The Late Tecra Mungai :My advice for watu wetu wa bara

When you go to live in the Coast, you will meet so many different types of people. Kuna sisi watu wa Bara, visiwani kuna wameru wengi, mainland wakamba, pande zingine wajaluo kuna mijikenda wakristo, mijikenda animists, waislamu wabanjuni, waarabu and the rest. Of course kuna wale hawana dini na pia wenye dini Yao ni mazinga ombwe. Ushirikina.

I was a regular visitor at these places bcz I liked that it wasn’t as urban as Mombasa and it was smaller and more intimate but as you know, when you are a visitor so much is hidden from you that you can only know as you continue.

I don’t blame Tecra at all bcz sio bure wanawake wanapenda wanaume wazee especially mwanaume amelea watoto wakawa watu wazima they’re very different from age mates, sababu wameona life. They are very patient, they are fatherly bcz sometimes they even treat you as their child. Ask any w who has dated like a widower 20 years older than her, they are so different from age mates and if they are genuine they even want to mentor you, watakwambia baby I will make you great. Wanakupa personised attention enye babako hawezi kukupa. Wakupatie advice. Do this. Don’t do this. Then they are usually free, they want you to meet with their kids and their parents, they are more into family than younger people. So it’s very easy to fall head over and they can manipulate you like nothing coz they understand everything. They understand what a woman your age wants. They have raised kids. They have been married they know psychology of women.

So it be a good experience or very bad. After some time you start realizing that this person is too controlling. He is not flexible. He has alot of things he is thinking about. He is worried about so many things. Basically he has alot of baggage. Meanwhile you all you want to do is just do what people with time and money and no kids or parents to worry about do. Take it easy and enjoy life. Most of the time a woman will go back to age mates to recapture the innocence of youth.

Now when you are mtu wa Bara in Coast, don’t date Coastarians unless you are sure ni watu wa dini and from good families bcz many Coastarians are looking for a jackpot in form of a man or a woman. Majority don’t see the need for school bcz they have the mindset of kupata mzungu and their life will be made.

Coastal people ni watu wema, wakarimu but hio culture of waiting for a wealthy mzungu is their undoing and majority of the role models are people who are married to wazungu or being sent for money from Europe or such kinds of passive things that don’t require alot of work. People assume Coastal people ni zuzu bcz of masomo but Hawa watu mtoto wa class 8, form 1 anajua like 7 foreign languages, anajua kitaliano, kibelgiji, kifarasa name it. Very brilliant people.

So kama saa hizi hakuna wazungu, mzungu sasa ni watu wa Bara. Before hawakua na haja nao but right now after terrorism and Corona, like TZ say wakenya wa Bara ndio wazungu.

So if you want to get into a relationship ukiwa Coast jaribu watu wa Bara, avoid mtu Hana bcz huko ukioa mtu you have to feed his or her entire extended family if you are more well to do than them.

Then huko ni kwa charms. Huko ndio experts wa love portions. If want ya kuenda na mzungu wako majuu, ukae huku akutumie pesa, or akuwe anakuja once in a year coz you are married already, akujenge, kila sector na mganga wake. When it’s high season huwa wana toka mikoa yote ya uchawi mkali and come with their brokers from all over to look for men and women who need matibabu. High level witchcraft from Sumba wanga. Kwanzaa once you make a mistake and have sex, there goes your soul into a bottle, you have given legal right to your life to witch doctors. Just keep distance and stay closer to God. Make sure you wake up between midnight and 3am to pray b4 mambo za Allahuakbar zianze interference in the spiritual realm. Marine spirits are real.

RIP Tecra. Nobody counseled her and warned her and probably she was not going to a strong church considering her mother is a 3rd wife and she worked at a brewery. Which is a very big sin. Anyway the judge is God, may He have mercy on her soul.

This is just a bunch of nonsense. Witchcraft? Mazingaombwe? Really? Is this how iliterate Africans justify or explain accidents, poor upbringing, mental disorders or poor decisions?

I expected better reasoning from a person who claims to be a PHd holder, lakini inaonekana your thought process na ile a bodaboda rider or mogoka eater like @kush yule mnono haina tofauti. Why waste time and money going to school if you’re still going to see life through some archaic, brainless and ignorant lenses? U think ati kuna mtu aneza kukuwekea ‘dawa’ u take them to europe or america? REALLY??

Tecra was just a spoilt kid who thought that the world is her oyster just because her mum is one the country’s biggest tax evaders. What happened to her could still have occured whether she was in Kilifi, Malindu, Tanga or San Marino. Its is called POOR UPBRINGING na UJINGA!

Niwache, am fasting

Kweli…Mdigo, mzigo vile

Let me comment before nisome the whole story. I am currently at Lamu, work related stuff. Huwa napatana na the so called boyfriend of Tecra Karibu kila siku nikiwa shughuli zangu hapa na pale.

Na huwa namsalimia everytime nampata, and he would respond nicely even though hanijui. Guess what, in all my encounters with him, he is ever barefooted, it might seem strange to you but this is a normal culture in coast. I was even shocked the first time my friend pointed him saying he is the guy who was dating the daughter of keroche breweries owner! Waah, couldn’t believe it. However, hapa coast have come across many single dads and mums with kids halfcast ya wazungu.

Now let me go back read your posting

These are things that I learnt in my years long living day to day among them. As I mentioned somewhere I saw my own workmate, a guy who had his own young family abandon them over a woman who you could not believe. She would even cheat openly and have her bfs call the guy and tell him, endelea kutulishia Bibi. He was so frustrated and would swear to leave but couldn’t even after his wife relocated to be with him. He still went to the other woman. There are very many cases even of women going there with their family once they make it they are duped by a poor man who used charms on her to get their money. Btw kuna PhD in African Religions as a contemporary area of study so it’s an area modern scholars are studying. If you ever live there and see live cases of people you know you will understand. I also never believed it till I saw it happen to people I knew.

During peak season TZ sorcerers come over and even politicians and rogue pastor’s also visit them for charms to attract church members and voters. I doubt they would have customers if their charms never worked for anyone. In prostitution you can’t compete sans charms. Anyway you can believe whatever you want but it’s true.