Circulating right now is the detailed four-page letter by Mr TM detailing how his wife, CW of Coop bank Westlands, has been having extra-marital affairs with three of her colleagues. He names them plus various dates, locations and actions.
He attaches maps showing her movements and time spent at various locations. He cites CCTV footage, WhatsApp messages, hotel receipts, secretive HIV tests, past pronouncements and office behaviour patterns to prove her infidelity.
At the end of his letter to HR, he mentions that they have three little kids and has the presence of mind to remind coop bank HR that he has been kind enough to withhold explosive evidence that can knock them from the seats holding their ample behinds, straight into orbit.
I don’t know who this guy is, but he is a man who clearly has not fully maximized his capabilities. If he had, she wouldn’t be cheating.
Either he is out of shape, is broke or doesn’t prioritize his looks. A woman cannot cheat on a man who has money, is in good shape, and looks good: she would be too busy mate-guarding him because other women would be after him. Yes, a woman can still cheat on a guy who has it all.
Why would he care if he had it all? Her replacement would just be waiting.
Do you think Diamond platinums would care like this if one of his baby mamas was cheating?
Don’t get mad. Just understand female nature for what it is.
That’s number one.
Two, he is blue pilled and still believes that women who are married don’t cheat. He should reset his beliefs and understand that women cheat and why they cheat. What makes him think the HR people he is reporting to aren’t dealing with their fair share of infidelities?
He should equip himself with the tools he needs to navigate marriage as a man who is married to a modern, career woman who regularly interacts with men of higher SMV than him. It’s always a possible trainwreck around the corner – that’s why men of means insist on their wives being housewives. Some of those fellaz at the watercooler are bottom feeders who can’t wait to smash other people’s wives. It is what it is.
Three, he should mind his own business. You don’t waste so much bandwidth tracking a grown-ass woman while you could be in the gym, chasing your purpose or otherwise maximizing your potential. He has made that woman his focus, not his complement, and this sets him up for pain. If he focused on himself, he wouldn’t care so much. Remember, even if you care she will cheat. Better spend that time building yourself and having other options. Never put yourself in a desperate situation guys. Women are good helpers but treacherous masters.
By making it his business to chase her, he is playing a losing game.
Four, you cannot keep a woman. Don’t waste time playing CSI – ironclad evidence of cheating cannot make a woman loyal. Jeff Bezos was the richest, and he was left. A woman decides whether she will stay or leave. Your job as a man is not give her reasons for staying in the marriage. Your job is to put yourself first, make yourself your mental point of origin and maximize your potential.
Nothing else.
Five, he lacks an abundance mindset. He believes that if she leaves, he will not fare well with his three little kids, and he voices this fear in his weak appeal. This is a man who hasn’t faced adversity and operates in scarcity. He needs to develop options – a man with options is not necessitous and doesn’t behave so cravenly. He should believe he is capable and understand that whatever doesn’t kill him will make him stronger. A man cannot afford to be tied to certain outcomes in life. Life can throw anything at you. Take your wins together with your losses.
Bro, hypergamy doesn’t care about kids.
Six, once he has realized she is cheating, as he has, he should accept that his turn with her is over and contemplate his future with that new reality. Nothing ever truly belongs to a man in this world. He should gird his loins, accept his loss and walk away or alternatively prepare for the necessary split. Because it is coming. Guaranteed.
A smear campaign against her, long-ass letters to strangers publicizing his loss will not lessen the pain or win her back. Nobody cares at the end of the day bro. Its your pain. Just stand in your ruins and start putting the pieces together.
If she thinks the grass is greener on the other side, cool. Let her monkey-branch. Wish her well.
Get back to rebuilding yourself. The best revenge against a woman who cheats on you is to win in life.