The BOY CHILD Conundrum.A single mother's Guide....

system · January 27, 2018, 10:47pm

Giving birth for a man is a huuuuuuge decision and sacrifice. Having his child means you are forever linked to that guy by blood. How many people think critically about the permanency of kids when doing the do…Think about it, women actually die during childbirth alafu unazalia muguruki mtoto ovyo as his what!!! No way sis… Me I was never fascinated by kids maybe coz our parents didn’t buy their daughters ‘dollies.’ Kuna conditioning ingine girl child hupewa ya kulike watoi by being cajoled into playing with other people’s children. Like you said, one has to be prepared mentally because kids are forever.

uwesmake · January 27, 2018, 11:34pm

before marriage i had a rule that i cant be in a serious relationship with a woman for more than a year without impregnating her , after a year kama hana ni kumchuja uzuri nikapata bibi on time but wale walikuja i make sure nawashugulikia though bibi hajui . this year lazima niwachukue . but one thing i know ule msapere atakuwa president 2062 atakuwa na kura ya watoi wangu fulani

Kiboko_yao · January 28, 2018, 4:58am

That’s my life mantra.

Kryptonite · January 28, 2018, 5:31am

Life has so many rules, ati usiolewe before sijui which age, perfect time of giving birth between 28-30, mara ukizaa after 29 watoto wanaweza patwa na downs syndrome, ukifika 27 uko expired. Girlchild tukona sida!!

Alchemist · January 28, 2018, 6:01am

The girlchild mantra was long hijacked by feminism with the worst intentions. One of which is to make otherwise good women have an hatred towards so called rules. They then try independence and suffer. If you have a child you cannot afford independence. If you Want independence avoid pregnancy… also abortion is a big no.

system · January 28, 2018, 6:43am

Purple:

Well said! I think the biggest problem with ladies is assuming that being over 18 means you’re adult, that you’re mature enough to date and give birth. IMO, people have no business having kids before 28-30 years, regardless of gender. Early to mid 20s is perhaps the trickiest age range coz you’re considered old enough by society but you’re not quite there yet. When I think back to my 25 year old self, I’m astonished at the personal growth many years later. I have cousins who are single mothers, oh dear I see the sh#t they go through to raise their boychildren from dead beat dads.
Parenthood is the toughest experience in life which sadly, many people get into without adequate mental, psychological and financial preparation. For me, the best decision I ever made was not to have kids early. Even now I’m rather ambivalent about motherhood. I was able to focus on my career without too much drama although it was tough not to give in to pressure of being “labeled.”Children need loving, married, employed, spiritually grounded parents to thrive in this bad, sad world. Poor decisions lead to single parenthood, poverty and unruly kids…tis unfortunate! Delayed gratification ni muhimu sana.

Nataka coomer

Hesabu · January 28, 2018, 1:08pm

If you Can’t put up with the father, you will have no choice but to Live with the Son.!

My ex girlfriend just phoned me up crying about what antics her son has been putting her through.
Haka kakijana I know him from when I used to shag her mom back in the day after she got dumped by some Naija guy.
He is a grown man now just turned 20.
Shule amekataa, job hataki and he won’t move out of his mum’s house!

Jinga wants the latest iPhone, trainers etc. Juu all his friends have them.
But he doesn’t have the money so he is an easy target for serious criminals who need to push drugs with the promise of iPhones, trainers and even a new BMW 645 Convertible for the bravest recruit!

He is soon deep in the criminal world and he’s just 20!

The mum that I used to bang and who is now a single mother with more exboyfriends than Kim Kardashian stands by helplessly counting the number of police raids carried out on her house.
All she can do is look on and get embarrassed worrying about what the neighbours are saying.

Her son is now a major drug dealer!
But how does a mother abandon her son?

She can’t!
So she has no one else to turn to apart from Me!

I want to sympathize and I’m trying to!
But I’m now a father of four children that I don’t live with.

I am a now a bitter father of two sons that could easily turn out just like her son!
Not because I choose to.

But because just like my exgirlfriend, my baby-mommas will get with other men who will pretend to get involved in their kids lives only to abandon them and leave them broken!

Then my son will now become that boychild that my exgirlfriend is banging on about!..

When are we as Africans learn that we are the Victims of all these media brainwash spread in the name of Feminist empowerment?!

The white women may party and be in all the craziest videos on xvideos while in their twenties but believe you me, by the time they hit their late twenties, they all get married and raise families with their men. Some may later turn to whoring in their later years after their kids are grown.

Black/African women think that Feminist empowerment means dumping your man at the first argument because Beyonce and Oprah Winfrey said you’re being abused!

After all, the White man’s government by virtue of the law of the land will see to it that your man’s dignity is reduced to nothing!
He is left homeless and in time jobless with no choice but to turn to addiction and homelessness.

Then you think that you can raise a man who has never had a Father figure to look up to?
That you will be the perfect mother to a boy who never knew anything but the fear and contempt you treated his father with?!

The evolution of racism continues.
First,we were slaves picking cotton and now we are drug dealers and prisoners!

And all the while, our own women quietly betray us.

It’s time for the African woman to step up to the plate and be counted!

You either stand by your man or be prepared to raise a Halfwit excuse of a man.

( End of rant!)

Wahenga walisema mwanamke ni tabia. (@Uwesmek and other fisis will read mwanamke ni labia)

Anyway, moving on, I never dismiss the sayings of our forefathers or what we generally call proverbs/methali. A proverb is the accumulated wisdom of countless generations. If generation after generation have observed and concluded that a foolish woman is a source of problems while a wise woman is a blessing on top of a blessing best believe that. She must clean and cook and do so willingly and cheerfully, otherwise walk away boss!