For those who browse manosphere literature, I am sure you might have come across the theory of parentification, where children (mainly male), from single parent households take the burden of being a surrogate spouse.
This is why the Kijiji is full of Hekayas from the likes of @Baby Panay and @Bingwa Scrotum after walipigwa mangumi na kijana ya singo matha after attempting to kuingiza mama yao box.
Anyway here is an excerpt from the blog.
“Spousification of a child, also termed parentification, refers to a dynamic in which parents turn to children for emotional support while ignoring the child’s developmental needs. When a parent replaces their partner with his/her own child in order to meet their own emotional needs, the relationship becomes exploitative in which the parents’ expectations exceed the child’s ability meet them. But the painful truth remains that the spousification of the child is not a reciprocal relationship, and it’s a passive form of emotional abuse which often goes unnoticed”.
Nasikia kuna toxic single mothers ambao hata huwa wanavalia nguo mbele ya teenage sons. Kijana mkubwa anazoea kuona uchi wa mamake. This can really mess up a man.
But psychology before the wokeness era crept up had plenty to say about that.
Here is an excerpt from a psychology study done in the 1940s…
"“if the infant’s needs are not fulfilled, e.g. through separation from the mother in the first year of life, his future may be threatened by vegetative dysfunction, and disturbance in object relations and ego structure”.
A growing child should never see his mother in a sexual way. If the mother somehow fails to hide her sexuality say by bringing multiple men to the house and doing ‘bad manners’ in front of the child, the boy is damaged psychologically beyond repair. Studies in the US show that some of these boys easily become serial killers of prostitutes because they want to ‘punish’ their mothers for their bad behavior…
