Thanks Ruto for making our lives too hard to tolerate anything besides your high taxes. Maisha ya kuvumilia na mwanaume tawe! Then akipata dough ? He goes for his type?! Mimi mblo kama you are not the provider sitawezana! Ata ukuwe provider bado sitawezana! I have enough problems of my own and I am too old and worn out for this mess!
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Hmmm…Probably applicable to all women but more so black women! A shame what he did though
Just find who cherishes you that’s all…
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"So now you understand exactly what I mean when I talk about the tolerance wife™️.
And no, I’m not saying it for ego.
I’m not saying it for clout.
I’m saying it because it is life-saving, reputation-saving, soul-saving information for women 
especially Black women.
Ladies, hear me clearly: Only marry a man who sees you as his dream woman.
If you don’t, you become what Brian McKnight’s ex-wife became: the woman he tolerated, not the woman he wanted.
Brian McKnight told the whole world — unprovoked — that he never loved the woman who stood by him, supported him, built with him, birthed his children, uplifted him when he was a struggling artist.
Do you understand how violent that statement is?
She could have been the second coming of Christ.
It wouldn’t have mattered.
Because if a man “never loved you”, you will pay for it every single day until the relationship collapses.
Many men will marry what they need, not what they want.
They will marry the woman who stabilizes them so they can chase the woman they fantasize about later.
And Brian McKnight is exhibit A, B, C, & Z:double_exclamation_mark:
He married his first wife for stability.
For image.
For family.
For partnership.
For need.
But he married his second wife because she represented the fantasy in his mind & look what he’s done:
Publicly disowned his own children
Dismantled his legacy
Renamed himself legally
Made a newborn “Brian Jr.” while his original Brian Jr. is alive
Risked career, respect, and reputation
And talks about his ex-wife like she never existed
FOR THIS woman.
And don’t miss the hypocrisy of the century:
His second wife is older, divorced, and came with grown kids.
But Black women are told every day:
“You’re a single mom? Trash.”
“You’re over 30? Washed up.”
“You’re divorced? Used goods.”
“You’re only good for casual sex.”
But let a non-Black woman have kids by multiple men, be over 40, be divorced twice — suddenly she’s “valuable,” “elegant,” “deserving of love,” & “worthy of a man rebuilding his whole world around her.”
Make it make sense.
Jeff Bezos married Lauren Sanchez — older than his ex-wife, divorced, with three kids by two men — and nobody batted an eye.
But Black women are being told to accept crumbs while everyone else gets forgiven, celebrated, & chosen.
Let’s keep it honest:
Men only tell YOU looks don’t matter when they want you to settle LIKE a tolerance option.
Because every man has a “dream girl.”
And when he finds her, NOTHING stops him.
Brian McKnight showed you that.
He had no problem burning down an entire legacy for the woman he actually wanted.
What did she build for him?
Did she carry him?
Did she uplift him when he was broke?
Did she birth babies for him before fame?
What did she bring to the table?
Nothing.
She was just what he wanted, not what he needed.
And that alone was enough for him to commit crimes against his own reputation.
Meanwhile YOU Black woman are being interrogated with “What do you bring to the table?”
A man who needs you will always resent you.
A man who wants you will move mountains for you.
This is why I tell Black women:
Be his want.
Be his inspiration.
Be his fantasy.
Be his dream.
Stop signing up to be a man’s emotional crutch, placeholder, therapist, roommate, or stability package.
A man who actually wants you will:
Claim you
Protect you
Prioritize you
Honor you
Risk comfort for you
Build legacy with you
And never hide you
A man who tolerates you will drain your soul & call it “love.”
This year 2025 is the Year of the Phoenix.
The Year of the Empress.
Black women, RISE.
Stop begging for scraps when you are the banquet.
Stop settling for men who need you when you deserve the man who desires you.
Because Brian McKnight just proved the point I’ve been screaming:
Nothing can stop a man who truly wants you — and nothing can make a man love you if he doesn’t want you"
