relationships without the burden of commitment and never compromising my relationship with my son.
I still do what I want when I want and I don’t apologize.
Ps. Open to all kinds of feedback

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eerr…ama wacha tu.

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You cheated and one day you pay heavily if not your own son !generational sins

You are just a selfish human being btw.

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So you are saying your garden cannot be dug by one Jembe all through :mad::mad::mad:

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…I have a simmilar friend but yeye hakuambia baba mtoi, kid is 3 months now. Both doing well

So your son has a female surname, and you have a male surname? hivi ndio mashemale hutokelezea katika jamii yetu.

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Problem with this society is that they have to agree with your lifestyle to like you, yet you might have a really awesome personality. Your lifestyle your choice.

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Lol…so she stole the dudes sperm but no biggie…mafisi never leave your sperm kwanza nyinyi mnajiona porn star ati kumwaga all over her face…atameza uskie alipata mimba…:D:D:D

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I just know what I want and go for it. Sioni shida

Though there’s no sure way to raise a child there are some constant things. A boy needs a proper father figure. The kids grandpa and his uncles can not be a substitute to a father. And sometimes a father that pops up once in a while is sometimes worse than having no dad around. Your son will process this in his mind to mean that the dad picked some other family over him. And when he eventually finds out that’s not the case he will take it out on you.

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Hebu talkers drop that “im holier than thou” attitude.

I know more than 20 women who chose to be single mothers because of various factors, mostly age and no potential suitors in site. And they went ahead and did it (no trapping) and they are doing ok.

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How did I steal? Alimwaga ndani, voluntarily.

I know of kids who grow up in horrible two parent homes. You don’t have to look too far. Those where the parents fight constantly feeling they can’t leave for any number of reasons. Others are alcoholic parents @uwesmake
Others are promiscuous etc
I gave a very peaceful home to my son and he grew into a well rounded man.

Ulimwambia uliwacha kutumia contraceptives…ama you just forgot…

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True, when a child especially a man grows up without a male figure it will shake his confidence to the core and he will have to deal with a lot of self esteem and personality issues growing up,they resent both parents,in the US, with the single mother issue being at its core,these kids are joining gangs to find an identity as a man,they had no male figure to have an example to emulate and to ground them,but if raised well they turn out good,Obama says that his father not being around affected him, he came to Kenya to get closure on what happened

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So are you now a sugar mummy since your son now has a family if his own?

still a fake story to me.

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One thing that gave me a sense of belonging and ownership when young was seeing my father and mother emerging from the same room every morning.

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