Got a call on Friday.A very good friend of mine from waaaaaaaay back in Mombasani has died.He had gotten married and moved back to Nai.They were living somewhere in Kitengela.Kufika huko,I learn the shock of my life.The guy starved himself for three days,then locked himself up in one of the bedrooms and gulped 1litre of whiskey and died.Wife is five months pregnant.They live a very nice life,tu doggie tu white tutatu,nyumba ni massionette kubwa ya 4 bedroomed yenye walikua wanalipia mortgage na wife,but wife has been paying since apoteze job.While there,I met many pals we were with in Mombasani.They all shared sob stories of how they all separated from their wives.Kept me wondering why I was so generous with wedding contributions.Kwanza Kuna mwenye nilitoa 50k banae.sikuizi ex wife wake anarombosa fb na ndume ingine.Mwinginenaye wife went back home time ya COVID coz jamaa alikaukiwa kwa bizz aka suggest waishi kwa mzazi until things get better.
I stopped using fb along time ago.I just decided to log in and check out the posts of these guys.Happiness tupu.But of late they have been posting deep wisdom quotes.Made me conclude that if you see a man posting deep quotes he must be going thru sheet.
Made me realize that I have been taking things for granted.Mimi na wife only went to the AG,harusi ilitukosti only 45k.We are still together 7 years later.Wenye nilichangia arusi za 800k wachana banae.Hizi wedding kubwa ni scam kweli.
While at my late pals place,a bro in law to him threw a comment ati unaona hio gari,Haina engine, the late aliharibu akashindwa kutengeneza.Just thought to myself that such comments contributed to his suicide.I mean how was he supposed to repair the car without a job.Its a tough world out here maze.RIP my dear friend.
The day men will start being selfish and ruthlessly pragmatic like women, then cases of suicide will significantly reduce.
All the married men reading this, please save some money just for you.
Mambo ikiharibika nyumbani bibi aanze madharau juu ulipoteza job, you can easily restart your life military style.
It doesn’t have to be something fancy.
Ukiwa na huku reserve you can easily start your life with very little money bila stress as you look to restart your life.
Depression is real out there and males are the hardest hit. Dwindling financial fortunes, peer pressure and kunguru wives have only exercabated the situation.
Pole kwake na familia.
It seems kazi ilikatika his a/c reading negative after spending his fortune on kungurus and booze, kisha akakopa bila kujua mwezi hautaisha akiwa kazini.
Coast has endless temptations esp kwa Wabara.Unarudi jinzi ulikuja.
Pole maisha ni hivo. I have buried three doctors na hii story ya wanawake. One was a smart chap you paid him a visit incase there is a concept we did not understand. Painfully his soul rests in his ancestral land ile vitu alipitia till he took his life… Mwingine alipata accident i think he just wanted to ram his car into a ditch…the other one we suspect was murdered by the wife’s clande tulifollow up hakuna evidence it was declared a natural death and autopsy was inconclusive. I understood that life is a gamble you can never be sure of anything no matter how prepared you are or how large the knowledge youve got.
Hii shida haiko coast pekee…iko kila mahali bana.
Halafu is it just me or are guys marrying at a younger age…courtship pia 1 2 years jamaa ame oa…hata na salo wasiwasi kijana ana wanotify amepachikana harusi tunaye…another thing are breakups becoming messier ama…siku hizi watu wanawachana na maumivu majeraha kifo na kadhalika…civilised breakups are extinct…na isitoshe siku hizi si 7 year itch…ni 3 year itch.
Something is wrong with the planteshen.
Siweki hekaya…ju hamta amini…but men are getting the short end of the stick big time.
Weka hekaya please
Maisha ni noma hapa nje. Tusaidianeni elders. Ukiwa na stress kuja hapa inbox afew sensible elders and vent it out. Wanaume wanakufa na stress coz ya kujiwekea mashida trying to handle issues like men. Me nikiwa na stress i share with two of my close friends and i feel better
Nishatoa kalamu na kalatasi. Hekaya ikuom tushukue notes…
Nirushie kakitu elder Niko na stress
haha nimefika mapema kuweka stamp. Nimemaliza kutombana 20n minutes ago nikapeana fare na token aende until Next week. Angali vile majamaa ya planteshon inajuiua kishenzi shenzi in the name of depression. Yote tisa, MGTOW=Free Agent Lifestyle
:D:D:D is that why sexapedes zako zimepungua nowdays? Hauna hekaya kama kitambo
It’s the new age of social media. I don’t know how it contributes but it’s the only thing doffere that from our fathers’ days
forrowing
Na settle deeper kwa planteshen banae.Mtoi alianza shule maze.CBC sio mchezo.Pesa inaingia nakutoka.
Make hay while the sun shine. Chunga mzuri hiyo kazi ama biashara inakulisha, don’t take it for granted, things can change anytime. Make sure you are saving every month, ndio if things go south ukona kakitu at least.
Also apart from your mother, and maybe your blood brothers and sisters, no one else care about you;not your wife nor the in-laws or your friends. Huyo bibi ama rafiki mambo yako ikiharibika they will most likely abandon you.
When you love yourself, nothing and no one is going to make you commit suicide.
The first part is true, I have seen instances where people have worked for the betterment of their siblings, being abandoned by the same siblings when they hit hard times. You are your only backup, depend on yourself, save for the rainy day.
This guy had a favorite quote ‘live laugh love’ that he would occasionally throw pale fb ama status za whatsapp.Always struck me as having his sheet figured out.Suicide yake ime nihit vibaya maze joh.
the modern/western marriage arrangement is selfish , shallow , superficial and wanting… 70% divorce rates apana macheso and should tell you something…